My daughter is on anti depressants :(

@ausnikki (4054)
Brisbane, Australia
January 25, 2007 4:11am CST
I got a call from my daughter this morning telling me she is getting too stressed in her job and she is feeling really depressed.I told her to make a doctors appointment to get some help.My daughter has been prone to depression but has always managed to pull herself out of it before,not so this time.The doctor has given her Zoloft and has taken blood to test for a chemical imbalance in her brain.She gets the results next week.I'm questioning whether the Doctor was too quick to give her the anti depressants.What do you think?.
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• India
25 Jan 07
it is nothing to worry because anti deprassants oare not so bad that it will affect the brain but we know any thing is not good for nothing so beter avoid medicines ask her to do some mind relaksing yoga asans
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@rhinoboy (2129)
25 Jan 07
Depending on your daughters state at the time, the anti-depressants may have been an emergency action to make sure she's ok until the test results come back. Sorry to hear this, and I hope she feels better soon.
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@caramello (4377)
• Australia
25 Jan 07
Depending on how severe your daughters depression is sometimes a little help can get her back on track. In the past I was put on Zoloft but it did not agree with me so I took myself off it. For a short time it can be a solution but tests are important and keeping track of her progress.
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@caramello (4377)
• Australia
25 Jan 07
Distance between you both would be hard ausnikki but you are there in another form and to be able to communicate and keep it going is a big plus as support is the best thing for now until an answer is found.
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@ausnikki (4054)
• Brisbane, Australia
25 Jan 07
Yes,caramello you're right she does have my total support and she said to her b/friend this morning that she was going to ring the one person she knew would understand (me).So she knows I am there for her in whichever way I can be though we are in different states.She knows she can ring me anytime and I will be there for her.
@ausnikki (4054)
• Brisbane, Australia
25 Jan 07
I don't think it's too severe,though not being there I don't know for sure.Just from talking to her though she doesn't seem to be as bad as she has been on other occasions.Time will tell I guess.I'm hoping the blood test will shine some light on the problem.I just feel so helpless,with her being in Brisbane and me in Melbourne.
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
25 Jan 07
No Ausnikki it is better he puts her on them if she is bad like your Daughter I always had Problems with stress and depression due to a lot of things and then I got that bad through a few things I had to go on them I am still on them due to circumstances I think the ones she is on are only mild ones and funny enough my Daughter has just been put on some mild ones to again she is getting herself a bit stressed out over things
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@ausnikki (4054)
• Brisbane, Australia
25 Jan 07
Thank you gabs,I feel a little better.My main problem is that I am not there to hold her and tell her things will be ok.Being a mum I can't help but worry about my baby :)
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@ausnikki (4054)
• Brisbane, Australia
25 Jan 07
Thanks gabs,I had a quick chat to her online this morning.She seems to be doing ok. Love and hugs
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
25 Jan 07
Yes I know as I am the same I was fortunate to still be here and hold my Girl and she seems to be picking up now just make sure you talk to her as often as you can Love and Hugs to you
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@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
25 Jan 07
I am on Zoloft myself and have been for a couple yrs now and its done wonders for me....my son who is 13 has been on Prozac for a couple yrs now as well and it helps him...Just because you dont think it was as bad as previous times doesnt mean it isnt if not worse....Chances are she has put on that fake smile for your sake so you dont over worry yourself being her mom and all..If being on meds DOESNT help, I'm sure the doctor and your daughter will act accordingly, but if they do help then thats great BUT I have to say that just takin the meds isnt the solution..if things are getting that tough for her she needs to get into therapy to figure out how to deal with the issues at hand....
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@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
25 Jan 07
and remember too that though she said to you it was work related...for all you kwo there could be (and probably are) other things that have contributed to her depression...She is your daughter yes BUT that doesnt mean she tells you everythign ya know....I'm thinking there are other factors causing this (especially since this isnt her first bout with depression) that she just didnt mention to you
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@ausnikki (4054)
• Brisbane, Australia
25 Jan 07
I'm sure you're right that there are underlying issues,I just wish I knew what they were.It could partly be that she is no longer living at home and is in a completely different state to the rest of her family.And of course being her Mum,I will worry about her reguardless.
@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
25 Jan 07
oh naturally you will...LOL I'm a mum and I dont think my worries will ever end ya know...my two will be in their 40s and I'll still be worrying about them ;-) Chances are her being away from the ones she loves really is a huge factor...thats a serious change, how long ago did she move?
