Drinking in the evening when kids have friends over....
By Bev1986
@Bev1986 (1425)
United States
January 26, 2007 1:53pm CST
My husband is not a big drinker... but he does like an occasional bottle of beer. We hardly ever even keep beer in the house, but sometimes he'll buy a 6 pack to have in the fridge.
Anyway, I often allow my girls to have friends spend the night. I'd much prefer my girls to be at home with me than at someone else's home. Occasionally, hubby will open a bottle of beer while the friend is there and drink it while watching tv in the living room. He very rarely will have more than one, and he's not going anywhere... just sitting at home.
One night, my sister came over to visit and saw hubby drinking a bottle of beer while my daughter had a friend over. She got all snotty with me and made a comment about my husband getting drunk while my daughter's friend was there!
First of all, he has NEVER gotten drunk in front of our kids, or anyone else's kids! And second of all, we are in our home!
Is he wrong to drink a beer while my daughter's have friends over?
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30 responses
@rosettaresearch (1285)
• United States
27 Jan 07
Drinking when you are over 21 is legal. If you do not teach your children how to handle this responsibily by showing how to to drink it moderation how are they supposed to learn? Having 1 drink is not getting drunk. It is indulging in legal behavior in moderation. By making a big deal out of it, you are guaranteeing that the children never learn how to set their limits. You learn your limits by doing, not by ignoring it completely.
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@KrisNY (7590)
• United States
26 Jan 07
I see absolutely nothing wrong with this at all. Its not as if he was getting drunk or making a scene or making her uncomfortable. I do not drink often-- I may have an occasional mixed drink on occasion. But I see nothing wrong with it- He is in his home. I don't think you should have to check with the girls parents either-- Thats crazy-- Poor guy....
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@littletoad (317)
• Canada
27 Jan 07
I'm 31 years old and have never seen either of my parents drunk. I've seen them drink plenty of times, but never saw them drunk. One of the most valuable lessons they have taught me is how to drink responsibility. They say children learn from what they see, and it's sure true in my experience. I now know how to drink responsibility, socially, not to drive when drinking or get into a car with someone who is, and how to take the keys from a friend who tries to leave my house after having too much. There is absolutely nothing wrong with drinking in front of kids. If I was going to have company over and planning to drink and my son wanted a friend over, what I would probably do is call the child's parents to explain that we were going to have a few drinks, but it was going to be nothing more than a quiet evening.
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@coolquasar (456)
• India
27 Jan 07
no its really rong it will bring down kidz morale
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@janecarmel (158)
• Philippines
27 Jan 07
well, as for me, im a teeneger and i also do have some sleep overs.. it would be uncomfortable to see my friends dad drinking in front of me. and it would also make my feel uneasy.
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@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
27 Jan 07
I do not think it is wrong as long as he is not getting drunk and loud and stuff. My parents used to drink when i was younger and it never hurt me or my siblings. =)
I think that we have to remember that even if we are parents - we are still human!
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@aksagi (413)
• India
27 Jan 07
Well its not good to be in drunken stage when ur daughter's friend is at place. he might be some what restless r uncomfortable. you might think that m supporting him but its true fact that its a wrong doer as per him. he should not behave in such way but its also not a cause to make so much hue n cry ask him not to do so in future.
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@deathlord (234)
• India
27 Jan 07
The problem is that he drinks at the living room.There is absolutely no problem drinking in front of kids because they`ll not like the smell of it and they`ll stop reaching towards when the are kids.The middle aged like sisters,brothers and neighbors will mistake your hubby.It is better to stop drinking in the living room in front of all people to avoid unnecessary discussions.
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@diego9774 (172)
• United States
27 Jan 07
Sounds like your sister needs to focus more on her own life rather than dissect yours. Unless your hubby is a drunk I wouldn't worry about it.
It also sounds like she lacks the edit part of her brain(no offense)
Maybe there was something going on with her that day and she transferred her stuff to you.
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@Tsquared (44)
• United States
27 Jan 07
I see nothing wrong with it....maybe he could put it in another glass or something. However none of us live in that so called perfect world. Any parent that cares about their kids and where they are going or what they are doing will take the time to get to know where they are going or what they are doing. This means if they are staying the night with you then they should be responsible enough to come and meet you and know who you are and what you are about. Drinking in front of another kid is showing a resposibility of not hiding it and not getting drunk.
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@SexyOneinWI (18)
• United States
27 Jan 07
I do not see a problem with it at all. He is only drinking one to unwind. I do think you should check with the parents. My daughter has friends over all the time and we do drink here. We never drive them home if we have been drinking. If the friend needs to go home that same night, either my husband or I will not drink until she is home. I see nothing wrong with it since he is at home.
@hariharbhat (1312)
• India
27 Jan 07
No No I do not support the opinion of a person who likes to drink before the kids.
Children see their parents as role models to adopt.If the parents follow good path, the generation would improve.It is the bounden duty of the parents to provide the child right atmosphere to grow and develop in their life.
@hopeandgrace427 (173)
• United States
27 Jan 07
No, I don't think there is anything wrong with that. My husband has done that before and we have seen other people do it like a BBQ's. Or at the beach. As long as they are being responsible, it should be ok.
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@Kayzzaman (173)
• India
27 Jan 07
Drinking is taboo in our society. That should be to restrict the habit, the habit of abusing drinking habit, the habit of wayward drinking. And th statutory warning is that drinking is deleterious to a man's health and soul. So, anyone wont to drinking should always moderately to help himself. And it is absolutele no! no! to drink in presence of the children and while in association with them.
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@samraf (725)
• India
27 Jan 07
i think its not that bad , i mean we can solve this problem in two ways but before that i would appreciate that your children and your husband prefer to stay at home.
this is the best thing to keep your fzmily away from bad things belive me . How many time you go out you mostly got some thing bad to do or somthing other wont like it . SO its better to prefer to stay at home and be with family okay coming to the solution
1. Ask your husband not to drink bear in front of your children or her freinds , try to drink in bed room if possible.
2 you can ask your girls and her freinds that not to come out of the room untill your husband is drinking in the living room and untill he leave for bedroom.
to me these are the two solution which can solve it out else it is still not a big deall if he is not drunk from a single pack and keep himself alive.
Regards.
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@handsomevm (144)
• India
27 Jan 07
I dont think your husband is wrong to drink when your daughter's friend is at home.......your husband does not over drink and neither does he get drunk and misbehaves so it is absolutely fine for him to drink...there is no problem in it....and as for your sisters comment...i wolud just say that ....there are so many people in the world.....and all have different opinions so... all say different things ...so you need not worry about that.
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