Cane or hand?

@hopeful28 (1439)
Singapore
January 31, 2007 6:18am CST
If you had to discipline your child, would you use your hand to slap or spank the child or would you prefer to use a cane?
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@smacksman (6076)
9 Feb 07
I would use my hand normally - on the bottom, but I did once use my teeth!! A friends little boy was on my knee playing when he suddenly bit my hand. As his ear was within reach I bit it. There was a moments relaxation in his bite at my assault on his ear but then he increased his bite. So I bit harder - he bit harder, etc. and guess what? I won. He burst into tears and I cuddled him and explained that it doesn't hurt yourself a bit to bite someone else but you must ralise you are inflicting pain. Not a good thing to do and a lesson learned the hard way.
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@hopeful28 (1439)
• Singapore
10 Feb 07
Using teeth to discipline a child is a new one on me but I get your point. I only hope the child also got the point. Sounds like we must be more creative too in our methods of discipline without using inflicting unnecessary pain.
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@TerryZ (22146)
• United States
7 Feb 07
Oh jeez I know I wouldnt use a cane thats just mean. So whats left I would use my hand and slap his or her little butt. But not hard.
• Canada
3 Feb 07
Neither, i think both are wrong. I think hitting in any form teaches children violence and i don't think someone can learn with violence. i prefer to use time outs to discipline.
4 Feb 07
I truly think that if you smack your children you lead them to believe that smacking is totally acceptable. It's not. Just like screaming or swearing at them; I personalyy don't agree with either. Just my opinion, though. I know lots of parents that feel that a little smack is ok. As long as it's just that.
• United States
3 Feb 07
None of the above. I'd rather try to talk to my child and reason with them somehow than hit them in any way. That only teaches them that hitting is ok, which of course it isn't.
@hopeful28 (1439)
• Singapore
4 Feb 07
I respect your view on this matter. Sometimes as adults we forget that what we do to our kids may be misunderstood and taken in a negative way and they don't appreciate physical discipline.
@CRiley27 (984)
• United States
3 Feb 07
I don't spank. But if I had to choose, I would use my hand. When the kids were smaller and would get into things, I would do a medium slap on the hands.
@hopeful28 (1439)
• Singapore
4 Feb 07
It sure takes wisdom to discipline kids doesn't it? But as long as whatever measures we use the important thing is the kids understand why they are being punished, but know that they are still dearly loved.
@cassidy22 (2975)
• United States
3 Feb 07
Neither. I choose to use more intellectual types of punishment. Time-outs, taking away privileges, and talking about what they did wrong. I still harbor resentment towards my parents for hitting me, I can't even hit my dogs.
@hopeful28 (1439)
• Singapore
4 Feb 07
I went through that too in my younger days so I can appreciate how you feel. There's more than one way to discipline a child but it shouldn't be violent.
• United States
3 Feb 07
Oh my-- both ways sound harsh. I discipline my kids with actions and words-- usually by taking away a privilege. I realize that some people do spank, but in this day in age I think using a cane could get you arrested!
@hopeful28 (1439)
• Singapore
4 Feb 07
I appreciate your method of discipline. I believe the important thing is to get the message across without having to resort to violence. I still remember the pain from my own experience as a child, especially when it was only I who got physically punished while my brother and sis never had a hand laid on them.
@rainbow (6763)
31 Jan 07
I don't really think either is acceptable, I tend to tap fingers if I get really desperate and say no, exxplaining why. I onnly slapped my older son once as he was biting my wrist and I couuldn't get him off, it really hurt, I was sick afterwards.
@hopeful28 (1439)
• Singapore
4 Feb 07
Poor you, I suppose you had no choice but to have to slap your son that time. But this is more of a reaction then a disciplinary action isn't it? That is how I see it. Hope your wrist has recovered since.
@rlshaw (872)
• United States
31 Jan 07
First of all I don't spank my child but if I did it would be my hand.. if you use something else you have no idea how hard you are hitting them.. at least with your hand you can tell better
@hopeful28 (1439)
• Singapore
31 Jan 07
Thank you for responding. I can appreciate your reasoning.
@manmaxman (850)
• India
12 Feb 07
these is the problem that is to be disussion becoz this decied that what u want from ur child want to scold hem or her or use hand to slap this hart hem or her but effective
31 Jan 07
I would never use an impliment to hit my children I think that is too cruel. I sometimes smack them with my hand but only very lightly as that is punishment enough, it doesn't need to hurt.