Did your new friend turn out to be a very bad enemy in disguise?

@shelagh77 (3643)
January 26, 2007 7:29pm CST
Has anyone met a new friend who seemed so kind and helpful that they were good to be true, and then it turned out that they were only being helpful to find out the most ways to wreck your life? I have got one of these at the moment and am unsure how to kick them out of my life, as they are so N-I-C-E that everyone will think I am a total cow! Any ideas?
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@rainbow (6763)
27 Jan 07
Do not fear I am the keeper of the Cow, Matilda Moo to be precise and she is only a cow when she needs to be, maybe you have a different one. Be polite but try gently to distance yourself, leave it longer between calls and make a point of saying you are seeing other friends but don't invite her, evil but strangely it feels very good. DO NOT give her any reason to say anything bad about you, because she's gonna if she realises. Good luck, that 's why my friends are picked so carefully, online and in real life, I can't be bothered with the social problems.
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@shelagh77 (3643)
27 Jan 07
Matilda Moo lol. That is a good one and I like that. Unfortunately this person has really entangled herself into my life and it sounds really really silly when I try to explain to other people exactly what is going on, because they say things like "but she is only trying to help you" or "well, you did say you needed help . . ." it really is something that will only be solved with the passage of time and my slowly moving away from the situation. Miles away, hopefully, with no forwarding address! I pick my friends too, I just made a heck of a mistake with this one!
@rainbow (6763)
31 Jan 07
I know what you mean about otherr people not understanding, sometimes it starts to feel like a relationship instead of a friendship and you want to be unfaithfull just to be able to breath. I met someone like this on a course, she had soo many problems and seemed to really need a friend, I agreed warily to go for coffee, I let her have my moblie number and she started being best friends, my real best friend wet herself laughing. She was so interested in me Shrek though she was my girlfriend, she text and rang constantly, in the end I got a new phone and gave her my old one, I eventually was cornered into giving her the new number but did not reply to messages by turning my phone off for 3 months, woops how did that happen. When I see her now it's still all self pity and need. What did it for me was the day I had 14 messages while I was in Woolworths, mostly asking why I hadn't replied - I was in the toy section for goodness sake - I had more important things to do. I love my good friends dearly and can always make time for them but at the end of the day I am quite a loner,constant attention can make me nervous, online friends are so much easier to be open with and they don't visit when the house is a mess, lol. Hope you distance your friend in a nice way!
@rainbow (6763)
31 Jan 07
sorry so buzy gassing on that I forgot what I came back for - thank-you so much for giving me your best response, hugs.
@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
27 Jan 07
Hey I hope you are not on about me I am a little Angel and it will be treble Snowballs at your Window But to kick me out just a boot up the Butt will do (but not to hard please as I still need to sit and drive the car) and I am gone Ok seriously She you need to tell them straight no messing as for the total Cow buisness well I know better then that and I am willing to give you a reference
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@shelagh77 (3643)
27 Jan 07
Why does everything have to be about you?????? I have a serious problem here and it is not a snow ball lobbing blonde with a seriously cut little doggy who labours under the delusion that she is an Angel. ooops better rewrite that - IS an angel (sorry folks, but replacement windows are so expensive, don't you know!)
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@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
27 Jan 07
Ok Ok I haven't started yet with the Snowballs hope there is snow down there Thursday hehehehe and I am an Angel you forgot sweeping the Desk when I get there Ok seriously now why have you told me about this person maybe I can help and not here either I would probably be banned Tell this Person politely that you don't want her round your Place until she/he behaves as it is not right that you are giving her Friendship (which I know you will be) and that he/she is misusing it and it is not appreciated And when I am down there and this Person is there they will have me to deal with I won't think twice you know I don't like People upsetting my Friends and you are not well enough to deal with it you have enough on your Plate
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@shelagh77 (3643)
27 Jan 07
Look, is not about you. Is about somebody everybody thinks is a wretched saint and it is very difficult to do battle with a saint, they are very very devious. I just wondered how other people have coped with someone who everyone else thinks is a walking incarnation of niceness who in fact is acting like Single White Female in the film. :-)
@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
27 Jan 07
I have had that happen more then once in my life. have some one act all friendly and nice and then just change like for no reason and get a attutude
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@shelagh77 (3643)
27 Jan 07
Some people are just so unpredictable, aren't they Shaun? My problem is that this lady is so very very nice on the surface anyone who says one bad word about her becomes the Devil in disguise! Any tips how to deal with this?
• India
31 Jan 07
ooo yes this has happened to me but lickily i managed to handle it thanks for asking have a nice day
@shelagh77 (3643)
31 Jan 07
Glad you could handle it as I am going what we call "off my rocker" with the situation! How did you handle it please? Was it legal lol. Seriously, what was your way of dealing with a person who everyone thinks is so very nice but who is making big big problms for you?