Friends - Am I losing it ?? Need help !

@SimplyJo (1694)
India
January 26, 2007 11:20am CST
hey peeps - ya know lately i have been getting very few responses to my discussions ( anywhere from 0 to ten max). is that bad ? i mean, i know the quality of discussion really does not depend on the no of responses but still it is kinda demotivating to keep seeing 4/5 responses when i used to get even upto 200 responses in some discussions -- it's been long since i had a discussion going, know what i mean ? Does it happen to you too ? I hope this is temporary coz else i would be too demotivated to start any new discussions and probably stick to responding only. am i doing something wrong here ? Need advice!
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45 responses
• Ireland
26 Jan 07
Oh, I'm so sorry, SimplyJo. No, you are not losing it. Rather the other way around. I have been reading your topics as they have been coming in, but I just couldn't think of any suitable responses. Maybe I'm just tired. Keep up your good work and I'll do my best to answer all your topics. Best wishes.
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@SimplyJo (1694)
• India
27 Jan 07
oh thx 4 the kind words hun. now i'm surely motivated to start new topics. you all rock
@kgwat70 (13398)
• United States
27 Jan 07
I certainly understand how you feel and many of my responses have had zero responses, especially the ones when I first started because I was not familiar with this site too well. I am sure you will get more responses. Sometimes I get lots of responses and sometimes a few responses. It could be that your topic has already been brought up before or it doesn't interest people or maybe they did not understand it. Sometimes I have to rephrase something to make my point clearer.
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@polachicago (19143)
• United States
26 Jan 07
If you ask narrow question like hip hop, I am not able to answer, because I don't like hip hop. I think you are getting more responds than orther people.Nothing to worry about.
• United States
27 Jan 07
He's definetly getting more resposes than me!!
@SimplyJo (1694)
• India
27 Jan 07
hi yes u r right such discussions don't get much responses - but i like to post related to interests sometimes - but maybe i shud start more such questions which everyone can answer. thx :)
@KrauseHome (31478)
• United States
27 Jan 07
I am seeing a lot of the same thing lately in my discussions and not sure why. I think either a lot of my friends are NO longer paying attention to the discussions I start, or just have too many friends to try and keep up with. I know I read those who read mine, as I feel it is fair, but wonder how some posts get tons of responses, while some of my others get hardly anything. Good point here.
@SimplyJo (1694)
• India
29 Jan 07
hi i'm going to check out your discussions right away. thanks for replying to mine.
• India
27 Jan 07
dont worry man i will be there to respond to your discussions.i feel really akward when people start awful discussions like why does that dog bark only at me,i feel great that you have raised the voice against the quality of discussions.
@SimplyJo (1694)
• India
27 Jan 07
hey thx
@dopey22girl (3327)
• United States
27 Jan 07
Well on this one you know have over 40..so you should be happy about that. I would love to get 10 responses, however! I feel like I respond to so many people's discussions but only get a few on mine. I think the most I have ever gotten on any discussion is 4 or 5 max. So consider yourself lucky! Maybe it depends on the number of friends you have. But I agree, it demotivates you to start any new discussions. Hopefully people will see this and respond to more of yours...and mine as well!
@SimplyJo (1694)
• India
27 Jan 07
hey hey hey .. dont lose hope.. i'll check out your discussions and see if i can help :)
@hariharbhat (1314)
• India
27 Jan 07
Hai I believe it is not the quality of the discussion which brings responses. I am of the opinion like this because I am observing that the questions like what is your original name ? gets hundreds of responses where as ,if someone asks a question on the politics of the country, the lukewarm responses come. Some times we come across really good ,useful discussions.
@SimplyJo (1694)
• India
27 Jan 07
yeah u r right on that one...
@emeraldisle (13158)
• United States
27 Jan 07
A lot of it has to do with people finding them. That's the main thing. Some just go by what is on the front page or just under their specific interests. The problem can come in depending on how they list in comparision to yours. I know for example I missed one about Doctor Who because it was listed under Dr. Who for example. I found it later and enjoyed posting to it but a lot depends on how people list things and how they look for discussions. I'm going to go and take a look at your discussions after posting this. See how they are :)
@SimplyJo (1694)
• India
27 Jan 07
thx for the tip dear. so did u like them ?
@Willowlady (10666)
• United States
26 Jan 07
Being only 1 person I can only do so much. There are alot of conversations being started so I do my small part to get the ones I can answer of yours out there by answering! You other friends have to help a bit too! Come to think, I haven't seen you around my discussion!? lol I hope things pick up for you!! My responses come over time! Up to a month. Also some answer even though I have picked best response, that would close the discussion I would imagine. Oh well, at least they get credit for responding! Take care my friend!!
@SimplyJo (1694)
• India
27 Jan 07
you are right dear - one person 'can' do only so much. u have been too wonderful,hun.. by responding to several of my discussion. as for me, i do check out yours but just never found anything i could 'add' - but from now on i will make a consious effort to respond to your discussions :)
@TerryZ (22146)
• United States
26 Jan 07
I dont think your doing anything wrong. Maybe you need some more friends try that. But I wouldnt worry about. Sometimes this just happens. Some people may not come on here anymore.
@SimplyJo (1694)
• India
27 Jan 07
i have many..umm.. but u r right i shud try getting more - those may not be online as often as they used to. ppl do quit :)
27 Jan 07
From what I have seen you have nothing to be worried about at all. I have never even had 10 replies to any of my discussions, let alone 200, and i'm still here plugging away. Don't forget it's not all about the number of replies we get, some times you may get 200 replies and not one of them is insightful, on another post you may only get 4 replies, but they may be the most insightful, exciting responses, and who knows, they may just change your life. That's the great thing about mylot, you never know what your going to get. Oh and don't forget to have lots of fun too, life's too short to worry about numbers.
• Malaysia
27 Jan 07
i dont think you are doing anything wrong..
@GardenGerty (84371)
• Marion, Kansas
27 Jan 07
For me the massive responses have been the exception rather than the rule. I believe a lot of it is the luck of who is online when you post. See, this discussion is already a day old, but since I have gotten busier, I just now saw it. Hang in there JO, and if you have some discussion to make, make it. I still have a few that got no response.Oh, well. I do respond more than I post new discussions. It seems to work for me.
@missjackie (1323)
• Philadelphia, Pennsylvania
27 Jan 07
I usually get about 3-4 responses to my discussions. Sometimes, nothing at all. It depends on what you're discussing. Also, a lot of times, I get responses that are 1-2 words. Sometimes longer. I would say, keep it going. You'll get back to 200 responses soon enough. :P
• India
27 Jan 07
i hv never read ur discussions before but i can jst say as the discussions here r increasing people mst be not getting enough time to reply all ur discussions.so dnt worry its jst for time being..hope for the best..
@cowboys33 (421)
• Australia
27 Jan 07
this is a big response building simply
• India
27 Jan 07
its not that..u r geting less responses....if u start a discusion which is really interesting then u will surely geta good responses
@jolanda33 (721)
• Netherlands
27 Jan 07
yes it is happening to me all the time! i don't like it, i even tried not to post discussions anymore but i can't stop, keep on trying! it is demotivating when i see the same discussion a couple of days later with a huge amount of answers! so i guess i don't have the answer!
@yy4cmm (23)
• United States
27 Jan 07
well, im kinda new here, and i dont have my first discussion yet.. lol, but i whish u good luck.
• India
27 Jan 07
Same is the case with me I have been getting just 4 or 5 responses even 0 response to some of my discussions. I don't know whats happening? I too think on concentrating on the responses.