How many kids do you think is too much?

United States
January 29, 2007 11:17am CST
I have one; my parents had two. I have encountered families with 6 or more children at any given time (often from two fathers, but the one with 10 was the original parents). My father is hard pressed to get both of his children together; most families with larger numbers can't even marshall the entire family, except for weddings and funerals. All of these families are still alive, so this is not ancient past and all are Americans. Where do you draw the line?
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7 responses
12 Feb 07
Personally for others it's upto them. For myself i think 4 is enough. I want two while i'm younger. (currently one) and other in 2 years time and then the rest when i'm older and my son now is around 16. So i know what it's like to be a older father, who had the skills at a young age. Personally i think i'll be the same as i am now but all this depends on my wife. We both have simular dreams as parents. =) Kudos! ~Joey
• United States
13 Feb 07
Kudos for remembering the wife--she's the one who has to be preggers each time! A very mature attitude, if I say so myself!
13 Feb 07
How could i forget here? she's right beside me in my avatar!! =) Joking aside. Indeed she does, i can't imagine what it's like giving birth but having a headache is bad enough so i won't forget the fact it's hard for women. (opps i did it again) ignore the jokes! =) Thank you. I can be at times =)
• United States
29 Jan 07
I know a family where they have 14 kids and they are all by the same 2 people (there is no step kids or half kids here) Better yet they have started all their names with "J" I think that is too many. With that many you dont have the time to devote one on one time with each of them I'm not sure how many would be too many but for each family it is different.
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• United States
29 Jan 07
Wow, that woman must have been pregnant forever! Don't people understand how to use birth control or better--JUST SAY NO! Don't get me wrong, my grandmom was the youngest of 14, but that's got to be hard to take care of those children financialy. And what's up with naming all names starting with the letter 'J'?
@XxAngelxX (2830)
• Canada
7 Feb 07
I think we have to draw the line at where our finances say. It is very expensive to raise children in today's world. We want to be able to provide the best lives we can for our children, so I think we have to let our finances dictate when enough is enough.
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• Philippines
29 Jan 07
it is too much if you cant let both ends meet for the family. it is too much if you cant afford to give them a good education. it is too much if you all dont fit anymore into your house! lol
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• United States
29 Jan 07
Imagine raising 10 kids in a row home. This is my boyfriend's family--only dad works and 9 of them are boys. I can't even begin to imagine how that went (all the boys had to share a bedroom!). I don't think all of them were there once the daughter was born. The parents managed to do this on one salary AND send the kids to Catholic school (at least until 4th grade). Sheesh--I couldn't keep up with that!
• United States
7 Feb 07
There isn't an answer for this. When you can't pay for the food, clothing or shelter, then I think it is too many...but every family is different. Some are happy with one, some need five. And with blended families making up 50% of the population now, families are getting bigger again.
@davaoguy (319)
• United States
11 Feb 07
As the world population is already burgeoning, i think two kids will be enough. However, it really depends on how many you can afford to feed, clothe and shelter. I came from a large family because we were six kids and it was kind of difficult for us. I don't know how my parents managed to send us all to school. That's why to become financially stable, maintaining a smaller family will be better.
@Bizziebod (3497)
7 Feb 07
There are still many families out there who are still having between 6 - 10 children, it's not right if you are expecting the state to look after them and there's where I draw the line. Have as many as you can afford! My mother is from a large family and she loved and loves having all the brothers and sisters and I suppose it's a comfort to you when you get older!
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