Tips or advice before entering a married life...

@ramboo (52)
Philippines
January 28, 2007 9:54am CST
Please help me. I have a girlfriend and we're planning to get married this year.What are the tips can you give for me?...
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@ilse72 (1454)
• United States
28 Jan 07
I have been married for 34+ years so think I can give you some tips to follow in marriage: 1. always be respectful to each other 2. choose your words carefully when angry or upset 3. if angry, do not yell...cool off and then discuss it rationally and calmly 4. never, ever go to bed or leave the house angry at each other (you never know what the future holds and if either would die with anger unresolved, the survivor will suffer from guilt) 5. you each need time to yourself 6. you each need "ladies night out" or "mens night out" to maintain friendships outside the couple relationship 7. start and end each day with a kiss 8. never leave for work without a kiss 9. marriage does not mean no more "dating"...still go to the movies, out to dinner, etc. 10. remember to say, "I love you", every day 11. surprise each other ocassionally with little gifts to show how much you love each other (i.e. a single rose, a love note on the pillow, a love note in the suitcase if one is traveling, etc) Remember, a marriage can last and can be very happy but it required work! If a marriage is left unattended, it is like a houseplant left unattended, it will whither and die. Love each other and always remember how you felt about each other the day you got engaged. If you can remember that love, nuture and respect it, you will have a long happy marriage.
@ramboo (52)
• Philippines
30 Jan 07
Thank you very much for your tips. I will remember it all. I guess we will have a great married life if we do all of your tips. Thanks again.
@berry9 (590)
• India
14 Feb 07
im into a relationship too.the lovliest thing about it is that,whenever we fight we never go away without ending it and make sure we are ok.and remember not to spill words.when you think you are right and your partner is wrong,dont argue.you can make her understand things someotherbetter time.say sorry whenever you think you hurt your partner.
• United States
6 Feb 07
THINK LONG AND HARD DOES THIS PERSON REALLY MAKE YOU HAPPY AND IF SHE DOES FOLLOW YOUR GUT AND MARRY HER. BUT IF YOU HAVE ONE BIT OF DOUBT ABOUT THIS PERSON POSTPONE THE WEDDING AND LOOK REAL CLOSE AT THIS PERSON HABIT AND DEMEANOR TOWARD YOU. IS THIS PERSON SELFISH, DO YOU DO THE BULK OF THE RELATING IN THIS RELATIONSHIP, ARE YOU PRONED TO WANT MORE OUT OF LIFE AND WILL THEY INCOURAGE YOU OR HINDER YOUR DREAMS, I LOST ALL OF THAT SIMPLY BECAUSE I DID NOT APPRECIATE LISTEN TO MY GUT, I LISTEN TO MY HEART. GOOD LUCK ON YOUR DECISION,,,,,,,NO I'M NOT A MAN..