People help me out here? What is more important to you when you first meet

@ESKARENA1 (18299)
January 30, 2007 6:45am CST
someone, Is it the look on their face, their clothes or what is going on in their minds? I really would like to know
10 responses
• India
9 Feb 07
HI ESKARENA1 . THE FIRST ASPECT I LOOK FOR WHEN I MEET A PERSON IS THE CONFIDENCE LEVEL IN HIM/HER. IF THE PERSON IS CONFIDENT THEN HE/SHE HAS A PERFECT EYE CONTACT WITH ME AND IS NOT AT ALL AFRAID OF WHAT HE/SHE IS SPEAKING. THIS ALSO HELPS AS A BASIS OF TRUST FORMATION BETWEEN ME AND THE PERSON AND I WOULD ALWAYS LIKE TO MEET SUCH PERSONS. THIS IS WHAT CREATES AN IMPRESSION ON ME. WHAT ABT U?
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@ESKARENA1 (18299)
9 Feb 07
ok i think confidence is vital, but i am one of those people who listens to what someone says, im a mind person. blessed be note for the future, please dont reply in capitals, its rude
• India
14 Feb 07
Hey thanks for the note but can u explain why do u consider it to be rude if i reply in capitals.. Actually i dont keep the track whether i m writind in capitals or small letters.
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@ESKARENA1 (18299)
14 Feb 07
its just internet protocol, and mylot have asked us not to do it
30 Jan 07
words arn't needed on first meeting, eyes are the windows to the soul and they tell a lot about a person. I value eye contact as very important, to me when I first meet someone I can look them in the eye and hopefully make them feel comfortable with me, I concider myself open and honest i hope these attributes I have help me make descissions about people tc xx
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@ESKARENA1 (18299)
30 Jan 07
thank you for your response, how long do you think it takes you to make a descission about someone ?
31 Jan 07
it depends what it is i'm deciding but how long is a piece of string ?
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@ESKARENA1 (18299)
31 Jan 07
very true my friend, very true. Blessed be
@wolfie34 (26792)
• United Kingdom
15 Feb 07
Having the ability to make me laugh i.e having a sense of humour which to me is very important. Someone who is not afraid of having a laugh and is not miserable. I'm not too bothered about their dress to be honest. Laughter breaks the ice especially on the first meet.
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@ESKARENA1 (18299)
15 Feb 07
yes laughing works for me too, it helps everyone relax and when we relax we tend to have a better time, good answer
• Australia
9 Feb 07
I think the smile, but more than the smile: the smile that comes from the eyes, because the eyes speak more than anything else. Then, beyond the smile is the attitude and personality. Though not always reliable, I believe first impressions count and are nearly always right. I remember when I first met a new couple who came into our group. I must admit that when I first saw them I wondered why such a very handsome man had such a very plain wife. When I actually met them, I was surprised at the attractiveness of the woman. That couple became good friends, and it wasn't long at all before I wondered what on earth had made me think she was plain. She is one of the most beautiful women I know. At first sight, she was extremely plain. At first meeting, she was attractive. Her attraction was her personality emanating from her eyes and lighting her whole face.
@ESKARENA1 (18299)
9 Feb 07
that is beautiful, i agree when someone smiles from their eyes there can be no deception it is the smile of the soul from deep inside , ive heard it called inner beauty and this works for me
@lucalucky (1840)
• Italy
3 Feb 07
Not easy answer but I try. Obviously the first impression is (cannot be different) on the look of face and body, then, probably about how he/she is dressed, last but not least the mid. What she/he thinks is the most important thing but it is not the first one that you can know and see.
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@ESKARENA1 (18299)
3 Feb 07
ok good response and a plus from me, but surely we should try to look deeper than the first view of physicality and look inside heads first of all
@adigaadu (195)
• India
30 Jan 07
well..boys look at girls physique..but girls looka t the glow and char,m in the boy's face..u will be not knowing it..
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@ESKARENA1 (18299)
30 Jan 07
but are we all so cosmetic? i do so hope not
@Bizziebod (3526)
30 Jan 07
Hi Eskarena, The most important thing to me is the expression in someones eyes, how sincere they look, whether they can hold my eyes or whether they look away. I suppose how people dress automatically gives you an insight into what that person is like without doing it consciously. I think you make a lasting impression on someone in the first two seconds of meeting them!
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@ESKARENA1 (18299)
30 Jan 07
i agree my friend, im interested if it is something we share or if it is something that varies between people, im still not sure but thank you for your response blessed be
@gabs8513 (48715)
• United Kingdom
30 Jan 07
Well this is a bit a tough lol to be honest I have never thought about this When I meet someone I always get first Impression from their Attitude and how they come across Like the other Night my Sons Friend who I have known 10 years brought his Girlfriend round, she was ignorant and sure of herself, no not shy I know Shyness I didn't show it but I was not keen on her and first Impressions always prove me right, when I said Hello to her she carried on talking to the Dog, so I did not talk again lol
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@ESKARENA1 (18299)
30 Jan 07
haha yes i can see why? how rude is that? I think we do make our minds up about people very quickly. It has been estimated by psychologists that we decide about someone in the first 15 seconds of meeting them, but im not sure what criteria we use thank you for your reply
@kmgupta (561)
• India
6 Feb 07
first face,then cloth and after that behind clothes
@ESKARENA1 (18299)
6 Feb 07
to me it should be that we take time to get to know someone before we make a decision , but so many people seem hypnotised by the shape of our head, isnt this very shallow?
@nengs10 (3188)
• Philippines
2 Sep 08
You have to look at the physical appearance first. You should check how the person carries herself together with the clothes and all the things he or she wears. After, observe fervently his or her personality while both of you are talking. Enjoy.