"Im Sorry", who says it first?

@sechsey (1836)
Canada
January 25, 2007 3:54am CST
I find it hard to apologize first to anyone. I have too much pride in me to actually say the words. I prefer showing it by making up funny stuff or being affectionate to my partner. Its often times a cause of lenthening arguments as well. My partner always apologize to me first whether or not he did something wrong. He makes amends and calls whenever it happens. because he told me if he waits for me to say it, it will just prolong the agony and makes matters worst. Do you feel the same way? Do u have a hard time saying sorry? Do u say it first or not?
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@maryannemax (12174)
• Sweden
25 Jan 07
no. i am the kind of person who can easily accept my faults. when i know i did something wrong, i ask for forgiveness and when i do it, i mean it. in my relationship with my boyfriend, i always tell him how sorry i am if i hurt him in anyway. and when it's him to did something wrong, he opens up and tells me how sorry he is.
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@sechsey (1836)
• Canada
25 Jan 07
That is actually a great attitude towards asking forgiveness and forgiving each other especially in a relationships. I am aiming to make myself better in that aspect. I know itl be a little difficult at first but I will get there.
• United States
30 Jan 07
I am the one that always says it first. It bugs me too, but my husband really won't say it unless he really did something that hurt me badly, then he will say it.
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@sechsey (1836)
• Canada
10 Feb 07
Im like your husband.:)
28 Jan 07
I'm not the kind of keeping false pride and making matters worse! Whenever I feel that I have done something wrong, I'm the one who apologise first. Most of the time it dilutes the situation soon, eventhough I may have done some terrible things. I had to apologise a lot of times to my mom. So even she knows that whatever happens, it won't stay long between us. So i'm the kind of a 'break and make up' person. But I have seen other people who seldom errupts, but once errupted will never calm down!
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@sechsey (1836)
• Canada
28 Jan 07
I think that is a great attitude. To eb able to easily apologize to someone and accept your faults. Some people, like me, still find it hard though. :(
@aroraasr (428)
• India
25 Jan 07
As far as my hubby is concerned, I dont mind him saying I am Sorry whether or not I have done any mistake but in case of others I dont feel like saying it even if it was my fault.
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@sechsey (1836)
• Canada
28 Jan 07
I know the feeling...:)
@kgwat70 (13398)
• United States
25 Jan 07
If I know that I said or did something wrong then I do not have a hard time saying that I am sorry. Sometimes in the heat of the moment we say or do something wrong so I would apologize if I said or did something bad. Otherwise I do find it hard to apologize, especially if the person tells me that they did not appreciate my comments or remarks.
@sechsey (1836)
• Canada
25 Jan 07
It is also hard for me when they tell it to me right after that I did something wrong. Its harder for me to admit my mistakes by then. Do u wait a day to apologize when you know you did something wrong? Sometimes for me, its a delayed reaction. Its only when i have time to think about it do I realize i did something wrong and I need to say sorry. It might be hours later when I have time to ponder on it or the next day when i felt guilty. There are also times when I get to say sorry right after but only after a little talk between each other or I am not just filled with pride by then.
@dixielol (1581)
• United States
22 Feb 07
Well, to be honest, I never say "Im sorry." I dont really know if it is because of pride, although I do know thats why I can never admit when Im wrong. see my family is odd. If we get in a fight no one says they are sorry. Instead we just dont talk for a few days, then it's forgotten about. No one ever apologises. Just like we dont say "I love you" I dont ever recall my mom saying that & I dont ever recall tellin her or my sis that. I guess were just not the verbal type. I am like you. Instead of sayin "Im sorry" I usally end up just tryin to joke around to ease the tension. I really cant remember ever sayin that to anyone. Well, not after an argument anyways. Like if I raise my arm & hit them, then I'll say sorry. but not after an argument. I just wait around for them to say it. Dont know why, thats just how I am. Im not sayin its a good thing or a bad thing, but its me, thats for sure.
@lucy02 (5017)
• United States
10 Feb 07
I say it first often. I sometimes over react to things especially with my husband. He also says "I'm sorry" first too sometimes so its not just a one sided thing.
@stonehr (818)
• Croatia (Hrvatska)
31 Jan 07
Sometimes is really hard to say someone 'I'm sorry' but if I felt so much guilty simply I must say that and then is from my heart....