Do you leave a job that you love, for a job that pays better?

United States
January 25, 2007 9:57pm CST
I love my job as a home health aide, but the money is not all that great. The insurance is too expencive, and doesn't really cover all that my family would need. I recently learned of a position that opened up at a state hospital, the money is a lot better and of course you would have the insurance that is provided by the state(the best around if you ask me). I love the people that I take care of who are almost all mentally handicapped and some of them are physicaly handicapped. I would miss them if I leave, but when do you say enough is enough? I am surviving, and my children are on Medicaid, so it's not like they don't have insurance. But when do you say I love but I have to jump when the chance comes? My residents are very understanding, and they know that I have children to take care of, so I think it would hurt me more than them. But what if I don't like it? Is there truely no turning back? Do I worry about my feelings, or my health and wealth? Any input would be greatly appreciated. THANK YOU
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@nangel78 (1459)
• United States
26 Jan 07
I currently work in banking after getting laid off from the state two years ago. I did not think I would love it or be there for as long as I have been so far, but I do like it. This is is due to the fact that I have worked at way worse. It never hurts to take a chance and see what else is out there. I have done that and do not regret it. You never know what you will find.
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@smkwan2007 (1038)
• Hong Kong
26 Jan 07
If your present financial situation is okay, change is not necessary. But it is only my superficial judgement. You should list the advantages and drawbacks on both jobs and evluate which one is the best choice. Suppose you really need more income to make ends meet, you should jump to the job at a state hospital. Otherwise you should cherish the joy in your present work enviroment. Anyway it is your life, you should make your own decision. Other poeple's opinion may not be the best choice for you.
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@men82in (1270)
• India
26 Jan 07
I agree with what you say. Its one's own choice to take up other's opinion
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26 Jan 07
yes i did this and i did a wrong i should of stayed at the job i was with,, but now have a new job starting next month for home office cant wait and more money
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@xXmeganxX (4423)
26 Jan 07
hi it seems to be hard to choose, last year i was doing a restuarant job it was quite easy but could be hard at busy times, it was a good job for me and i enjoyed it but also the salary was good too, i was quite lucky to have a job like that! :)
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@Stephanie5 (2953)
• United States
28 Jan 07
I think that which ever you pick would be good. If you like your current job, then just give notice and if you end up not liking the other job, you should be able to go back...Good Luck!
• United States
28 Jan 07
THANK YOU for the good luck wish I feel I may need it in the end. I still am torn between what is better, and what is right? are they the same thing?
@sizzle3000 (3040)
• United States
26 Jan 07
I have been very lucky in my life. I started out in an office making good money but I was miserable. I got married to a great man who has a full time job. I quit my office job and took a job working in retail. The money is terrible but the people I like and my boss is was great. I learned new things every day and met new people every day. However, I have a husband bringing in a steady paycheck and can afford to do what I love. At this time I am not working at all. You on the other hand do not have the luxuary of doing what you want. You must think of your children at all times. You are their only support. If you are not making enough money to keep you and the kids in food, clothes and a roof over your heads then you must take a higher paying job. My cousin was a single mom and she worked some terrible jobs but she had no support from her daughteres father. She survived and my niece is 19 and has a great job in the medical field. Who knows you may take this high paying job and you may like it. Life is full of changes some for the good some for the worse. I think manybe you should at least try the job and then if you don't like it try and go back to the other. I think if you put your best foot forward you may find that you are as my mother puts it borrowing trouble. Take the job and go forward. I hope with all my heart that you make it and I am sure you will be fine.
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• United States
27 Jan 07
I am surviving, but it is a struggle. My children come first, and I would never do anything to jepordise my childrens welfare. I only hope that I am able to put them through college like your sister. thank you for the positive encouragement.
@jennifer611 (2500)
• United States
26 Jan 07
If you have a chance to do better for yourself and get a better paying job, I say do it! especially if you have a chance to get better insurance. you may miss your current patience and they may miss you but your future and your children are what you really need to think about. If you really want this, go for it. dont wait til the position is already filled to try for it.. Good Luck!
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• United States
26 Jan 07
Thank you for the good luck wish I feel I may need it in the end. THANKS AGAIN
• South Africa
26 Jan 07
Hi,That is a tough one.One has to remmember that our Kids are No1 priority but if you are not happy,that can affect their happiness as well.You have to find the middle. You being happy with what you do and spending quality time with your kids..that, does not cost money.Think of the big picture,if one can provide enough for your kids and be happy with what you do will have a good affect on one's kids. I know of guys who have gone the money route,he can give his kidds all they want,but he is never there for them in person. At the end of the day to be a cool parent you need to provide for them and spend lots of time with them. Hope I did not make things worse....good luck TQ
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• United States
26 Jan 07
THANK YOU for the good luck wish, I feel I may need it in the end. I do feel spending time with your kids is very important, my parents were never there for me, and I remember how much it hurt, and still does.
26 Jan 07
I have left a job that I liked for a better paying one. I was single at the time and the first job just didn't cover my over head. Which is worse, live to work or work to live? It is always good to be able to bring home more money.
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• United States
26 Jan 07
I am not really sure if living to work is a bad thing. Because I love my job, I have had less call offs well none in the 9 months I haev been there, working to live is tough too. I don't know if barely surviving is worth it in the end.
