I dont know what to do...
By nicejah12
@nicejah12 (75)
Philippines
January 25, 2007 5:27am CST
Women out there will you give me advice? Nowadays My husband and I always compete to each other. I dont know where will i put myself when it comes to explaining my opinions or ideas. I dont even have a chance to defend myself. He always proved me wrong. Is it okay to shut my mouth and let him continue doing that to me? whats the best thing to do?
4 responses
@sunny2010 (24)
• China
25 Jan 07
First:listen to him carefully
Second:If he are right,do. If he are wrong,tell him patiently.
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@nicejah12 (75)
• Philippines
25 Jan 07
thats what i do everytime we quarrel. What i cant do is to depend myself..
@ShadyGrove (996)
• United States
27 Jan 07
well I think you could start expressing your thoughts/opinions with your friends and co-workers and build some confidence that way.
What would your husband do if you disagree or argue with him? He wouldn't become angry and hurtful would he?
I think you should start on small things and build up your ability to stand up for yourself. He'll need time to get used to the new you, so start small and keep at it daily.
Good luck.
@nicejah12 (75)
• Philippines
27 Jan 07
thanks for the advice! do you know what i did this afternoon, i never paid attention to what he said, i want him to feel the way i felt everytime he ignore my opinions. He stared at me, maybe thinking why did i do that to him.. Then at last he calm down and asked me, do you love me? I was shocked.. I never thought that, that was his thinking by not paying him attention.. I am more confident now, knowing that my husband learned to get his feet on the ground...
@mishang (498)
• Philippines
25 Jan 07
hey girl, i think that everybody is entitled to their own opinion and i think that your husband should respect your opinion and that he should be the number one guy that is suppose to do that. I think that you should not back down, you should also express yourself, because in a relationship, it will always take two to tango, so it really is a little one sided if husband only talks while you shut up. both should have the right privilege of saying what they have to say.
But of course, things doesn't have to end at what both of you have to say, i think that the two of you should have some counseling so that both of you can grow and learn as a couple.
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@dulin08 (23)
• United States
5 Feb 07
I think you need to be able to say what you think and feel. You are suppose to be equals in this relationship, it's not suppose to be all about him all the time. Is there a reason he feels that he needs to behave that way/ low self esteem, or maybe he feels like he doesn't get enough attention? Again he isn't a child, so maybe you could talk to him about how you feel, that you love him and value his opinion, and you learn alot from him but don't feel like your opinions are valued.
