When you get older do you want to be send it a nursing home?

Philippines
January 26, 2007 4:51am CST
We are ignoring the fact sometimes of getting older. Let us accept the fact that not all of us are getting older gracefully. When you have the chance to prepare for your old age, do you want to send in a nursing home or stay with your family?
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14 responses
• Philippines
27 Jan 07
how i wish when i get old my family or my future kids will take good care of me, the same way as i'm doing with my mom...there's a big difference about the care and love that you can get from a stranger and from your family...
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• Philippines
27 Jan 07
I do agree with you, Love really varies depends how you are connected to that person. I really wish we will all be taken care by someone who love us when we get older
@linda345 (2661)
• Canada
27 Jan 07
I really won't want to stay in a nursing home, I would like to stay with family. I would even live in the basement like Arthur on King of Queens. Just joking. But, at the same time I wouldn't want to be a burden on my family. So I guess time will tell. I live far from my parents but if they get sick, I would take them in to live with me.
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• Philippines
27 Jan 07
Yeah that's a cool idea from king of queens a basement for retirement, your own little space not so far away from home.
@Lushous (60)
26 Jan 07
I wouldnt want to go to a nursing home when i'm old and grey, i'd prefer living with my family or probably a place of my own with them coming to visit regularly. People want to spend the rest of their days with the ones they love, strangers just dont cut it.
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• Philippines
27 Jan 07
Indeed a place of your own for retirement so that you will have the chance to explore things and made the time more memorable because that house is yours and you are with your family that is the best care for an old age.
@delaney36 (817)
• Philippines
26 Jan 07
No. I don't want to spend my old days in a nursing home. I still prefer to be with family but if not i rather have my own home/place where my children and grandchildren can visit me anytime.
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• Philippines
26 Jan 07
Indeed having a own separate place not so far from relatives and friends so that you have your own place to stay and be productive in your own retirement houese.
@mipen2006 (5528)
• Australia
26 Jan 07
I could've retired in 2005, but I enjoy my job so much I don't plan to retire until the end of next year. I don't want to go to a nursing home, but on the other hand I don't want to be a burdon on my family. It is a very difficult question to address.
• Philippines
26 Jan 07
I really do agree with you this question Is a real mind boggling. That's why I asked so I will learn from other's point of view.
• United States
26 Jan 07
Believe me, you never want to end up in a nursing home. I was in one in my early thirties for 6 months recovering from a motorcycle wreck. I was pretty much able to take care of myself but the older folks who either couldn't take care of themselves or their minds weren't right, were totally neglected. I can tell you, that's the last place you want to end up. Those that were taken care of were the one's whose families showed up daily and weekly at various times. ‹(°¿°)›
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• Philippines
26 Jan 07
It really seems a lonely place to stay and spent the rest of your living years.
@emquinsat (1059)
• Philippines
26 Jan 07
NO. I don't wanna be sent to a nursing home. I'd hope my kids would take care of me. I wish to spend my last days with my family as well.
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• Philippines
26 Jan 07
same here I wish my kids will be there for us with my husband and I on our golden age. Cheers to us.
@javajoe (149)
• United States
26 Jan 07
i would rather stay with loved ones if at all possable.
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@irisheyes (4373)
• United States
7 Apr 07
No, I absolutely do not want to be put in a Nursing Home. I want to age like Tasha Tudor, the American illustrator. I want to be 90 years old, living and working on my own farm with tons of flowers, vegetables and pets JUST LIKE TASHA. She is my heroine. (I think I'll add her to my interests here)
@weemam (13377)
7 Apr 07
I think you know my friend that both my parents aged 89 and 88 both have Alzheimer's and I still care for them both in their own home , I know there will come a time when I just cannot give them the care they need because I also have too look after my disabled hubby and son , I myself have arthritis and carpotunnel syndrome , I dread the day this will happen , I know that it possibly now will happen to me in the future too and I realise that if it does it is not because I am not loved and cherished it is just what sometimes has to happen , we love with all our hearts but sometimes there is more care required than we can possibly give xx
@ydiwan (448)
• India
6 Apr 07
No maribel i would definately not like to go and stay in an old age home when i get old so yes i have saved enuf and would have enuf when i retire where in i can live and look after myself and would not be a burden on my family and you are right one has to plan for old age and i think a lot of our friends would take this advice from you seriously as many would want to stay with their family and so not in an old age home
• Philippines
6 Apr 07
once during my birhtday last year, we have a sort of an informal reunion when my two married son and daughter came to celebrate with us together with their spouses who are now based and working in cebu city and my second son and his wife who lived with us. after our visitors have long been gone. i told them a little story, i told them that when your father will be old and gray, sitting side by side with your mom in a far corner of our home, maybe any one from you will yell at the maid, " o pinakain nyo naba ung mga matanda?" (have you let the oldies eat their meals?), it was made in a joking mood by me but it hit raw nerves to my three children. they answered in unison. "nooooooo dont say that tatay! we are not like that! you stay where we stay and we will take care of you." my second son also interjected who recently graduated a caregiving course aside from being a computer science grad, said to me, " i forced you to let me study caregiving course not because i want to go abroad but to take care of you..." my answer maribel is very obvious and those remarks coming from my children, made their mother cried and my heart melted....
@maryannemax (12172)
• Sweden
5 Apr 07
ahhh!! no way! i am not a fan of nursing homes. when i am old and grey, i don't wanna see myself just boxed in the walls and fences of nursing homes. if ever, i'll be sad before dying.
@gabs8513 (48716)
• United Kingdom
5 Apr 07
No I would not like to but if I could not do anything for myself I would not burden my Kids so I would go into one I know my Kids would not let me and I would have a fight on my hands lol and no doubt I would not win