Abortion or not

Egypt
January 29, 2007 8:56am CST
If you got pregnant by mistake whether from your boyfriend, your husband, or from a one day stand relationship, would you keep the baby or would you do abortion?
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29 responses
• United States
30 Jan 07
If I was obviously dumb about the whole thing and hadn't opted for any sort of protection at all when I knew that it would have been possible, I would keep the baby. If I really didn't want the child, I would put them up for adoption. There's not excuse for abortion if you can stop the pregnancy from happening.
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• Egypt
6 Feb 07
But sometimes people use contraceptives and they still get pregnant as contraceptives are not all 100% safe. Pluse adoption is illegal in some countries. For example, in Egypt, you can support a child financially but you can not adopt the child. Thanks for the reply
@FrancyDafne (2048)
• Italy
6 Feb 07
If I'd got pregnant by mistake I'd keep my baby. I'd love him/her, I'd grow him/her the best possible. But if I got pregnant by violence not, I wouldn't be able to keep inside me a fetus per nine months. However, if a woman who gets pregnant by mistake decides not to give birth to her baby I wouldn't blame her.
• Egypt
7 Feb 07
Thanks for being understanding, I appreciate that, and thanks for responding :)
• Italy
7 Feb 07
it's a pleasure for me, I always try to be understanding, I find so difficult speaking English....
• United States
6 Feb 07
I would have an abortion. No qualms, no hesitations, no regrets. I don't want to be pregnant, I don't want to give birth, I don't want children. I don't understand children, I don't want children, I don't really like children. However, none of that is going to stop me from making love with my husband. I am on the Ortho Evra patch for ply-cystic ovarian syndrome, as well as for birth control. But birth control fails sometimes. I made up my mind two years ago. I won't have children.
• Egypt
6 Feb 07
Wow, you're very decisive. I admire your honesty and courage. What does your husband think of the issue? Does he agree on not having children at all? Is your opinion related to the circumstances of the world we live in now? Or is it built only on personal preferences? Thanks for the reply :)
• United States
7 Feb 07
My fiance agrees with me. My opinion is based on the fact that I simply do not like or want children. That may change in 15 years, but I sincerely doubt it. I have never been able to understand or relate to children and I don't see how that would ever change. I never had a child's mentality, so I have no idea how children think or why they behave the way they do and I have a very short temper and no patience for bad behaviour or stupidity. Two years ago, I didn't have a period for two months. The first thing we did was look up abortion clinics. Thankfully I wasn't pregnant, but we are educated about it now. I plan on putting together a savings to pay for an abortion if I ever have the misfortune of getting pregnant.
• United States
29 Jan 07
It's not the childs fault that you got pregnant, and the child shouldn't loose it's life because of it. I am totally against abortion, i feel that it's murder. And it should never be legal. If you can't take care of a child, then you can always put it up for adoption, just don't murder the child. The child should have life just like we do. A chance to live their life to the fullest. To become someone, and have dreams fulfilled.
• United States
29 Jan 07
GREAT answer! =)
• Egypt
30 Jan 07
I understand your point and it is definately a legitimae one. Thank God I'm not pregnant :) Thanks for the reply
@IMHO_Dan (175)
• India
29 Jan 07
again a mans view forgive me if i am wrong. when my wife was pregnent with our sec kid we thought of abortion coz of our financial situation, but it gave me quite a lot of sleepless nights n thinking,coz i think that its like killing ur kid, how ever small it is still it has got life n think abt the struggling it has got to go thru....
• Egypt
29 Jan 07
I completely understand your view. I heard that sometimes when the doctor is injecting the baby with the substance to do the abortion the baby feels and tries to escape the shot. However, I read that for example, in the begining of pregnancy the baby is not formed yet. its just five cells that are joined together so there is no consiousness yet. So if women do abortion in this stage, I think the baby might not feel it. But I'm thinking of cases such as women who were raped for example and they conceived from this rape, should they do abortion or should they still keep it, minding the psychological effects of keeping a baby out of rape. Thanks for the great reply
• United States
6 Feb 07
I totally diagree with abortion! If you are raped or not...that is a child! If anybody gets pregnant and doesn't know what to do....I will help you, no questions asked! I won't judge you, won't disclose any information to anyone! I just want to help you and your baby! If for some reason you can't keep or don't want your baby or child...I will help you! I will take your baby and guarantee your child will find a wonderful home! Please, help our children!
• Oman
6 Feb 07
if i got pregnant its my own fault so no i will not kill an innocent baby just because i want to cover up my mistake. a girl i know had an abortion because ahe got pregnant by her boyfriend and he didnt want to marry her. i think i was the only one who cried for the baby. The people who helped her had a miscarriage when they were having their first child. Thats karma.
• Egypt
6 Feb 07
I think that abortion is a very harsh operation for a person to go through and i believe that it has many psychological as well as physical consequences on the person who does. However, I don't believe in God's revenge for having an abortion. I think that what happened to your friends is just a coincidence. Thanks for the reply :)
@nadh1981 (75)
• India
6 Feb 07
Abortion.. I feel, it is a sin. But better do it if you are confident that you cant take care of the child. Because you will be feeling guilty through out if you cant grow up your child happily keeping him happy. But you do some one want to do such a kind of blender? A little care can avoid such things so that you don't have to kill a baby. How can some one kill a baby?
• Philippines
6 Feb 07
Of course not. I wouldn't allow my wife to commit abortion just because of unwanted pregnancy. It's already a life and even if we are on a financial crisis, Im sure God will guide us.
• Egypt
6 Feb 07
Wow, you're faith in God is very strong, I admire that a lot. Thanks for the reply :)
@MoOoDy (112)
• Egypt
6 Feb 07
i am a man, but i don't like abortion, the girl must face the situation that she had put herself in; the poor baby don't have any mistake to be killed !!!
