Too many toys

@CatEyes (2449)
United States
January 26, 2007 2:11pm CST
When do you decide your child has too many toys? I have had my aunt come over and say I need to get rid of half of them beacuse he has too many. He play with all of them though!. I have comments like this from differnt people, but all do not have children or there children are grown up. What do you think??
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@lilaclady (28240)
• Australia
26 Jan 07
I don't have children but I do think once a child is given something then it is their picession so I think maybe you should start a little thing where you get them involved in freely giving up some toys to give to less fortunate children, and then they learn about the pleasure of giving.
@CatEyes (2449)
• United States
7 Feb 07
He did that this christmas. He saw a movie where a lot of kids did not have any toys, and he asked if he could give some of his toys to some kids that don't have any. I was impressed that he thought like that. so we went ahead and picked a famliy and gave them a big box full of toy (some of nice ones too, but he said they needed it more than I do mommy) brought tears to my eyes.
26 Jan 07
My kids have way too many toys too. But they also play with all of them. When there is a toy that they no longer play with they put it in a bag that is in the closet of their playroom. Once the bag is full we donate it. This keeps me from having to go through their toys all the time, and they feel good about giving the toys to kids that will play with them.
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• Canada
27 Jan 07
It s none of their business how many toys your children have. And you're right! If they don't have children, or they don't have young children, they won't understand. Times were different. Perhaps parents weren't in a position to give their children what they are able to give them today. It's really no one's business but your family's. Just tell them that.
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@CatEyes (2449)
• United States
7 Feb 07
Good comment, might use it if you don't mind.
@Kscott (634)
• United States
26 Jan 07
I find the older generation to think this way mostly because times were different when they were younger and growing up or raising their kids. They didn't have many toys, so they tend to feel the kids nowadays have too much. My kids do have too much...I have 4, and the toys have been collecting over the years! I will go thru and pick out some, and put in a box or two and put them away, until they seem to get a little bored with what they currently playing with...then bust out that boxed I had stowed away, and it's like a mini-Christmas, but before I bust out the box...I will gather a pile of their current selection and set a side for the box. It seems to work. I have heard these comments from elders repeatedly, and i just let them know, times have changed...and I try to give my kids what I didn't have or wanted when I was young.
@CatEyes (2449)
• United States
7 Feb 07
Yea, the comments are from the older generation and those who do not have children and like to have every thing very very clean. I think that is part of the problem.
@Willowlady (10666)
• United States
26 Jan 07
This is a good opportunity for you to teach them about sharing. If there is deemed to be too many since they don't play with some of them they could be donated for needy children. Or if they do seem to play with all of them then some are not so popular and could be done withouth. Our lives are possessed by things and if you can teach your children while young they will be more responsible consumers as adults. Good luck with this!!
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• United States
27 Jan 07
I have not too many toys even from my childhood.i have toys made of wood.
• United States
26 Jan 07
If he plays with all of them leave him be and ignore friends and family who try to give unwarranted and unasked for advice. What I did if my boys were not taking care of thier toys or I saw that they were not being played with I would let them pick some favorites then pack the rest away, after some time I would let them exchange them for new toys out of the bins and it was like having brand new toys again. I do agree we buy our children to much these days, but hey some of those toys I enjoy playing with.
@CatEyes (2449)
• United States
26 Jan 07
Me too, so funny when someone catches you.
• United States
30 Jan 07
I have had a lot of people tell me the same thing and I just blow it off. Yes, my children do have a lot of toys. They play with all of them too. When they lose interest or out grow a toy it either goes to a younger sibling or goodwill. I am not going to toss things they enjoy because someone tells me that they have too much. I feel fortunate to be able to provide wonderful things to my kids.
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• United States
27 Jan 07
i know when he can never keep his room clean because there are too many toys and no where to put them
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• United States
27 Jan 07
I decide my child has too many toys when yhe toy chest id do full he can't even close it anbd stuff falls out everywhere
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• Malaysia
27 Jan 07
i have a pink teddy bear. looks very cute..
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@Mandi2005 (157)
• United States
27 Jan 07
My son is almost two years old, and I personally think he has one too many toys. So what I do is seperate them into what skill he can learn from each toy, put them in a storage box, and every couple of days swap boxes. He has a box of building stuff, cars, "tools", etc etc. Each time you bring out a box, he gets so excited, and it's almost like they are brand new to him.
