Nearly 30

Australia
January 30, 2007 8:41pm CST
I have a sudden urge to change everything in my life. I don't know where this urge has come from but I've had it for 6 months now. My job and infact the industry that I work in is no longer satisfying. I want a total makeover of my life. I have just started a class in Tai Chi, I am looking non stop for a different job with normal times of work, full time, where I can eat and sleep regularly. I think it may be a little selfish but I have figured that I should come before my works happiness. The job I am in now is getting frustrated with my change of the times I want to work against the times they want me to work. I have told them that I wont work on certain days anymore and that I wont work past 10pm at night. This means less work but more time for me. They have tried to tell me that I will be missing out on work because of this and I have said that I dont care, as long as I am happy. I want to do other things that I havent wanted to do before. I don't quite understand it but I feel like a totally different person. I think that as long as I can pay rent and the bills and buy food then I don't need to work my butt off. After all I don't save any money working harder and getting that little bit more money, it ends up going on travel to and from work anyway. Can anyone suggest to me what's going on, is it a getting to 30yrs old thing or is it just an I'm bored with my life.
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51 responses
• Philippines
31 Jan 07
It could be that you are already fed up with how you have been carrying your life these past years. It would be good idea to listen to yourself. Go find a new job where you could be happy. A fulfilling job is one which fits your talents, your skills, and the course you finished in school. When we embark on a job, we are hoping to find one which will be interesting enough and at the same time, pay us enough to cover all our expenses plus a little more we can set aside for emergencies and other activities.
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• Australia
31 Jan 07
I beleive this is true to a point. All of the things that I have been educated in I have done just for money. I don't like small offset printing, nursing or tourism hospitality anymore. I want to make money from my interests, the only thing is is that my interestes are shifting to things that I have never thought of before. I want the balance between life and work and don't want to work late hours, or hours that are so unreasonable to me like a 18hr shift for 7days in a week just for money. I want a life. I don't think I can even explain the angst I'm feeling over this properly. Most of the industries that I'm educated in require me to work long and late hours. I'm fairly fed up with them. I want normal hours where I can eat and sleep regularly. All I want is my afternoons and weekends for me not for work, which seems to suck the life out of us all.
@maryannemax (12173)
• Sweden
31 Jan 07
a normal life means that you can do everything within your knowledge and yet find time for yourself and others as well. a good job is a job where we can have fun and not just earn money. it's better to earn and have fun at the same time.
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• United States
1 Feb 07
I think you are just having a scared to get to the number 30 age time of thing. You may not know but unconsciously you are having a 30th b-day to come freaking effect. Try to think of what oy uhave done in your life, your success and goals in the future. Just hold and embrace the beauty yo have in yourself.
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• United States
1 Feb 07
Yes, I do believe it has something to do with you turning 30. I went through the same thing as well when I turned 30. I changed my job cos' I wasn't happy with the one I had, moved to a new apartment and ended a relationship that was going no where. All of which I'm glad I did. I think when you turn 30, you become more aware of the fact that life is short and there are still so many things you want to do and achieve compared to when you are in your teens and 20s when you think life is still ahead of you, you just want to enjoy and have fun, etc. Change is not always a bad thing. Good luck!
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@cillerman (403)
• Bulgaria
1 Feb 07
Every man should do what they feel they should do. The tought isn't the right thing always. Follow your heart. A total makeover is the best thing and on that age I think it's just GREAT to hear that a person wants to change his way of life. I dislike it very much when people say "it's the way I am". And they can't change... why? Because they just have principles that they can not overcome. Do not do that! Don't turn yourself into a selfish, no-feeling "rock". Do what you want to do, even if it's the craziest thing on Earth.
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@winky73 (1396)
• United States
31 Jan 07
Sounds to me like your prioritys have changed.....this happens to a lot of people when they get a bit older.I always used to think that I could only be happy if I had my job.....now I'm a homemaker and I'm perfectly content with it.It's all part of growing up I guess.
@fedge098 (1331)
• Philippines
31 Jan 07
i think your looking for a much simpler life than before. follow it and you gain your happiness from here. your courage to do those things is something i want to have someday. i also want my life to be more simple. ^_^
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• Australia
1 Feb 07
Oh yeah, a much simpler life is what I'm looking for. Just need to find it. Its very frustrating though.
