relationships over internet

@drashima (225)
United States
January 28, 2007 7:29pm CST
what do you think of relationships formed over the internet? nowadays there are many sites like match.com,eharmony.com which encourage people to find a partner online. do you think it really works? and isnt it unsafe to trust atotal stranger over the internet.we hear good stories as well as horror ones associated with finding some one online/ whats your take on this?
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• United States
29 Jan 07
I know that there are horror stories about meeting someone from the internet but if people would take someone with them when meeting someone from the internet and meet in a public place for safety, maybe we wouldn't hear so many. People can be just as weird if you meet them in person at a bar, at the grocery store, wherever. People can have secrets and turn out to be horrible,regardless of where you meet them. I have met a few people from the internet (not for about 4 years though) and to be honest they did turn out to be jerks. I did have a relationship with a couple of them but it just didn't work out. I don't think it's because I met them from the internet though, some people just aren't capable of being in a relationship. One of them loved pot more then me and I couldn't live with it.
@drashima (225)
• United States
29 Jan 07
hmm, thats an interesting point of view.people can be weird anyway,not just over the internet.
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@angelco (347)
• Philippines
29 Jan 07
well for me its all depends on the person who are involve in this situation...for some people it is effective however in this condition you have to take the risk...its too hard to fall in love to a person you don't see personally...you don't know if that person is really good in heart or just playing you...for example he will say that he's single but deep inside he's married already...but i think if the person is really true with his feelings unless that person you are talking have visits you at home :)
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@drashima (225)
• United States
29 Jan 07
but how can you trust someone you dont know by letting him visit at your house? i guess it would be better to meet at some public place.
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@mbarryton (1873)
• United States
29 Jan 07
i personally think it works. i found my hubby online in 2005 we talked and was "together" for awhile before i met him in Jan.2006 and he was totally what i was expecting hes as sweet as he was back when i was talking to him. he never put on any fronts and was always truthful about himself. we ended up married in June 2006 and been happily married since. i didnt met him thru no dating site tho i met him thru mutual friends in a yahoo chat room. im not saying online dating is for everyone. you really have to be careful there are alot of jerks and liars online. if anyone ever thinks of doing the online thing my advise to them is be careful and talk to the guy/gal awhile before meeting, read between the lines, and please use your best judgment. start out as friends dont jump into anything and always listen to your gut its never wrong
@drashima (225)
• United States
29 Jan 07
its really nice that for you it worked,but you are right,you need to be very careful as somebody can totally dupe you.
@mae168 (171)
• Philippines
29 Jan 07
I thik it works for the other people and for the others it doesnt..it really depends on the person if he really wants to to have a relationship over the internet..i believe there are still few people who really trust a total stragers..not all strangers are bad..what if that person is the rigth person or right partner for you?no body knows..it's not bad to give it a try..i think first, you have to know the person well before you fully trust him..find ways to know him better before you engage into relationship..
• United States
29 Jan 07
well i believe in it since i met my partner online and talked for over 2 3 years online be4 meetting in real...i consider myself the luckiestt to find a person like him onlinee...i was lucky..however,ppl do need to b careful since there are million liars and jerks..dunt meet someone rightway...talk online for couple months and be carefulll!!
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• United States
29 Jan 07
Well if one is interested in internet dating than good for them. I've met my husband on the internet. Not through a dating site but through Yahoo Messanger. If it weren't for my hubby, I would be finding someone outside of the internet. I don't prefer meeting boyfriends on the internet (it's a little more difficult to explain to grandma.). Yet, it's a wonderful way to meet people and I have nothing against it. As for the safe side, well, I think we all need to keep a precaution on that. There are psychos out there, and they are on the internet, so if you are planning on doing the online dating thing, definitely make sure you meet in a busy place, and preferably during the day.
@tinkutr (382)
• India
29 Jan 07
It can't predictable. Anything may happen btween those relations
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• Philippines
29 Jan 07
well, some of them works while others didn't. it depends on the two of you on how you handle your relationships over the net and also after meeting each other. if both of you doesnt changed after the meeting, then well and good.
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@maryannemax (12173)
• Sweden
29 Jan 07
i agree. the outcome always depends on the two people involve. not all love stories end up happily ever after.
• Nigeria
29 Jan 07
It is moot question.It will always depend on the perpective from which you view it.I believe they are rewarding.It is an avenue for everybody to try his or her luck.IF YOU ARE NOT LUCKY to have good experince that does not mean others are not having it.This is the verisimilitude of happenings in the world at large.You win some and lose some.
