If you love someone, set him/her free? Or would you fight for him/her?

Philippines
January 28, 2007 7:40pm CST
Whenever we are in a relationship and it gets to the point where he/she wants to break up with us, the advice we usually hear from our friends or other people is that "if we love him/her, we should set them free, for if they come back, it means that they really belong to you and that you were really meant for each other." Would you really do this for your partner? Would you just give him/her the wings of freedom and fly into another person's embrace or shelter? Or would you take the offensive side and fight for him/her? If my bf tells me that he wants to breakup with me, i guess i would have to hear first what his reason would be. Then if i really love him, i wouldnt give up so easily and try to find ways to patch things up first to save our relationship. However,if there really is nothing else that we both can do to save the relationship, then maybe i would set him free.
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• Philippines
30 Jan 07
person can really feel if her/his partner has already fallen out of love. So if your partner dont love you anymore, you dont have any choice but to set him free because love dont work just one side. You will just make yourself hurt. Its painful to let go especially if that person the one you love so much but in order to move on you have to set him free.
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• United States
30 Jan 07
It depends on what's best for both of the people in the relationship. Letting go hurts, but sometimes it has to be done.
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@cheenlly (3477)
• Philippines
29 Jan 07
its no use to fight for your love if your partner doesnt love you anymore. LOve dont work just one sided. So the best thing even it is very painful and hurting to you, you should set him free. so that both of you will be happy.
@aksagi (413)
• India
29 Jan 07
U wan say set him free......its good approach.. as when we care its not taken into accountability when he feels restless he definitely returns.....
• Philippines
29 Jan 07
i agree with you. you can't live your life long enough trying to look for ways to save your relationship but it you really love a person, you'd do anything. If that's not what he really wants and he needs freedom and singlehood, then i'd set him free.
• Philippines
2 Feb 07
what will i do in this kind of situation.if my boyfriend breaks up with me,i would ask the reasons first and if he says its my fault,then i will tell him i will change or try to change whatever he thinks is wrong with me but if he insists that he wants out,then i'll let him go..I always did in my past relationships but there was one time i did fight for a relationship but it turned into a complete disaster so after that just a itsy bitsy feeling that a guy im into is on the verge of saying goodbye,i do it first..saves me from further humiliation if he did tell me personally.
• China
29 Jan 07
if i love someone, i would stay with her. feeling is feeling, when you drop in love, you want to see her every minute; then if you arre married for several years, you can enjoy a times each week or long.