Do you make yourself ill with worry

worry - do you worry
@weemam (13377)
January 27, 2007 12:14pm CST
I try so hard not too, but I worry about things so much . My parents both have Alzheimers and still live in their own home, my hubby has just had a triple heart Bypass and I worry about them all the time . I know I can do no more than I can but that doesn't stop me . People say " you shouldn't worry "but I think if that's the way you are its not easy to change, So! do you worry xx
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@jbrooks0127 (2326)
• United States
27 Jan 07
It is a very rare person that doesn't worry about something. More times than not we worry about things that will never come to pass. If you look back you will see that the bad things that happen are usually a shock. Not something you expected or had a chance to worry about. But that knowledge doesn't stop us. We know that the only direction for us is forward and the unknown. Worry about health....yours or our loved ones is always on our mind. Loss of loved ones is truly the most pain we can ever experiance. But it is also true that what will be will be and it makes no differance how much we worry. It truly will not prepare us for and event and it certianly will not make that event go away. So why do we put so much effort into it? More than lkely those fears are what we are trying to work out with ourselves and how we will handle it if it should occur. So worry has it's place but we must know when to do it and when not to. Some time ago I begin to think I was doing a very poor job at work. A review was coming up and all I could see was my boss giving me a bad review. It cot so bad that one night I and my son went to an indoor soccor game. Normally a very wild time but not for me. Nothing that happened could get past that worry. It was for nothing. That review was one of my best ever. That fear was all in my head.
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@weemam (13377)
27 Jan 07
im the same the bypass went fine and more ops are due for hubby they will go fine too im sure but like you say we just can't help it , thank you xx
• United States
2 Feb 07
Thank you Weeman. I do hope all works out with your hubby. In this day and age a heart bypass is and everyday occurrence and I'm sure it will work out fine. But knowing that is not enough I know. I have been where you are for other reasons and I could not help but worry and pray. All went well with my wife but it was a difficult surgery. I do wish you well.
@kathy77 (7488)
• Australia
27 Jan 07
Well I try not to let worries not make me ill, Oh it must be dreadful with your parents both having this dreadful illness, and your husband with his bypass I do not blame you for worrying as you really have something to worry about here, and all that you can do is to be there for them all but please try to not worry so much as then you could end up very ill yourself God Bless xxx
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@weemam (13377)
27 Jan 07
Thank you for the lovely kind words pal meann a lot xx
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@camille101 (1027)
• United Arab Emirates
27 Jan 07
Sometimes I feel like that too. I worry too much that it makes me ill. Especially when I'm not so certain of some things that I had done, but of course we're not certain of everything. But recently I'm trying to keep it on hold, and I'm watching myself always so as not to worry a lot about the future. I mean, not that it only will make us ill, but it will add more lines to your age unneccessarily, and white hairs too. Like the old saying goes "Life is short, make the most out of it, forget the worries, do what your best in everything, so that you don't have to regret later, and be grateful for what you've got". And don't forget to pray.
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@weemam (13377)
27 Jan 07
I know exactly what you mean , And yes I do pray every day xx
@gabs8513 (48716)
• United Kingdom
27 Jan 07
Yes I worry a lot to I am one of the biggest worrier and I can understand that you worry you have a lot to worry about there and you know where I am and I mean that
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@weemam (13377)
27 Jan 07
Thanks gabs again xxxxxwe seem to be a lot alike xx
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@gabs8513 (48716)
• United Kingdom
28 Jan 07
Yes I think so to xx
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@Debs_place (10525)
• United States
4 Mar 07
Yes, it is a worry gene I inherited from my mother. I worry a lot! It makes me sick, ulcers etc. You just can't control it. You may want to talk with your doctor, an anti-depressant may help. I know it did for me.
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@weemam (13377)
4 Mar 07
I did try them for a while but i was worried I would get addicted and I worried it would affect my driving as I have to drive everyone about xx
@Sweetpeas (739)
• Australia
2 Feb 07
Thats terrible to hear I wish you and yours all the best and yes Im a worrier too. My partner had a minor heartattack about a month ago and then i also became sick so I think its built into us and we cant help but worry. I try not to let it consume me though as yes it can be draining and make you ill. Meditation is my way out.