@pradesh13 (287)
• India
31 Jan 07
HI I have the same feelings, I was doing a job which i did for 3 years then I took another job, my duties and responsibilities changed, I did that job for just 5 months as I was not getting the job satisfaction and it was a very hectic job, now i am away from my city in my 3rd job. In this job the profile is good but since the office is new i dont have work as such, I dont know what do do. I want to go back to my place soon, OH GOD PLEASE HELP ME OUT!
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• Australia
1 Feb 07
Hey you seem at a major loss, the country is not good for jobs, I know I was born in the country where the only jobs there are make you a pittance that doesnt pay rent, let alone food. Go back to the city, at least there you will have more choices.
• Malaysia
31 Jan 07
Hmm, I'm 26 and left my job last year. Job was okay but it wasn't in my blood to work for somebody so i left the company(a very good company btw - oil $ gas) and venture into something else. but that thing didn't work well either, now i'm into online opportunities since then. it's something i really wanted to do- build a business online and i'm heading towards my dreams. i've got alot of comments saying is it possible to find money online and etc.. like get a real job.. but i just brush them off. btw they are the ones that wanted to work for people for life right? why should i listen to them @@"? anyway if u are interested, you can visit my page here to get more info on what i'm doing dotmyspot.com/home :D haf fun!
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• Philippines
31 Jan 07
I used to feel that way, I was 25 then and i wanted to change everything I was doing things, a major make over so to speak. I was really bored with my 12 hour job and my social life is suffering badly. There are times I have to cancel a date for my work! So what I did was, I resigned from my job, went on teaching and my life started to change, I enjoy what I was doing, my social life was alive again and I had more time to spend with my family and those people I cared most. I think that's what you need too.
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• Australia
1 Feb 07
This is more of whet I wanna hear. I think it's great you found something that gives you your life back. Hope I can too.
@kiti1003 (13)
• Philippines
31 Jan 07
Hi! It's just but normal for us to feel bored and unsatisfied with our jobs if we lack the passion for them. It happens at any age I guess. I experienced that when I when I was still at my early 20's. Others may have experienced it at a latter age. Try to figure out what interests you and the things/actvities that could bring out the passion in you. Good luck :-)
@maryannemax (12173)
• Sweden
31 Jan 07
i had worked in a company before where i spent almost 12 to 14 hours a day there. i thought that overtime pays will make a difference. later, i learned that it did not help me anyway. yes, they pay increased but i had less time to be with my family and i felt more stressed than before. i quit my job (one reason, i don't like my supervisor, too). i can't find happiness in earning much. i find happiness in earning enough for me and that i am happy that i can help out with the bills at home. what's necessary is we get to cope with our payments and that we can still find time for ourselves and the people who love us.
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• Australia
1 Feb 07
This is how I feel, if I can pay the bills and buy enough food, then why would I need more money, when more money means less time for my happiness.
@cutepenguin (6457)
• Canada
31 Jan 07
I feel like I'm missing out on everything. i'll be thirty soon, and my job is kind of boring. I want to do something interesting andfun. I think it's because there are so many more options out there, it's hard to be satisfied with what you have.
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• Australia
1 Feb 07
I think it's more to do with the choices you have made at the moment, after a while you realise that they may not have been the rite choices and new choices need to be made. Thanks for your comment.
31 Jan 07
I have the feeling that I want to change my life as well. I don't always think it is because of your age, it is more to do with things staying the same for such a long time. I have also found that my priorities have changed and since having my children I would prefer to do a job where I can help people rather than just something to get money.
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• Australia
1 Feb 07
My priorities have totally changed to the point that just about everything thats in my life rite now apart from my cat, HAS to change for my own good. I can't afford to worry about others feeling on this subject any longer. I need it to change now. Thanks for your comments.