@cjayden (110)
• United States
26 Jan 07
I think you need to think of what you need to make your family survive. If taking the other job is going to give you more money and if thats what you need then yes i would take it, on the other point of if you dont like it you will probably be most likely stuck there for a while till you are able to find something else that maybe you like or pays you enough. My husband had a great job and the pay was excelent and back in august he made a career change to go into business with a friend. Well there is so many downfalls to this situation but hes is kinda stuck there wanting things to work out for him, or wait till something else comes along thats going to pay him as well as this job and the prior job does. It even kinda effected out relationship at first but I am really trying to stick behind him on this and hope everything turns out ok. I wish you luck in whatever decision you make.
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• United States
26 Jan 07
Thank you for the good luck wish, and also to you and your husband. I hope everything turns out for the better for you and yours.
@rhie0216 (289)
• Philippines
26 Jan 07
At this time of life people chooses practicality rather that loyalty, why would you stick yourself in the job that will not meet your family's everyday needs.
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• United States
26 Jan 07
See that is the problem, I am meeting the needs of my children, but it is rough. but I am looking into a better paying position with the same company. WISH ME LUCK
@rockbaby (808)
• Lebanon
26 Jan 07
even if u love ur job now, i think that u should see ur future and ur kids future as well, if ur surviving now, u might not later on, and saving up abit of money wouldnt be bad at all, so why not take the better job when u see its better for ur family and save up alittle bit of money for black days, because u dono what might happen later on. take care and best of luck with ur decision
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• United States
26 Jan 07
Thank you I feel I will need the luck..
@dexterous21 (1180)
• Philippines
26 Jan 07
As you have said, you are doing this because of your children right? I think that is a best motivation to set aside what you feel when you leave them. I can understand what you feel and I know it is very hard to say goodbye but let your children's welfare be your strenght for you to manage your feeling.
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• United States
26 Jan 07
Yes I am doing it becuase of my children, and I agree with the fact that they are the best motivation. But they are taken care of, it would just be a little extra for them. I am really torn on this one.
@amitavroy (4826)
• India
26 Jan 07
well i give growth more importance now than money. i think money is not a big factor. the main thing is the knowledge. if my knowledge is good then i can earn a lt. so it is sometimes better to stick to a job till you feel that there is no more to learn fro mthat particular job and also you should not switch the job very quickly as this lets the new emplyer think that he will not continue for long time and this way you will not be given more responsibility.
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• United States
26 Jan 07
thank you, I have also thought about this aspect of it. I have had problems in the past with keeping down a job, and it HAS caused more problems than helped. So thank you it is nice to hear someone else thinks that way too.
• United States
26 Jan 07
Have you told your employer about the other opportunity? If they value you as an employee, you may be able to get more money from your current employer if they think you are going to leave. Maybe there is a promotional opportunity for you at your current job. When employees are thinking about leaving, good employers will at least attempt try to keep their good employees. Turnover is costly for employers. If there aren't any opportunities available, then I think you need to take care of your children first. If you are looking for ways to get the most out of your job and personal finances you can check out my website at www.givemebigmoney.com or my blog at givemebigmoney.blogspot.com/ Both are informational sites on various financial topics that I hope you will find useful. Sometimes it isn't about the money, it is about happiness and the satisfaction you get from your job. Ultimately the decision will depend on the right balance of money and happiness.
• United States
26 Jan 07
I have told my current employer about the new opportunity, but the company I work for as of right now, does not have enough money to even offer raises this year. So I have also explored my options within the company for higher paying positions. thank you also for the spot to get financial advice.
• Dallas, Texas
26 Jan 07
Mabe you should look into ways you can make more money with the job that you love. My mother does the same thing and whe is getting vertified to give shots, administer pills and is thing about getting her RN. She wants to be able to become and independant contractor where she can get paid what she ask for and she has cliends that can not do without her. I would hate to see you leave a job that you loved for one you did not. You have to be happy everyday or it will seem like you are working on the plantation. See if there are anyways to enhance what you are doing now before you make the choice to leave.
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• United States
26 Jan 07
Thank you, I am currently looking into a supervisor position at my current job, not much more pat but maybe a bit better, and I will still get to do what I love.
• India
26 Jan 07
It is very difficult to express the opinion. Since I am in need of money, I love the job, which pays me better.
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@Capsicum (1444)
• United States
26 Jan 07
Money and insurance is really what we are working for in the first place. If you can make it and feel good about your job that is the ultimate dream . I have seen people take less money because of stress on the job .In the end ,I would say we all have to weigh are choices and go with the flow. Inflation never stops but money does talk when it comes to unpaid bills. If you can afford it go with what you like happiness is the key in the end.
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@sunnypub (2132)
• United States
26 Jan 07
My husband left a job he loved about 9 months ago for a job that had much better pay. He lasted at that job for two months and then went to another one that had equal pay but that he thought he would enjoy more. Now 7 months later he just interviewed for an open position at the job he loved in the first place because beinghappy was more important. They are supposed to call on Monday to let him know if he got the job and if he does the pay will be just over $3 an hour less than he is making now. It is going to be very difficult for us to handle bills and live but we talked about it and decided that his happiness was worht the throuble we will have until we can make up the difference in pay. His unhappiness was really interferring in his life, with our marriage and the relationship wiht our daughter. SO in my book, the happiness is more important. We know that we are looking at some tough times for a while financially but we know that we can work it out somehow. Good Luck to you.
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• United States
26 Jan 07
Thank you I feel that I will need the luck in the end.
• China
27 Jan 07
I have a pity to your situation. But i really don't know how to do?
@maxmathur (157)
• India
27 Jan 07
yeah i would leave my job for a better paying one..the reason is that there is no such thing called work satisfaction..you have to satisfy your work..the work will not satisfy you..if you get a high paying job then take it up and satisfy your work..in the end you benifit in both manners...
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