Wedding : if you could do it over again, what would be different?

United States
January 30, 2007 3:42pm CST
If you could have your wedding over again, what would you do differently, if anything? We had a wonderful wedding. It was how I always dreamed and more, but if I could go back, I would try and worry less about the little things. I was worried about picking the right color shade of the flowers. Did I want bold or pastel? You know, I don't think people even really noticed. I was also worried about songs the band would play and we made a list that we did/did not want played. The band didn't even follow the list. I was a little upset, but everything worked out. I guess they knew what they were doing. Lots of people danced and everyone had a great time.
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• United States
2 Feb 07
no, I am ready for a divorce, lol
@msqtech (15226)
• United States
8 Feb 07
I am sorry you feel that way. When I was married and caring for my sick wife I thought I wouldnt want to be married again but I got lonely after she passed then wanted to look for someone to share life with again.
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• United States
9 Feb 07
Sadly, sometimes relationships just don't work. I'm not going to beat myself up about, life's to short. I have been married 23 years. I have five wonderful kids from this marriage and some good times. Sorry to hear about the loss of your wife.
@LittleMel (14055)
• Canada
30 Jan 07
I wouldn't. My wedding was Cinderella theme and I was thinking of an elope. My family thought it will be impolite to do it that way, so we ended up with Cinderella wedding. It was good but not really what I'd like it to be. I prefer to redo my honeymoon than my wedding.
• United States
30 Jan 07
what would you do differently for your honeymoon? did you not like the location?
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• Canada
31 Jan 07
my wedding was great with only a few exceptions. im lutheran but married a catholic so of course we got married in a catholic church, that was fine, but the priest was drunk. my name is Suzanna, so he kept calling me susan or suzanne( which drives me nuts) my husband was so nervous when the priest said repeat after me, and called me Susan, my husband called me Susan. it drive me insane.lol other than that there isnt a thing i would change. my reception was great.
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• United States
31 Jan 07
That is really funny. I guess it makes a good story. Look at it that way. :)
@ssh123 (31100)
• India
30 Jan 07
I will have the same bride, I will have the same guests to witness the wedding, I select the same honeymoon place. Only new thing is You are invited, because you gave me the idea of re-enactment.
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• United States
30 Jan 07
awh... that's nice. :)
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@shannon76 (1234)
• United States
30 Jan 07
I loved my wedding... It was black and white with red roses... Very stunning. The only thing I would have done differently was invite more people. It seemed that there were not many people there. Maybe I am wrong but who knows! But that is all. Everything was perfect!
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• United States
30 Jan 07
That is great. That sounds so beautiful. :)
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• Singapore
1 Feb 07
This is the moment that i ever dream of. I would like my wedding in different countries, so the culture would be different. And yes for the celebration i would make it different than any other parties if i have chance to marry over and over again.
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@villageanne (8554)
• United States
31 Jan 07
We had a small wedding at the ministers home with just his immediate family and mine present. No I would not change a thing. It is not the wedding that makes the marriage. It is the couple that makes the marriage. I got a wonderful man as a husband. he is my best friend and we have been married for 28 years. NO I would not change a thing.
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31 Jan 07
If I could have my time over again I wouldn't have got married. I thought it would make me trust my partner more and make us closer but in fact he just went along with it for me and I did all the work and didn't make any difference to our relationship at all.
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@dejiflow (128)
• Nigeria
31 Jan 07
I would not change a thing. God really made it a great wedding day for us, and I give Him the glory, in the name of Jesus.
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@sandie61 (2359)
• United States
31 Jan 07
if I had to do it over again I would like to have a big church wedding. we were married by the mayor in a very short ceremony. only had a few relatives there.
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• United States
31 Jan 07
If I could redo my wedding I would not have it at all. It was great in itself (it was a backyard bbq wedding and it was what I always wanted) but family ruined it. So since I'm never getting remarried the whole thing is tainted in my eyes. I think it would have been better just to go to the jp's office and save ourselves all of the heartache. My day certainly wasn't what I dreamed of all my life.
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@diancute (111)
• Indonesia
31 Jan 07
i was marry in running. so there weren't many people there. only few of good friends. if i could have it over again i would like to ask for my mother's permition and invite her to my wedding.
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@mikaghi (389)
• United States
31 Jan 07
my wedding was a disaster..it was just terrible..no one helped and at the end it turned out to be a hastily made dinner..tasteless and pure torture. i am glad that at least i got the right man.. if i had change to do over..i will not invite almost half of my family and get a better venue, better management and better food but the same guy..he is the real gem..
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@rozebara (139)
• Philippines
31 Jan 07
if i had a chance to do it again, well im giving more time to prepared everything first ill make sure that all people close into my heart will be present on my special occasion, then i want solemn ceremony full of white roses everywhere i want all pastel color, like baby pink and powder blue, the music will be a worship instrumental. And my husband wear white tuxedo then i wear white with maching gold pearl. Wow what a great remake of my wedding wish it will happen again.
@nmw2005 (1197)
• United States
31 Jan 07
There are a few things I would change, The photographer only took one fully length picture in my gown and it didn't even come out all that great. I actualy blew up the picture that my cousin took. She also only took one clost up picture of my husband, I requested more. The videographer was also 20 minutes late. For the most part the reception was nice, though they made me the wrong cake. Oh well what are you going to do.
@cutepenguin (6457)
• Canada
31 Jan 07
I'd have been a bit more assertive. There were a few small issues with some of my MIL's friends, and it was a bit stressful. I think I would just tell her not to have them "help" (not that she asked me).
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@cassidy22 (2975)
• United States
31 Jan 07
I would have had a backyard BBQ like my hubby wanted, and invited more people to come. OR, I would have just gone out of town and had a small wedding, no fuss, someplace interesting... akin to doing it vegas style, but without vegas!
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@ktroth (378)
• United States
30 Jan 07
I loved my wedding too. It was almost 12 years ago already! The only thing I would do differently is I would have hired a different photographer, and forked over the money to get a really outstanding one. My cousin got married last summer and the photographer she had was amazing. Some of the pictures he took were so original and so beautiful. I wish I had more than just a handful of photos I really love. I've always said if I were to do it over again, I would have eloped to save money. But I know I really wouldn't have. What girl doesn't dream about the white dress and a church full of people with a handsome groom waiting for her?
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@crystal8577 (1470)
• United States
30 Jan 07
There are a few things I would have changed. I would have gotten a different photographer. He did not take one picture of us with our daughters outside of the church. Our oldest was only 3 & had no clue what was going on. It seemed to scare her & she cried threw the formal church pictures. I am not sure what I could have done for her, but I wish I could change that. I also hated our DJ he not only did not play what we wanted (he had a list) when I complained about it to the owner, he lied. Other than that i can't think of naything. I was overall happy with most of it.
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@mrscinxav (118)
• United States
31 Jan 07
i got married in India.i had a very long hair up to my knee. i wanted a traditional Indian bridal hair style . but my husband belongs to Christianity and my hair was rolled into a bun shape. thats all. i cudnt resist.my dream hair do never came true.if i can change it , i will surely make my own style. the sad thing is after marriage i cut my hair to shoulder length. thats all . finished.
• United States
31 Jan 07
oh, that's too bad. that is really long hair. how long did it take to get that long? did it ever get in the way of things?