• Australia
31 Jan 07
Good luck with that! I know how your feeling coz i work in hospitality to and sometimes i feel its taking my life away from me. it was like that over xmas it was so busy. im a student to and it feels like im at uni all day and at work all night and ive no time to do all the things uni expacts of me. so i take time of work and they complain! im being a cow to my family and friends and sometimes resent them coz they seem to be holding me back from doing the things i dont wanna do but have to like work and uni. but all their doing is caring. lucky for me a have a boyfriend who understands all this even when im snappy with him and makes me take time of for me and us.he lsitens and always supports me no matter what and then tells me that our life and health is more important than any job ever and makes me say no to shifts. as long as theres money for bills and stuff thats all you need if you have each other.hope you have someone like that in you're life bcoz it helps heaps.i hope you get a job soon and are happy
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• Australia
31 Jan 07
I have a girl that I live with, we are no longer going out. She works at the same place so this is another part of the problem. I can't ever seem to get away from her either. I know it sounds rough, she does love me but I don't love her. I am getting to the point where I resent living with her. I had a rule which was to not get with someone at work though I feel like I've been pushed into a relationship with her because she is so good at munipulation. She doesn't understand and would rather argue with me about my decisions and then say that she isn't arguing with me. She always wants to direct my attention on her as if my decisions are based all around her. I'm not even with her. Every movement I make she questions me on it. Every time I do anything she thinks it's to do with her and wants to know why I did it. When I choose either to not to tell her there is an argument about it for days, over nothing. When I do tell her, as if it is her business anyway, there is an argumant about it for days. I wish she would move out because it's my place and te owners have said that I am first on the lease so if I want her to go all I have to do is tell them. As I said I want a new life and I thought that we could be friends but she thinks that that means that I will get back with her and I cant even look at anyone else even though I'm not with her without her giving me a guilt trip. Damn sick of this situation too. I find that I don't have the patients for it anymore. I've told her this the other day. She said that it was great for me to tell her this while she was so vulnerable and that she doesn't give me guilt trips. This is a contradiction in my mind. I don't feel that I have to suffer for the sake of her continual hurt emotions. It seems to me that she lives in a fantasy world and unless I tell her everyday until she cries that I'm not with her and don't want to be with her, she won't get it.
• United States
31 Jan 07
Sounds like you have fallen into a rut in your life and your heart is telling you it's time to make some necessary changes for your happiness. Definitely keep looking for different employment--who knows--you might be able to find something that fits you better with greater benefits as well. Everyone needs time for themselves and I am glad to see that you enrolled in a Tai Chi class. As long as you can provide for yourself, I see no reason why you can't explore other areas that will enrich your life and make you happy. Please tell your beautiful cat "hello" from me.
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• Australia
31 Jan 07
This is what I'm hoping to do. Sometimes it feels like I'm gonna be stuck doing the things I'm doing though. Every job I have gone for so far have rejected me on the grounds of experience. The Tai Chi class is just one change for the better as far as I'm concerned, I also want to do Yoga, just have to find a place for it. The more classes I do for myself though the more work is complaining that I am not available for them to use me to their advantage and goals. I want out but can't quit qithout having another job first. My first class in Tai Chi is tonight. Can't wait. By the way, Mo' says hello back. He really did, I told him and he meowed a hello back. Lol.
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@flowerchilde (12520)
• United States
1 Feb 07
I've always been a nonconformist! I think this is what you're feeling, you want to break out! [Now this is common in astrology, and involves an approximate 30 year cycle - now don't laugh! I have this as a permanent on my birth chart. And I just cannot stand doing what's expected of me, if I don't have the inclination to do it! I don't want to go along with the crowd! Want to listen to my own drum. I completely agree with you about having enough to pay the rent, or housing, food to eat, etc.. to take care of my own responsibilities.. but I do not have to keep up with some imaginery standard! Besides, life is people! Too much running on the endless treadmill closes our eyes to real life. Life is also nature. I always wanted to leave the city (which I was never there to begin with:) and commune with nature as much as possible. But that's me, I needed to know what life is, not what man thinks it is... Good luck!! I think good things will happen!
• United States
31 Jan 07
You are going through a normal stage in life. It is good to question these things at such a young age. I am 37 now and wish I made these decisions when I was 30. I am going through this right now, myself. I guess it is better than hitting 50 and having these thoughts. I hope that we both get to do, for a living, what we truely enjoy. Good luck.
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@dejiflow (128)
• Nigeria
31 Jan 07
As you get older, your priorities change, and so does your outlook and perspective on life. This is normal, and you should not feel bad about it. What matters is your happiness, and even if your choices make some loved ones feel bad, remember that it is wrong to please others and displease yourself. There is more to life than money.
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• United States
31 Jan 07
Your bored and 30, I had the same thing happen to me. It felt like I was in the same rut for to long and nothing was making me happy. I needed a change. Your stuck in a routine and it's time for something different. Always make time for yourself. I have a better job and a great relationship. I'm glad I changed my life because it all worked out for the better. Goodluck, God bless and take care.
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• India
31 Jan 07
Life is moving very fast. Each day we live counts our End and we are meeting the End soon we get closer and closer when we have a day. So achieve how much you can get in your life and make that in a happy sense
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