@dopey22girl (3324)
• United States
27 Jan 07
Well if other people say that he has too many but he still plays with all of them then don't get rid of any. Let them have their opinion. But if people say that then maybe he does. So don't get rid of any, but don't continue to buy them. Because if you continue to buy them then he may end up getting spoiled and thinking that he should be bought a toy everytime you go to the store.
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• United States
27 Jan 07
When toys take over the house, it's too many. Sometimes you have to find creative ways to thin the herd. If your child is too young to care, give them away of have a yard sale. If he or she is old enough to understand, encourage participation in separating out the good from the bad, or the favorites from the also rans. This will help teach the young one not to be a pack rat when they grow up. A lesson I'm sure many of us wish we had learned. Then you can sell the items and let your child use the money to purchase something they have been wanting. You can teach them a little about capitalism.
@Eric9000 (36)
• United States
27 Jan 07
The consensus here seems to be that the toys should be rotated, and the children will feel like they're getting new toys again each time. I pretty much agree with that consensus, but have not yet been practicing such rotation very diligently. We basically have big piles of toys at random places on the floors of various rooms, which the children are free to play with anytime. The only toys I don't like are the ones with small parts that get on the floor where I don't notice them till I step on them barefoot and say words I shouldn't say. We have lots of space to store toys, because we have a house with an empty attic, a storage shed, and a big backyard, and have only been here long enough to accumulate a small amount of stuff to store. The attic is intended for access only, not storage, but it won't be very hard to store stuff there, if and when we need to. We spend about an equal amount on books and toys. The children seem to like both equally. But they tend to break the toys and tear up the books. They did that especially when they were babies. They're now 4 and 6. (Just barely, as they both had birthdays recently.) We don't want expensive books and toys to be destroyed, so we got in the habit early of only buying cheap ones. To get reasonably good toys and books cheap, we bought them used, at thrift stores and moving sales. At thrift stores and moving sales you can get a lot of good childrens books very cheap, and a lot of fun toys very cheap too. So we bought them a lot more toys and books than most parents do, even if we spent less overall. And now that we've moved to this house, with lots of space, we will probably keep buying them more and more. Right now they're playing with a "zip track" but don't have a car that works on it. Half the cars are broken and the other half don't fit. Some trains fit but get stuck on curves, being designed for railroad tracks, not race car tracks. So we're going to look for some cars that fit. We don't usually go out looking for specific toys, but just buy whatever catches our fancy. (By "our" I mean both adults and children, as we really all get these toys together, and frequently play with them together.)
• Philippines
27 Jan 07
It's unbelievabe how much toys a child accumulate by the time he turns 7. My son's room is almost full toys, toys here, toys there, toys everywhere. One day we ask him to choose what toys he likes most and he wants to keep because we are going to donate some to charity, which he gladly did. But most of those he chose to give are really old ones or broken like not working remote controls etc.
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• United States
27 Jan 07
Don't worry what others have to say. Just don't buy him more toys so often.
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• Philippines
27 Jan 07
for me i dont care if a child has too many toys... if i will become a parent i will keep their toys for them to see when they grow up...
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@14missy (3185)
• Australia
27 Jan 07
I think my kids have too many toys when I can't shut the cupboard haha. They tend to rotate through their toys though so I put some away and then bring others out after a couple of months. They then treat them like new toys again. I also have big clean ups before christmas and when we move house etc. I definately refuse to buy Macdonalds happy meals now though as the kids only play with the toys for a day and then throw them in the toy box.
@the_vicar (1478)
• United States
27 Jan 07
It depends on how old the child is. Young children become overwhelmed by too many choices. Box up most of the toys and let him have fewer toys to play with. When he gets tired of them, then switch out some of the toys and box up the old ones for awhile. Old toys will be new to him if they are put up for awhile. Right now, you decide which toys are to be put away for a few weeks and which ones stay out. He doesn't need all of those toys in front of him, pick out a few favorites and you won't have so many to put away, and he will enjoy the few left out far more.
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@loujac3 (1188)
• United States
27 Jan 07
I found the best thing to do is to rotate them out. Put some away and every week rotate some more out. It is like christmas every week and boredom doesn't set in. I even do it with the toys for my dog. He gets so excited when I bring another one out he hasn't played with in awhile. Beats buying new toys and I don't have as many to pickup each day. Yes, my daughters are grown up now but I deal with other people's children and my dog is just like a child and just as demanding.