How to break up with a cheating man?

United States
January 25, 2007 3:12pm CST
I have been told by several that the man is cheating. The girl is a good friend of mine and she has came to me to. When I ask him he lies and does fess up. What would be the way to get away from this. I sill love him deeply and we live together and there is no family around. HELP ME!!!!
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@babyhar (1335)
• Canada
28 Jan 07
Save your sanity, get out now! Trust me if you stay around it's only going to get worse for you.. But in reality you only do have two choices! You can either forgive him for what he has done.. And move on with him.. Or the second choice would be.. If you don't trust him know longer you honestly probably never will ever again. And sooner or later the relationship will begin to fail. And you two will have to go your separate ways. I have seen to many people who have stayed with people whom have cheated on them. And it only continued over the years. The person never ended up changing & after they had decided to move on.. They had honestly felt like they had wasted a lot of there life away by staying with the person who had cheated on them.. I personally have been cheated on before.. And once someone has done this to you.. Has broken your trust it's to difficult to trust them all over again.. Because the thought of him/her being with someone else while the two of you are together.. Stays with you forever! Quite honestly you are stronger then you may think right now! And a lot of women out there in this world have gone through what you are going through.. Trust me on this one.. Don't stay with him just because you may feel like you won't find someone again.. Or any other reasons out there! If you do stay sometimes by doing this you will just be even more miserable & the person whom you are with will take advantage of you in the long run! At the end of the day you need to ask yourself this question.. Can you just forgive & forget him for what he has done?! . . That is the question only YOU can answer! Sometimes when someone has cheated on you before, they will do it again! If you decide to go your separate ways.. Just remember that there is someone better out there for you! In conclusion if you do end up going your separate way & decide not to be with this man further more.. Just keep in mind that time heals all wounds.. And you will learn to trust men again in the future.. Though it may take some time.. Not all men are the same.. Always remember this quote.. "What doesn't kill you, always makes you stronger." Thanks for allowing me to share with you my opinions/views. I wish you all the best. Only you know what is best for you at the end of the day! All the best of luck! xx
• United States
28 Jan 07
Thank you very much and I wish I didn't give away the best reponse b/c your #1 all the way . Thank you so much and god bless!
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@sweetcakes (3505)
• United States
25 Jan 07
i feel your pain and i'm going through the same thing.but the difference is i'm married. and im confused on what to do.
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• United States
27 Jan 07
I have no idea. It is that I love him.
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@msqtech (15226)
• United States
1 Feb 07
it isnt a real relationship if it is one way to protect yourself you have to leave
@cheenlly (3483)
• Philippines
28 Jan 07
sometimes its the love that make us hold back to decide whether to break up but for me if its too much no matter how painful it is and love the guy if it is about cheating i would really break up the relationship. Is it because if we dont respect ourself and just let the guy always do that they will just abuse us and still we are the only one who will get hurt unlike if we free ourself at first it hurts but when it heals you can move on and can find someone who is deserving. If you stay then the pain will still be there forever haunting you. Caught him on the act and then break up.
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• United States
28 Jan 07
Thank you for the response and he is going to get it. Believe me!
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• India
28 Jan 07
I fu are married to him, then i suggest u to take him to a psychologist else try to talk to him about this once more and if he lies again just tell him that u hate him and never wanna be with him
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• United States
28 Jan 07
Well we are not married and thank god. I have done what I can to try to make him happy and even had to be put on Prozac b/c how crazy he was making me. I think that I will be okay though. For now, There is more fish in the see right. Thank you for the response.
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@chiyosan (30205)
• Philippines
27 Jan 07
talk to him directly and set things straight. tell him that for the last time, of you caught him cheating then, you are through!
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• United States
28 Jan 07
Thank you for the response
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@anyutza (138)
• Romania
26 Jan 07
I think that a relationship without trust isn`t worthing.so ,leave him.You`ll find another guy who`ll desearve u.Good luck!
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• United States
27 Jan 07
thank you.
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@Ravenladyj (22937)
• United States
26 Jan 07
Look I understand that you love him deeply BUT its obvious he DOESNT love YOU so do you really REALLY want to be in a relationship thats only one sided and one that KNOWS he's going to screw around on you, possibly unprotected which could mean STD's passed to you on an extreme level HIV/AIDs or even him ending up knocking some chick up? Dont you think you DESERVE BETTER than that? Arent you worth it? If you stay with him he WILL KEEP DOING IT...why do that to yourself? Why settle for less than the best and less than what you deserve and are worth? Why hold yourself back from finding REAL TRUE love by staying with this guy? I say dump him..I think you should tell him something along the lines of "I love you SO much but I deserve better than what you have to offer. Its obvious you dont feel the same way cause if you did you wouldnt be screwing around on me. I dont want to be with someone who doesnt respect me or love me, I wasnt put on this earth to entertain you and I am worth so much more than what you give me...so p!ss off, pack up and get out I'm done" OR you could be a lot harsher and far more crude but I figured I would hold off on sharing that LOL cause I can be VERY crude and blunt but to the point of offensive to some in here I'm sure ;-) get out....give yourself some breathing room and crying time then pick yourself up, realize your beauty, your strength and your worth and move forward...
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• United States
27 Jan 07
Thank you very much. What you have said to me has really helped me and I hope you the best and I will get through this and know it is b/c of you. Thank you so much.
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@kabella50 (309)
• United States
28 Jan 07
If you are positive and you are not just going by word of mouth then ask some of your friends if you could stay with them until you can get your feet on the ground.
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• United States
26 Jan 07
You say "I'm breaking up with you because I know you cheated on me"
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@msqtech (15226)
• United States
1 Feb 07
I just think if my partner is cheating I just leave them and take my stuff