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@weemam (13377)
26 Feb 07
As long as you can find some way to relax pal xx
@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
30 Jan 07
I really wish I could take my own advice, but I give it to others. Imagine you sat in a room on your own and spend a whole hour worrying about a particular problem, ok you think about it, analyze it and think of what you could do. Ok hour over, what have you achieved? Has your worrying gone away? NO! You've just wasted a whole hour of your life and you've changed nothing If you have a worry go out and sort it, if not bu**er it! Sadly I worry, I take after my mum for worrying. I worry that I can't get a job, I worry that life is passing me by, I worry about my weight and worry about stupid petty things, like if someone has been nasty to me, I take it too personally, I'm too sensitive that's my trouble!
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@weemam (13377)
31 Jan 07
you and me both my friend , it's not easy to change is it?
@wmg2006 (5386)
• United States
28 Jan 07
Yes I do worry about a lot of things. I try so hard not to though. You have some serious things to worry about though and it stands to reason that you would worry about these things. It shows you care and love these people. I tend to worry about things I can not change or do anything about. I have to let them go and give them over to the Lord. His shoulders are broader than mine. Keep your chin and keep on being concerned, but try not to let it make you sick, you can only help others you can not live their lives and change the things going on.
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@weemam (13377)
28 Jan 07
Thank ou wmg you are very wise xx
@bingirl (15)
27 Jan 07
Sometimes yes there is so much going on in my life at the moment and it will get harder as my daughter is waiting on major surgery
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@weemam (13377)
27 Jan 07
Thanks for that pal and you know where I am if you want to email me xxxGive my love to Sa***
@babyhar (1338)
• Canada
4 Mar 07
I try hard not to as well.. Though it is extremely difficult to do so! I find that I worry a lot about the people around me, among other things that may be going on within my life. That it gets to the point where I will make myself ill just from worrying or even stressing myself out. There have been times where I have not eaten all to much because of all that I was worrying about. That food was the last thought on my mind at that point in time. But instead the people whom I care for & there well-being we're so much more important to me. I have been told all of my life that like you had stated "you shouldn't worry." But something such as this is so much easier said than done. When there are things to be done, or people within your life have a disease or even are in the hospital.. Or are getting so much older.. You know that they could be taken away from you at any time now.. I think that is why I value the relationships I have with the people within my life so much. That is why I value my time with them instead of taking them for granted. I know that I worry about whether or not my other half & me are going to be okay. Whether that be when it comes to money or even bills & how high they are.. I know that I tend to worry about my Grandmother as well as she has changed quite a bit as of recently.. You can tell she is getting up there as she forgets things more often.. But at the same time she will get rather snappy with others due to her old age.. She tends to be set in her ways in which I can understand as she is getting older.. But sometimes I look at her & can see how hard her life has been.. And how she is getting older & I can't help but worry for her.. As I have lost all to many people throughout my life quite honestly.. And having to lose another one would break me.. I know all I can do though is appreciate the time I have with her & just enjoy her company as you never know when the people whom you love will be taken away from you.. As life is so short. I have been as of recently trying not to allow myself to worry so much about things.. But it sometimes is so difficult to do.. There have been times where I have allowed myself to worry so much that I had made myself physically ill. I find worrying leads to being stressed out about the things within your life.. I know that.. My other half always tells me to calm down or not to allow myself to get so worked up.. But I have always been the type who worries about things.. Even the little things.. I am trying to work on away to not allow myself to be so worried about things.. Or to not allow myself to get so worked up.. As I know we all have a destiny & there is always a reason certain things within our life happen.. As I believe there is a reason for everything. But I just care about the well-being of the people whom I love.. And all I want is the best for them.. But I know that if I don't allow myself to stop worrying to the extent that I have been.. That I could be putting my health in to great danger.. As there have been times that I have worried all to often that I had allowed myself to have almost a nervous breakdown.. I think it's normal to worry as we all do this.. But I think sometimes you have to teach yourself to not allow yourself to worry to the point where it ends up effecting your health. In conclusion.. I know how you feel as even though I am younger.. I have always been the type to worry all of the time.. I have also been told plenty of times that "I shouldn't worry" but.. It's easy to do when you care about the people around you who you love ever so deeply.. When all you want is the best for them you can't help but worry about them.. I think what I want to do though is to not allow myself to worry to the point where my health suffers in thee long run! As I want to be around for a rather long period of time for the people whom I love so that I can help them in any possible way that I can as long as I am here on this earth! . . Thanks for allowing me to share! xx