how far you could put your faith on your relationship ?

Indonesia
January 27, 2007 1:17am CST
if you're on a relationship with a 'standard' guy / girl, then suddenly there's a prince / princess charming approaching you, ask you to go out for a date, get involved in your life, what would you do ? if you can choose wether to continued the relationship with your bf/gf and to start the new relationship with this new prince / princess charming, which would you choose ? why ? does your happiness is more important than your faith to your bf/gf ? ... note : that prince/princess charming is reaching the 10 scale (from 1 to 10) on everything, while your bf/gf is just reach 5 scale (from 1 to 10) and you're not married yet !
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23 responses
• Indonesia
27 Jan 07
Well, according to me, I'll stay with my boyfriend. Because I know that to start a new relationship means I have to start all of it again, like trying to understand his negative side (remember that even a prince/princess charming has a negative side, because nobody is perfect!). And I would rather stay with my boyfriend, since I've already known his bad side and I think I can receive it. And the last reason is that I've already truly madly deeply in love with my boyfriend, so why must I left him for someone else who've just come to enter my life? Of course I prefer someone who has been together with me for nearly 5 years!
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@maryannemax (12174)
• Sweden
27 Jan 07
yup. true. why dump someone just because you've met someone new. i mean, everyday of our lives, we will meet always someone. someone who seems to be far better than our partners. but until when will infatuation serve it's purpose? i say, stick with the person who loves you than try out new things just because you think this someone new is perfect.
• Indonesia
28 Jan 07
=) so sweet ... so both of you are a faithfull person, how lucky your boyfriend/spouse is. nice comments ...
• Indonesia
30 Jan 07
I'm agree. it's better with someone that you know his/ her bad side, than with someone you doesn't know anything about him/ her. 10 scale prince is human too, and he had weakness too.
@victorwzj (539)
27 Jan 07
I don't have a relationship before so I might be wrong but I do know that it is important to put faith into a relationship. In order for a relationship to work you need to put "all" faith on it , be honest and loyal to each other. There are no point continue the relationship if one is not loyal or honest with the other. As you probably know one sided love is not a relationship and if you really treasure the relationship that you having now , you will not lose faith just because a higher scale prince or princess charming approach. The scale is not important and when you in love with a scale 5 prince or princess it will automatically become 10. I know I might sound naive but this is actually how much faith I willing to put in to a relationship.
• Indonesia
28 Jan 07
well, that's such a sweet faith that you have ... ok, so you're an idealist also a faithfull one ... hope you'll get a great relationship later on when you start it.
@diannebcrs (1549)
• Philippines
27 Jan 07
not everything that glitters is gold... so prince charming may seem to be all that but he's not perfect and you're bound to realize that in the long run. so go for something that's real. what you got with your boyfriend sounds real and what's important is that you've accepted him for who he is. no one's perfect. if you don't love your current boyfriend anymore then by all means go for the prince. but if you still love him, hang in there. you may end up leaving your diamonds coz you were too busy looking for stones.
• United States
28 Jan 07
I belive relationship has not to do in persons of other interest this may cause problem later
• Indonesia
28 Jan 07
hmm ... interesting ... not everything glitters is gold / diamonds ... but what if it's really a diamonds, compared to your boyfriend (just assume that he's in the position of a stone) how do you know that it's a real diamonds filled with stone, or a stone with diamonds inside ? ... im trying to simplify this ... if ... (only if) your boyfriend is a stone, and there's diamond offered to you, will you still choose that stone ? =) ...
@maryannemax (12174)
• Sweden
27 Jan 07
i am happy with my relationship now. my boyfriend might not be the perfect boyfriend in the world. he might only be rated 4 or 5 or 1. but i don't care. i love him. he loves me. we are happy together. and those are enough reasons to keep the relationship going. i'm in this relationship for 9 months now. it might not be a perfect relationship. but we're perfect for each other. i won't try and have the chance to spoil what we have now just because i have met someone so perfect. i will never put those 9 months of happiness at risk just to date someone else. i might enjoy this new guys company. but for how long? i know at the end, it's not worth it.
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• Indonesia
28 Jan 07
well then, congratulations on your relationship, well i guess you've found an eight or nine star rated boyfriend, no wonder you would never risk that for the ten star guys ... =) so ... you're a faithfull one with your boyfriend =)
@rein2410 (809)
• Australia
27 Jan 07
If I am in a relationship. I would not look at other girls. I will pay attention only to my girlfriend and I mean as a special someone. I am a faithful person I guess. Once I love someone, it would last very long even though we broke up and does not meet her for some time. If now, I want to find a girlfriend with the same faith of me, girl that fear of GOd and follow God wholeheartedly and we should be balance on how we follow GOD. and if that is the choice that I made and loving her would be my decision. I BELIEVE that there are many girls are better than her out there, but I would still choose her cause I have made commitment to her. This is a big problem nowdays that people cannot commit themselves to something. Even though we are not married yet, we should not break up just because there are other girls. Well, if you ask me If you fall in love with the princess charming. I would find my love back to my girlfriend and Im pretty sure that I would not lose it at the start anyway. I would not be interested on other girls even though they are much better. I was the one that chose her and I will never regret it, cause I was not force to choose and its my own will.
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• Indonesia
28 Jan 07
such a faithfull guy, your family must be proud of you =) ... ever since you're not married yet, and you still have right to choose, you choose to be faithfull, and that's makes you even more convincing your bride later on that you're a faithfull one. Good luck pal =)
@cungcung (70)
• Indonesia
28 Jan 07
In every relationships needs commitment. And it won't last long if you don't have it. So if you have it, you'll be stick with your bf/gf. Are you sure you'll get happier with this prince(ss) charming than your bf/gf? At the beginning may be yes, because you get what you've been dreaming of, but after that? If you only look the appearance, someday you'll be disapointed, because we know that nobody's perfect. But still life is a choice. But make sure that whatever choice you make, you won't regret it someday.
