Temper tantrums.. What can be done??

@rlshaw (872)
United States
January 28, 2007 12:06pm CST
My daughter 17 months is going through this stage she recently just started hitting herself in the face when she doesn't get what she wants.. I talked to the dr about it and he told me to ignore her it will go away. That she won't do it too hard because it hurts her. I know she is trying to get a reaction out of me.. I have been trying to ignore it but i'm afraid she is going to hurt herself.. It does seem to stop after a minute or so.. What would you do .. any suggestions?
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@dopey22girl (3326)
• United States
12 Feb 07
Well as long as the doctor isn't worried about it..that's a pretty good sign. But I can understand your concern about her hurting herself. Children often act in strange ways when they are upset, and yes she probably is just trying to get a reaction out of you. I guess if she starts looking like she's hitting herself too hard or something, maybe take her and hold her in your lap and hold her hands so she can't. Tell her that you will not put her down until she calms down. With some children this works, but with others they just won't stop. You could give this a try...and hope that it works!
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@rlshaw (872)
• United States
16 Feb 07
I have been ignoring her and it is starting to stop .. it doesn't last as long now :)
• United States
28 Jan 07
When my twins were about the same age, they would bang their heads on the floor. They would have a bruise on their forehead as result. The only way I could stop it was to pick them up. After realizing that I was giving in to them, I would take cold water and flick it on their face. That stopped them. When I got their attention, I would tell them to stop. It worked.
@all4ucnc (861)
• United States
11 Feb 07
I know this kinda sounds harsh, but it works. If your child is throwing a tantrum, chances are they are tring to get attention. rather it be negitive or positive they dont care. But you don't want them to harm themselves in the process either, so get a spray bottle. When they start to throw a tantrum, tell them you are not going to watch them throw this fit and they are to go to their room until they are done,(or take them to their room, if they are too younge to understand) If they continue streaming, and wont go or stay in their room,Show them the spray bottle and tell them to either dry the tears or get sprayed...They get sprayed a couple of times. just showing them the spray bottle will make them clean it up, or go and finish their tantrum in there room.
• United States
11 Feb 07
I have a 20 mo old step daughter and she's been doing this for a while, but it's getting better, she also hits other people, but its much better than a few months ago. We grab her hands and look her in the eye and tell her no hitting. Or sometimes she goes to time out. If she hits herself in the face we let her and ignore it. but I guess if your daughter starts to bruise herself or bleed then you should talk to you doc again.
@armywifey (883)
• United States
28 Jan 07
I agree with your doctor that you should ignore her. She is only doing it to get a reaction out of you and if you continue to ignore this behavior it will stop. She is not going to seriously hurt herself, because well it hurts to punch yourself in the face.
@agusfebi (813)
• Indonesia
28 Jan 07
Possibly had correctly him also about the doctor's suggestion, but according to me should not too much 100 % to ignore him, because I was frightened your child will be sick personally. Thank You Before him.