• Egypt
6 Feb 07
I have to disagree. Having a baby is not the woman's responsibility or mistake alone. Its a shared responsibility between both partners, the woman and the man. Please do not blame women alone. Thanks for the reply
@mkeanel01 (974)
• Philippines
6 Feb 07
i never agree in abortion eversince that topic exploded in the world..why? simple i value human life..the one in the womens womb is a life,a breathing human..so how come they abort it..as i always tells my friends.."dont try to make babies if you dont intend to live with them"
• Egypt
6 Feb 07
Well, you definately have a point. However, in the first few weeks of pregnancy babies are not yet formed. They are just an assembly of five tissues and that set. There is no consciousness and there is no breathing. Thanks for the reply :)
@plantit1 (298)
• United States
6 Feb 07
No I could not have an abortion. I did get pregnant when I was 16 and my dad wanted me to give the baby up for adoption. Abortion wasn't legal back then even though some girls did manage to find drs willing to do it. I kept her and am so glad I did. She's been a great joy to my life.
• Egypt
6 Feb 07
That's really great, I'm so touched. I wish you and wish her best of luck, and thanks for the reply :)
@Anakata2007 (1787)
• Canada
6 Feb 07
Too hard to answer. It depends on so much. I personally would keep the baby, but I am married and my husband and I have lost 4 babies already. I could not end a developing life inside me, even though i know it would end by miscarriage because I am a recurrent miscarrier. but I have to at least try and give the new life my faith and hope that maybe this time it will stick! So that's me, but I guess if it was a boyfriend or one day stand (assuming I wasnt' married) well it's hard to say, I always said I would never/could never abort a baby, but I'v never been in those shoes, so I don't really know.
• Egypt
6 Feb 07
I admire your honesty, and I'm sorry for you losing four babies. It must have been very hard on you. I'm really sory, and hope that next time it will stick. Thanks for the reply :)
• Canada
30 Jan 07
I believe that if by mistake a person gets pregnant, and if she is dare enough to face society than it is ok in case of illegal relations, otherwise go for abortion.
• Egypt
6 Feb 07
I don't think that abortion is just for illegal pregnancy. Lots of married people use abortion because a child is a lot of responsibility, social and financial, and sometimes people have restraining factors that disallow them from having children at this point in time, and therefore, they resort to abortion. Thanks for the reply
@mommycrat (148)
• United States
29 Jan 07
Taking the life of a child, no matter how small, should never be an option. The "woman's body woman's choice" mentality needs to be re-educated. One a child is conceived, it's his or her life that needs to be cared for and considered, not only the mother's. If you really aren't in a position to have a child, take necessary precautions (including abstinence, if necessary). In case of rape? Pregnancy from rape is incredibly rare. HOwever, if it does happen, comitting one crime to negate another won't solve anything. whether you raise him/her or an adoptive family does, the child still has a life to live.
• Egypt
30 Jan 07
Well, my husband and I are extra careful and thank God, I'm not pregnant yet. Well conceiving from rape is not rare. It might be rare in where you come from. I have been working with the United Nations High Commissioner for Refugees and I've seen many women who conceived from rape. Its horrible. You know my concern about keeping a baby from rape is that, at least in the cases I've seen, the women are noe psychological capable to take care of themselves, imagine a baby. Anyways, its a tuff call. Thanks for the reply :)
• India
29 Jan 07
ok its a question that just has some significance in my life as let me tell you im married n i had my first baby in may 2005. n well i was taking precautions after that n still later after 6mnths i got confirmed pregnant again! well we werwe shocked n in doubt of wat to do...we loved each other sooomuch n lovd our creation , we were advised by our families to drop it as it was too early, n well we didnt hav the heart to kill our child so we went ahead n i delivered my second son in aug 2006. oh hes soo adorable , their such lovely kid... n yes frm now on im extra careful!
• Egypt
30 Jan 07
Wow, that's a very touching story. I'm glad you kept him. I wish you and your family health, success and joy. Thanks for the reply :)
@dmillman (2273)
• United States
29 Jan 07
I would never have an abortion unless going through with the pregnancy would kill myself and/or the child. If I didn't want it, I would put it up for adoption. I would not kill the baby just because I didn't want it. God gave it to me for a reason. Maybe if someone else raises it, he/she could be a president or something. Who knows. I could never have an abortion. I had a miscarriage once, and that was tough enough. Even though it wasn't my fault, I still felt responsible. To this day it saddens me when I think about it. To think that people could do it willingly is just sick!
• Egypt
30 Jan 07
I'm very sorry for your miscarrige. I hope you're feeling better now. Thanks for the reply
• United States
29 Jan 07
If I got pregnant by my husband I wouldn't have an abortion. Because I would be married and able to have a baby. And if someone got pregnant by a boyfriend or a one night stand, it was the choice they made so they should keep the baby. I think someone should only choose the choice of abortion if someone was raped.
• Egypt
30 Jan 07
I think I agree with you Thanks for the reply :)
• Indonesia
21 Feb 07
Definitely not! Baby is God's gift. If I do that abortion, it means that I kill my baby.
@jahrakal (38)
• Indonesia
7 Feb 07
I will say no to abortion. It' a murder. I believe that even an embrio has right to live.
• Philippines
7 Feb 07
My friend went thru that situation.. sadly she had an abortion... but if you ask me I will never have an abortion because the child is made with love.. and it has the right to live just like we do... if a parent doenst want to have a baby.. 9 months is all it takes and she can put it up for an adoption.. there are plenty of parents who dont have a chance of having a baby.. c: