I'm pissed! ~People not raising their own kids!

@good2Bme (103)
United States
January 30, 2007 8:00am CST
My best friends father is raising his 2-year-old granddaughter. Why? The child's parents are too busy partying and getting in trouble to do it their selves. He fought for custody to save this little girl, but I see how hard it is on him and wonder, how could you put yourself through this? He raised his kids good and in a loving environment-don't understand why his boy would be like this. Would you take on this responsibility? How would you handle it? Does it make you mad to see so many grandparents raising grandchildren?
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@fabwisp (1328)
30 Jan 07
In situations like yours yes. But I am always willing to hear the other side before jumping to conclusions. Sometimes it is through no fault of the parent that grandparents have taken charge. I think if it came to it I would take on the responsibility of my grandchildren
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@icequeen (2842)
• Canada
30 Jan 07
Yes...that should not be happening. If you are old enough to have a child, then you are old enough to take care of it. I think sometimes grandparents need to step in because the parents are so out of control...but then you have to think about the child too. I would take it on if I had too...but I know my son will be a good father so that won't be an issue. I think if you raise your kids right...then hopefully they will be good parents...and you won't have these problems...
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@icebucks (127)
• Philippines
30 Jan 07
I dont see anything wrong with grandparents taking care of their grandkids but!!! it must be of good reasons. If its because you need to have the job or in an emergency situation or in need of some help for some time being... but for them to take care of your kids because you're busy having the fun at night.. My oh my! that's a shame...
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@xXmeganxX (4422)
30 Jan 07
i think that's not fair what so ever, the people had the child so they should look after him and take full responsibility over him too, the grandparents shouldn't be doing the work but if there capable and willing then at least there helping out, it's nice for them to do that but it does make me sad seeing grandparents looking after other person's children because they have been through all that before and now is there time to rest for retirement etc!
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@sfdocnpi (42)
• Philippines
30 Jan 07
I think that all of us would raise our grandchildren if we had to. I know I would. Sometimes people make mistakes and have a hard time getting it together even if they were raised in a loving environment. Those grandchildren are fortunate that they have someone to raise them in a loving environment.
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@good2Bme (103)
• United States
31 Jan 07
Call me cold hearted, mabey I will change with age, but no. I have 4 kids, and if they have a child, it's up to them. I will be there and support them in any way, but I don't have the patience to completly raise a little one!
@dbeamon (128)
• United States
1 Feb 07
I would raise my grandkids if i needed to just so that i culd always be a part of there lives. I admire those grandparents who do. I know what they go through raising them and not being able to raise them. Think of it this way atleast they are being loved and valued not only as a grandchild but as a human being. I think that the grandparents that are raising there grandbabies show that they have a good heart and is willing to help. In the bible it says do unto others. I try to live by that. I dont necessarily agree that they should but atleast the children are healthy and happy and being taken care of. My father has been taking care of my neices and nephews and i know that he never regrets it. He loves all of his kids no matter what. That is unconditional love.
• United States
30 Jan 07
I don't know what I would do without my parents for days that school isn't open and I have to work. My parents also watch my kids on Wednesday nights when me and my spouse go bowling. But I do believe that grandparents are being taken advantage of in lots of cases. There are people I work with that their parents watch their children while they are working, and then when they are done working they go out partying. I've also heard them putting down their parents when they wouldn't watch the children for them when they wanted to go out and socialize.
@good2Bme (103)
• United States
31 Jan 07
My parents have helped me too, but to raise them full time would be too hard on them. I can't imagine putting that kind of pressure on anyone that age. They're in there seventies!
@Mamaof2 (574)
• Canada
30 Jan 07
It makes me mad in one sense...as they have already raised their children and shouldn't have to raise their Grandchildren. BUT in another sense...I am releived that there are some Grandparents out there that would fight to give their Grandchildren a better life. It isn't fair...but I guess if we look at in a sense of the children still having some where to go and still having the oppertunity of being raised in a loving enviroment... It makes it better in a sense. The children didn't ask for any of this... that is the sad thing!!!
