Is suicide a suitable end to a sad love-story????

@techsam (158)
India
January 28, 2007 1:13am CST
Recently, I came across a guy who tried to commit suicide just because he couldn't take in the fact that, he had brolen up with his girlfriend, and to top it she had started dating soemone else. The break up happened 6 months back, but stil they remained in touch, and the guy tried to convince the lady back.... but to no avail, she was firm on her grounds.... and finally started his erratic behaviour, his violent mood swings which all resulted into a near fatal incindent induced by him a couple of nights ago. What i ask you, is this the way one should go about a love-story that didn't quite play out teh way he expected it to?? How far can anyone justify his action, if anyone can?? Let me see what you all think of it!!
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51 responses
• Philippines
29 Jan 07
i think this case is more like a right of passage and it can happen to either guy or girl who falls in love. its a blessing in disguise and a catalist to maturity. i've been in this situation in the past. everyday must be an emotional roller coaster for the person. i feel sorry for his loss but this is no excuse to inflict pain onto anyone or even himself. ending his life will certainly not solve anything. this person needs a shoulder to cry on, especially at these trying moments. he can vent out his frustration either by just talking to somebody or find an activity that is both constructive and beneficial to him. it would be a good idea to always keep himself in the company of people. those are just some ways to keep his mind off the lady but sooner or later he has to learn the concept of "acceptance and forgiveness." he has to realize that he can not compell anyone to follow his whims and he has to let go of the lady. he should be reminded to focus his energy on matters that he can influence, like himself. he can improve his physique, character, or social reputation. making himself better will present opportunities for him to be attractive and liked by others. he must avoid harboring hard feelings. if he wants a peace of mind; forgiveness for the lady's misdeed is a start. of course he should build a healthy conscience too and forgive himself for mistakes he has done as well. moving on is a process and it could not happen over night. once in a while he may stumble and he has to be reminded that a better future awaits him. if you were to be that shoulder to cry on, you don't have to repeat what has transpired in the fella's failed relationship and make a judgement, or give out advice if you don't feel like it. you don't have to be personally involved. just listen.
@techsam (158)
• India
29 Jan 07
My thoughts exactly..... I dunno how you were able to articulate your thoughts so well through words, but yes I have passed on this comment to him.... I do hope the chap comes out of this stronger and better!!
@mansha (6298)
• India
28 Jan 07
I am sorry to say buit your friend is acting like a baby and emotionally black mailing the girl. what if she oput of pity for him says yes to him, they will never be happy together. someone should really beat him up for doing this. His ego has been hust , probably he is used to of getting his way in the life hence now is throwing temper tanterums. This is nothing but attention seeking behavior. One should not indulge him. If you weill look closely such people do not actually wish to die, they know that they will be saved by someone hence do the act. I don't know about our friend's attempt but you will see on closer examination of the circumstances that his timing would have been sucvh tjhat he could be discoverd in time. or could be taken to the hospital in time.
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@techsam (158)
• India
29 Jan 07
How did u know?? Well it was a superficial cut on teh forearms, and meds way below danger level, just enuf to make u super drowsy!!
@suny1946 (275)
• China
28 Jan 07
yes,it is
@techsam (158)
• India
29 Jan 07
Interesting!! what makes you think so, my friend??
@kmgupta (561)
• India
28 Jan 07
will you please shut up and close this non worthy discussion
@timish (128)
• United States
28 Jan 07
If it's a non worthy discussion, why are you responding to it? If a topic does not interest you, simply ignore it and don't respond.
@ronita34 (3922)
• Canada
28 Jan 07
That isn't fair to just bud into someone's post in such a way! That is rude and rather obnoxious so what is your problem???
• India
30 Jan 07
never not.the only person who have aright to take our life is god. love is apart of ones life. love is not only alife. tell ur friend.
@Mr_Ant (117)
• United States
29 Jan 07
There is no justification for his behavior. What he needs is professional help. There is no way any person should put more value in being with somebody than being alive. As long as one is alive there is always the chance that you will meet the right person for you. Someone that is better for you than the person who has rejected you. If it does not work out between you and someone you love, it was just not meant to be. To adopt any other attitude means that you are not healthy and need to learn how to deal with rejection better. There is nothing wrong with getting professional help if you need it. The wrong thing is when you know you need help and are too prideful or stubborn to get it. That guy needs help. I hope somebody tells him that and he gets help before it is too late.
@siddhinfo (1500)
• India
29 Jan 07
Why one should finished precious life for someone else. Accept the policy "If one is not their ctach hold of another". As it says in Hindi Language " TU NAHIN TO AUR SAHIN". Be bold and eace the challange, the world is so big there will be somewhere your partner is waiting for you.
• India
29 Jan 07
No, never. Infact it is just running away from your duties showing that you lack of confidence.
• India
29 Jan 07
no its not a suitable end.
@whozefa (448)
• India
29 Jan 07
its an foolish decision, if u really love someone then it has to be forever through out ur life,
@raul109 (161)
• India
29 Jan 07
No way... U cannot end ur life for the one who does not care for u....U have to live for the people who love u like ur parents,friends....
• India
29 Jan 07
this is genuin problem abt sucides.the boy really loves that girl but the girl thinks that he is nt her perfect choice.normally girls are nt the one responsible for brkoffs(acc to me).This action according to him was rite as he begin to think that there is no one in world that cares for him and so he might have took this decision.he must have been in great depression after brkoff.by visiting a cycologist he may have solved problem.
@cabergren (1181)
• United States
30 Jan 07
Ending your life is never the answer. Sounds like he has more problems than just losing a girlfriend. Sounds like he needs some emotional help.
@popaioana (210)
• Romania
29 Jan 07
suiside is not the resolvation of any problem in the world.......i think nothing is miserable if you do not want to be miserable..........so don/t metter what happened to you.learn to be happy
@paki143 (793)
• Pakistan
29 Jan 07
no i think not, its a not suitable end
• India
29 Jan 07
well i think this is indeed a bad concept to do such a thing. you may find no more reason to live life, but others may need you. get engage urself in some other work, try to divert your mood from her. slowly u will come out of the trauma. belive me life is very interesting.
• Australia
29 Jan 07
Nope. Face it.. everyone has been in this position before.. breaking up.. one sided love etc2.. even I have been in this situation many times before.. and if i can stay on.. go on with life.. why couldnt he? I would not justify his actions at all.. especially if he is dangerous to others around him as well because of his erratic behaviour. That lady has the rights to move on and to chose other boyfriend.. your friend needs to move on .. needs to be strong.. sure I understand it hurts so much you feel just wanna die.. but it is not the best thing to do.. sooner or later there will be someone else to fill his heart..
• India
29 Jan 07
No for some guys who just love for time pass but Yes for those who love truely (and who weak hearted)and they think that they are life and they include themselves that if he/she is not there they can't live this the fact what is going around us now
• India
29 Jan 07
i think this guy lack in self confidence and lack self esteem , he is crazy to take his life for a girl who left him ; what is this guy thinking about , there are lots of girls in this world that he can look for . and ofcouse if it was true love nothing would had stood against it , if it was really true love nothing else matter , and here he got to understand that it was not true love & he got to start looking for other women cause he is single again . ultimately he got to understand is that life is too short and have to enjoy , cherish & live each and every moment in life ultimately that's what life is all about facing problems logically and reasonably . hey thank u and keep posting
@visna1 (6)
• India
29 Jan 07
You need to hear that people do get through this even people who feel as badly as you are feeling now. Statistically there is a very good chance that you are going to live. I hope that this information gives you some sense of hope.