@drashima (225)
• United States
29 Jan 07
i did not even consider that option, so how can you say that.
• United States
29 Jan 07
i personally think they are not helpful because you have no clue who they are and what they look like at all at first usually you are at least familiar with the person you go out with
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@dbeast (1500)
• India
29 Jan 07
It all depnds on the people we meet up with.I have met up with some real good persons on the internet and have been friends with them for a long time and continue being so.it is a matter of striking the right cord amonst your friends.we do at times hear a lot of stories as to how people get cheated and a lot of horrible stuff.we need to choose the right kinds of persons.only after understanding a person completely and knowing bout his background completely do we need to get personal with them.
@mx_aman (2102)
• India
29 Jan 07
Well, According to me it do not work. But, leave some exceptions...Yeah you are right about that ,it is very unsafe to trust anybody on the internet..As match making on the internet is becoming popular this days. So, I think that it should be banned because we even don't know to whom we are matched or to be matched...so, it is very unsafe
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@carmella (496)
• United States
29 Jan 07
I say you have to be careful because there are some seriously crazy people out there on the net, but I think E-Harmony and those places are probably safe. I met the love of my life on-line and we are now very happily married. awe met in 1994 before there was an actual "Internet". You had Prodigy, Compuserve, and AOL, and they were the on-line community before there was a WWW. We met in a Biblical bulletin board, and became best freinds in a matter of days. We've been married for 12 years now and are more in love than we've ever been. So yes, I know Internet romance can blosom and bloom into a wonderfully loving relationship, but you do have to be careful.
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@forfein (2509)
29 Jan 07
Hi Yes it can work. Look at it this way......... If you live in a small town, then there are probably only a handful of girls or boys or you find compatible. Lets say 20 - 30 So, you cant find the one you want in those 20 - 30 people, and so you catch the bus, or go by car, to the next BIG town. This increases your odds by ten fold, maybe twenty fold. So now you have the possibility of finding 200 - 1200 people who MAY BE compatible with you. You find does not work, so you go to the CITY!! Now we multiply our chances by 100 fold...... 2000 - 12000 possible people who you MAY find that you are compatible with....... Go on the Internet, and it multiplies by THOUSANDS!!! It is simple mathematics
@CWesto (30)
• United States
29 Jan 07
I believe in it. I met my girlfriend of 18 months online migente.com. Its been true love ever since. Definitely works... just sometimes you have to watch out for the predators.
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• United States
29 Jan 07
I would never pay for one of those online sites. I met my fiancee on craigslist and we weren't even there for personals. He was looking for a room to rent and I was looking for friends since I recently moved from New York City to California. We first hung out at an abandoned insane asylum and went out for a couple more hangouts until we finally realized we were meant for each other. It was 5 months ago and now we're engaged and live in an apartment.
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@morenita (331)
• United States
29 Jan 07
I don't think its fair to think of it as being unsafe as a whole. Like a realtionship and connections started via any other way, internet or otherwise, you need to be careful and show some judgement. Some people have a hard time with intial encounters and they feel safe and comfortable with icebreakers over the internet. I have several friends who have found good long lasting relationships over the internet. It just works differently for different people. Not, for me but it is perfect for some.
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• Canada
29 Jan 07
hmmm i can go both ways on this one, i think it would be good if you knew the person your dating or wat not, cuz you'd know more about the person, and you could find out thru other ppl what their like, however when you live in small place where you know everyone adn know wat their like isn't alwasy a good thing, so then meetin sumone on the internet would be a good thing, so i dunno my opinion varys on this one
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29 Jan 07
Long story cut short yes. (i'm living prove) although it doesn't for everyone and only those who work and bond together gel in away that they can work. I met my wife online. (faceparty.com) We met on a school trip earlier, i remembered seeing her face and i messaged her there. things connected and we met up. we've been together for over 3 years, married since last may. (we have a beautiful baby boy whos very special) we've had rough times (mainly from her family who don't like me because we met via the internet) we're working and there just being silly. lol you made me ramble!! :)
• India
29 Jan 07
i think the relationships formed over the internet are more suitable for extroverts and they may or may not turn out to be the ideal ones these relationships may prove to be shortlived and may not payoff in the longrun and i just think that internet relationships are a waste of time completely.