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• Philippines
30 Jan 07
Well, poverty really sux
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@bhogz13 (126)
• Philippines
30 Jan 07
Its so sad to see grandparents takng care of their grandsons or grandaughters because of irresponsible parents...they should just relaxing because and enjoying their life instead of carrying the burden of the burden of irresponsible parents...But because out of love they care and raise the childs of their sons or daughters..coz who will do it anyway...
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• United States
30 Jan 07
i could never have my mom raise my son. not that she wouldnt do a good job cause she would, she raised me great! but i would miss my baby way to much! i think its really sad that parents still act like that even after they have a baby. its really messed up, but luckly for the little girl she has such a loving grandfather. the parents of the little girl need to grow up and take care of thier daughter. she didnt ask to be born. its not her fault. they can still go out and "party". just not every night or how often they do it. me and my husband have not been to a club or anything since i found out i was pregnant. i didnt want to be around the smoke. but even now after he is here me and my husband still havent gone to a club. even though we plan on it, it doesnt happen. and yes if i was in his shoes i would have done the same thing. but i would be very disappointed in my son.
@mobyfriend (1019)
• Netherlands
30 Jan 07
I respect your friend for looking out for his granddaughter but I think the parents should raise her. It's a different case when they are abusive. I should say that they should get another shot at raising her with the help of professionals and if that fails than he could file for custody. My heart goes out for that girl and for your friend.
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@XxAngelxX (2832)
• Canada
30 Jan 07
It makes me sad to see this kind of situation. I wonder how they must feel when they look at their own children and see that they just are incapable of raising their own children and I wonder if they think it is them to blame. I would definitely take on this responsibility as I wouldn't want to see my grandchildren grow up with parents who did not care about what happened to them.
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@IMHO_Dan (175)
• India
30 Jan 07
These are real bed news, I have got 2 kids 2yrs n 6 mths i cant stay without seeing them for more than a few hrs, i just cant do something like that,n i wudnt want to be friends who wud do so,i just hate them.
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@feeding11 (222)
• United States
30 Jan 07
If my kids became bad parents you bet I would take the responsiblity. It is wrong for someone not to be responsible. The child always comes first. If you left them to be the bad parents they are, what would happen to your grandchild? They would have to deal with problems and emotional damage. It's best at that point they have a loving environment and to know when they get older that nothing was their fault and their not to blame for having parents like that. I know other kids that are being raised by their grandparents and its a much better situation for the kid to be with them or with the natural parents or ending up in foster care. So don't be pissed about it, be glad that there are loving grandparents out there.
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• United States
30 Jan 07
Greyback, if you read what she wrote you would see that this Grandfather raised his kids well, but doesn't understand why his kid is the way he is now.
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@babyreyn (934)
• Philippines
20 Feb 07
I am glad there are some grand parents such as your friend who take the responsibility for his son. Although, it is not his responsible at all, but for the sake of his granddaughter, he took the responsibility. Better raise the child properly and give the love and care and guidance that his father didn't give.
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@proxyt47 (32)
• United States
17 Feb 07
kids are meant to be taken care of and it does not really mean who is taking take of the kids.
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• United States
1 Feb 07
Yes my inlaws help finacially so much for my sister in law who choose to have 6 kids and she chooses to do dumb things like get peircing and tattoo's go out drinking and bowling and the kids go without food and whatever. It would be different if she got those things BUT provided for her kids. It is sad but it is so nice that that child has a grandparent that cares to take the child verses going into foster care.
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• United States
31 Jan 07
It does anger my that some parents only care for themselfs and dont put thier children first. My mother in law takes care of 3 of her grandchildren, my hubby is the only one to take care of his own kids in his family and I am the only one in mine. I t is verry sad, I wouldnt give up my kids and let someone else do it. I love my children and want to be there for them and teach them.
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• China
31 Jan 07
Heheheeee,they have no choice.Sometimes is good,b/c they don't live them,then the child can make them not feel lonely.
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@saunty (604)
• India
31 Jan 07
well !! if the grand parents are capable enough to take good care of their grand children , then there is no harm ..but if they are too old and r not capable then its definitely unjust to give them his reponsibilty...
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