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• Canada
25 Jan 07
Well I to suffer from depression, it started when I was about 22 years old. I think something to be aware of is that once you start antidepressants, its very hard to get off them. Some of them cause withdrawl, like paxil, and some of them say that you can even slip into a deeper depression once you quit taking them. I myself take Paxil, and tried to stop once, but the side effects were overwhelming. I wonder if a job change is possible for your daughter? Or are there other factors that are causing her depression to. You said she has been depressed before, so maybe an antidepressant is the right choice for her. One more question was this the same doctor she has always seen, or is it a different one? I ask this, because maybe he sees a pattern, with her past symptoms, and thats why he prescribed the medication. Take Care, Snippitygirl
@ausnikki (4054)
• Brisbane, Australia
26 Jan 07
This is a new doctor as she has only beeen living where she is for just over two months
• Canada
26 Jan 07
Well I think I would seek out a second opinion then. I don't think after just one visit that he has enough of a history to go on. It never hurts to get a second opinion.
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@rubypatson (1841)
• India
26 Jan 07
She can fight depression on her own too, if she is worse then let her take the medication for immediate relief, then you can advise her to fight any kind of thoughts that leads to depression ask her to have only positive thoughts or good ones, the bad ones she must fight to remove it from her mind, she can try meditation i believe in prayers, that can give us the inner peace that no one else can give
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@ausnikki (4054)
• Brisbane, Australia
27 Jan 07
She has been fighting it on her own for years.I think now is the time to get some help.I just want to be sure it's the right help.
@brokentia (10389)
• United States
26 Jan 07
If your daughter is that stressed and depressed, then the medication may help. Why not offer a bit of assistance if she is struggling? If the blood tests come back that there is an imbalance, then the doctor should be able to better treat her. If it is negative, then I am sure that he will only have her on the medication until she is ready to face the world without chemical help. We all need help from time to time. We just have to know when to ask for help. :)
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@ausnikki (4054)
• Brisbane, Australia
27 Jan 07
I am trying to assist my daughter as best I can,I'm certainly there if she needs someone to lean on and confide in.Financially I am unable to help her as I am not finacial myself.We will have to wait and see what the test results are and then we can get her the help or medication she needs.I am very proud of my daughter asking for help as she is very independant and stubborn and usually refuses help,so this is a big step for her.
• Philippines
26 Jan 07
You can always get a seccond oppinion it is your right. But you should always be there for your daughter everytime she needs you. Talking to somebody is always a good thing.
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@ausnikki (4054)
• Brisbane, Australia
26 Jan 07
I am always there for my children when they need me!
@slimes (353)
• Ukraine
26 Jan 07
Ok is good to use antidepressant but i have say something hope she is upto eighteen because Zoloft might be heavy on her......You can also read articles from http://www.aclepsahealth.com/aclepsa/html To see other antidepressant and ask your doctor if that is favourable for her My doctor always refer me to this link
@ausnikki (4054)
• Brisbane, Australia
26 Jan 07
Thank you for the link
@missytia (387)
• Australia
25 Jan 07
I'm so sorry to hear about your daughter. I hope she will come out of it soon and get the help she needs. Personally, I think that most doctors are too quick to prescribe anti depressants. In most cases I have seen, anti depressants have been prescribed to treat the symptoms of depression, but nothing is done to fix the cause. So, eventually when a patient comes of their medication, the depression is still there at the REAL problem has not been treated. I believe that anti depressant medication should be used as a short term solution whilst fixing the underlying problem.
@ausnikki (4054)
• Brisbane, Australia
25 Jan 07
I'm assuming the Zoloft is just until a proper diagnosis has been made via the blood test.I was suprised when she told me she had them though.
• United States
25 Jan 07
love cares all problem.I think this way to avoid evils
@chrchldy (41)
• United States
26 Jan 07
I think u should take the time and go with her.maabie ther is things she cant remember do to the depression. as a parent it is our duty to make sure our kids ore ok body soul sprit. ose she know the lord Jesus Christ he is the healer of all deseases consider takeing her to church with you and get some quality time together. i hope i helped you and i will be praying for her every night till you respond she is healed .
@ausnikki (4054)
• Brisbane, Australia
27 Jan 07
Thank you for your prayers,it is appreciated.I can't go to her appointments with her as we live in different states but if things don't improve I will be suggesting to her that she comes home so that I can help her better.