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@jhoanee (599)
• Philippines
28 Jan 07
i think it depend on the situation..if you love your partner in your current relationship why look for another?do you think if youll met another girl/guy which is better than ur bf/gf can make you make you happy?physically it will all fade when we become older but what is inside will stay no matter how old he/she is..BUT if you dont have enough love and the relationship is not that healthy with your bf/gf i guess you better look for someone better.
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• United States
27 Jan 07
Well there's two sayings that come to mind: 1. a bird in the hand is better than one in the bush; and 2. You know what you got; you don't know what your gonna get. If I was with someone that was a 5 and treated me like gold then I would stay put, because you never know what you are going to get into with this other guy. It may look good from the outside but you may think he is a total losser once you get to know him. Oh here's another one - everything that glitters isn't gold and 1 more... The grass is always greener on the other side until you get over there and see it is just painted hay. But on the other hand.. if the guy I am with is treating me like crap I would take my chances with prince charming. And if he starts treating me like crap I would move on from him too. There's more fish in the sea - oh that was another one.
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@kathy77 (7488)
• Australia
27 Jan 07
No if someone else me out on a date I would have to say sorry I have a boyfriend,. I would continue the relationship that I already had someone maybe good looking like a prince but that does not mean that they are good for me especially if I have a great relationship which I am in or make me happy. When I am free then I would go out with the prince charming if he was free at that time.
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• Indonesia
30 Jan 07
In my honest opinion, I'll keep them both malaekat2an, hahaha. I don't care if you say that I'm unfaithful or what so ever. As long as there is no commitment between me and my boyfriend/girlfriend (like engangement) and I see that seems like my relationship with my boyfriend/girfriend is going no where; I wouldn't mind if my boyfriend/girlfriend did the same thing to me as well. I guess 'menebar pesona' before marriage is not a problem. I will follow my heart and test this prince/princess charming of how far he/she would go in approaching me knowing that I am in a relationship.
• Indonesia
30 Jan 07
fair enough, since you're not married or tied on engagement, you are still free to choose =) you are example for those realistic people who seek the best on their live =) ...
@nicu1985 (587)
• Romania
29 Jan 07
I have a relation with a girl, she has the same age like me, 21years. I love her very much. Someoane told her in the past that some old lady will break up our relation. I don't think this is true or that lady had no ideea what she was talking. I love her very much and that's why I don't think we will broke up. I believe in faith. Everyoane has one. But I don't think this will be our faith, my faith, her faith. It doesn't make any sense to be like if love is so big.
• Indonesia
29 Jan 07
=) ... hope that your love and her love can always grows ...
@nicolai (288)
• Philippines
28 Jan 07
I'll choose commitment over my own plaesure,,going out with my prince charming would not mean that I"ll be happy for the rest of my life and that's what my boyfriend can give me.dating my price charming would only mean that I'll be happy for only one day...and I would not exchange that for the guy who promised me forever..my bf!=)
• Indonesia
28 Jan 07
i hope your boyfriend keeping his promise ... wish you both a happiness =)
• India
27 Jan 07
well for one i would always put all my faith in the girl i would love, and as regards to this question that u have asked the answer is most definitely no, i wouldnt date another one even if she is more good looking than my current girlfriend
• Indonesia
28 Jan 07
=) ... another faithfull guy, wish you the best for your relationship later on.
@nrmrreddi (356)
• Germany
30 Jan 07
I would definitely go with my standard girl friends with whom I have been all this days. I feel the relationship with this princess charming would just be my attraction. And I would expect my girl friend to be 10 scale on everything, it would be difficult for me to handle such persons. And regarding faith its somthing with any relationship stands on.
• Philippines
30 Jan 07
I will deal with things based on the love that I feel for the person. Looks are nothing to me, I am not searching for a perfect guy, I am searching for a person who can accept me for what and who I am. I believe in destiny and if we are really destined for each other then let it be.
@mom_of_3 (22)
• Japan
28 Jan 07
you should not trade in your love like they are a automobile i love my bf he is 21 and i 35 so i am always fearing he will find a younger girl his age ....i love him ,i hope most people would not switch if they truely loved thier other if they did not then sure but sometimes poeple who seem a 10 are not and very rarely is a 10 available ,unless they are hideing something that makes them a 0
@berry9 (590)
• India
28 Jan 07
What should I say?A known devil is better than an unknown angel.how would you know that prince charming is really what he says he is,or is there a possibility for you to know his character just in days after meeting him.love can happen only in real understanding. prince charming may one day walk away to princess while you will be left hanging in the balance.so i would say better to keep ourself faithful to the person we know deeply.
@junior07 (975)
• India
28 Jan 07
not only charming person attracts u always,sometimes u attract toward any person because his/her qualities/virtues.
@rubypatson (1842)
• India
28 Jan 07
I dont think I will go for the prince if i really love my bf, as I am already in an relationship then i cannot cheat my bf for the sake of prince charming
@vivekc (196)
• India
28 Jan 07
I will stay with the girl i'm in love with. Because, she has faith on me and we should not break her faith. once you fell in love with one then dont ever change your mind, That will hurt her for the life time. We may be happy but a guilty feeling in our heart will be there for the whole of our life. I will think that the 'scale' you have mentioned is only for 5 and so i will stay with the loved one.