• India
26 Jan 07
hey ausnikki.... i really think it has been to early ....my frnd is a doctor too...i took her consent on this matter...she said that it is quite possilbe due to overwork..all that she needs is a break frm her tight schedule...ask her to go on a holiady to a nice place....i hope it helps...all the best
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@ausnikki (4054)
• Brisbane, Australia
26 Jan 07
Thank you,it does help.She has actually quit that job now.
• United States
26 Jan 07
Ugg, I think doctors are too quick to give all kinds of medication these days. If this had been me, I would have not accepted the medication. Personally I don't think a regular medical doctor should be able to diagnose depression. If she had waited for the test results and determined there was a chemical problem then I could see putting her on medication. As far as diagnosing her after seeing her for the first time about it, no way would I take them.
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@ausnikki (4054)
• Brisbane, Australia
26 Jan 07
My daughter isn't taking them at the moment,we decided between the two of us that she should wait and see what the blood test results are first.
@ghalayini (122)
• Australia
26 Jan 07
Thare are so many people on anti depressants nowadays. I wish you ever blessing for your daughter
@ausnikki (4054)
• Brisbane, Australia
26 Jan 07
Thank you
26 Jan 07
My sister suffered with bad depression so my mum put her on a high doseage of vitamin B complex. The change in her was amasing. When she would forget to take it we would see her change again into quite a depressive state. I am not saying this will be the case for your daughter, but maybe it is worth exploring other avenues before letting her become reliant on anti-depressants. My mum definately has a chemical inbalance and she does need to take a very mild doseage to stop her feelings of dread. However, when I was younger I was prescribed anti-depressents and it made me worse. I looked into alternative therapy, especially cognitive behavioural therapy and I was able to mentally beat my depression through this. Maybe before your daughter resigns herself to taking medication she could look into the alternatives that maybe useful to her needs. My advise is keep an open mind and do not always go with or believe what your doctor is telling you!! I wish your daughter all the best. I know how she is feeling and it is a very lonely and confusing state to be in.
@ausnikki (4054)
• Brisbane, Australia
26 Jan 07
Thank you,I will be looking into alternative therapies
• United States
26 Jan 07
The fact that you said your daughter has been prone to depression before should make you think. You may think she has been able to pull herself out of it before..but has she really? How much do you really know about this? She could be hiding that simple fact from you. When she went to the doctor, she was probably way more honest with him than she has been with you, which lead him to his decision. Doctors do know what they are talking about, and the prescription was based solely on what SHE TOLD him during her visit.
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@ausnikki (4054)
• Brisbane, Australia
26 Jan 07
You are probably right,she does tend to bottle things up.
• Australia
26 Jan 07
I have no experience on it.. but I guess the doctor wants to help your daughter relieve some stress that she is feeling.. if it was left too late.. it may be harder for him to cure her.. so I guess it should be okay to be on anti depressant for until the results came back.. As her mom, I know that you must want to help badly.. just be there for her.. be a friend to her and support her.. together you will be able to get to the bottom of what causes this depression.. although she is taking the medicine.. having you there supporting will help improve her conditions...
@ausnikki (4054)
• Brisbane, Australia
26 Jan 07
She knows she has my full support and I am there whenever she needs me.
@Debs_place (10520)
• United States
26 Jan 07
You know a several years ago, I would have been quite concerned about this type of treatment too. I have a chronic medical problem and pretty much live in constant pain. After about 2 years of it, I was having a difficult time coping- downsizing at work, single Mom with a somehwat difficult teenage boy, chronic pain. Nothing major but together I was on the verge of tears all the time. Doc gave me some Wellbutrin, the change didn't happen all at once, but about 2 months later several people commented that things must be going better (they weren't) but I seemed less tense and happier. If they help her, don't discourage it.
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@ausnikki (4054)
• Brisbane, Australia
26 Jan 07
I won't discourage it,I just want to be sure she really needs them.Therefore I think she should wait until the blood test results come back.
@dld999 (118)
• United States
26 Jan 07
Doctor proscribed medication is certainly a good thing to consider, especially when symptoms or conditions are more serious or acute at a specific time - to help break someone out of a low point. But I would also encourage that she be sure to drink enough clear, pure water each day to ensure that her blood and other fluids (including medications) circulate efficiently through her system: 4-6 glasses during the day, no more. She might also consider some form of physical activity, anything from an aerobics class to tai chi, qigong, or simply walking to shift her attention from her mind to her body, and for better health too. Of course, none of this is medical advise but just helpful hints I've picked up along the way. Hope this helps some.
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@ausnikki (4054)
• Brisbane, Australia
26 Jan 07
Thank you,it does help