friend or not friend!!

@kaplya (1578)
India
January 31, 2007 11:32am CST
i gave one of my best friends reference to mylot & much to my surprize he just refused to join me here. i didn't expect that from a guy whom i consider my real friend especially when i let him now that i need his help here to earn a little. i was just wondering that if a friend refuses to help u (though it's a small issue) should he desreve to be consider a real friend?because in my opinion if a friend can not help u even on a small matter then u could not expect him/her to help u on big ones too. what do u guys think?
8 responses
• United States
31 Jan 07
A person is free to choose whether or not they want to participate in any sort of internet activity, as well as any business activity. It doesn't make him any less of a friend for not wanting to do it. It would make you less of a friend for judging him harshly for his choice. Haven't you ever heard not to mix business and friendship?
@kaplya (1578)
• India
31 Jan 07
it's not a big deal to join ur friend on mylot. & a real friend would help u anywhere from a business to relatonship!!
@tuffy999 (794)
• Philippines
17 Jul 07
you cannot dictate to a person even if he or she is your friend. being friends does not mean that you expect people to be at your beck and call. they too have their lives to live. its always good to have friends but don't expect too much for you will one way or the other get disappointed.
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@kaplya (1578)
• India
18 Jul 07
i understand what you are saying but was it really that big a matter? it was just a simple request to join me and of course he could have accepted it just to show his concern after that it was his decision whether to be active or not. i think i would have been called a dictator when i had tried to force him to log in everyday and reply to my discussions. but you are right expecting a lot from others gets one disappointed in the end!:)sometime it seems i need to reevaluate this relation called friendship!;)
@kaplya (1578)
• India
18 Jul 07
i understand what you are saying but was it really that big a matter? it was just a simple request to join me and of course he could have accepted it just to show his concern after that it was his decision whether to be active or not. i think i would have been called a dictator when i had tried to force him to log in everyday and reply to my discussions. but you are right expecting a lot from others gets one disappointed in the end!:)sometime it seems i need to reevaluate this relation called friendship!;)
@shmeedia (1042)
• Canada
11 Feb 07
hmm, that is sad! it happened to me too, so i understand your reaction. i think some people are just picky, like you said, about the sites they join. some others will only go to the site if they find it on their own. i referred 3 people to mylot who i was SURE would love it here, and i was greeted by a reaction like 'ok one day when i have time' or 'ahhh i looked at the pictures you posted, they are nice'....!?!? i don't understand what is the relevance of telling me about my pics posted here....you can do that and ALSO join the site haha. don't be too angry with your friend. i don't think my friends are mean because they refused to sign up. i'm just a bit disappinted, but that is life! ;)
@kaplya (1578)
• India
11 Feb 07
what hurts is that if anyone of my friends had asked me that i would have joined happily whether i've liked it or not but u r right that is life. maybe i just need to be more realistic with my friends!;)
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@shmeedia (1042)
• Canada
11 Feb 07
i think it is human nature. there are very few people willing to stick their neck out, even for a close friend or loved one. even when they SAY they would....would they really? slightly off subject, i have (had?) a friend who said one of his friends was so great, that he would take a bullet for him. and he actually DID take a bullet for him. my friend said that he would do the same. but then, when it concerns me...he just disappeared, without giving me news for a whole year. and we live one block away from each other. i don't understand.....he is the one who always said i was like a sister to him, and probably he doesn't think there is a problem between us. but where has he gone for so many months, without being in touch? i have tried to contact him, but he doesn't return my emails, and i don't have his phone number. (i know he is alive, coz i've seen him on the street at a distance lol). but you see....human nature ;) i can't say he is my enemy now, but it shows that if i were in trouble, he wouldn't take the bullet for ME :) but don't worry, you will make friends on mylot, and earn money even if your real life friends don't wnt to help you ;)
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@suspenseful (40326)
• Canada
24 Jul 07
Maybe he is not that good at writing. Maybe he is an outdoor type and does not like sitting at the computer. Also you seem to be using him, you should not depend on friends to help you make money. That is not being a friend, that is being a user. So it is you not being a friend, not him. He has the right to make up his mind. And he might help you in another way, it is just that he is smart enough to realize your true motive.
@kaplya (1578)
• India
26 Jul 07
you picked up a good point!:) he is rather an outgoing guy opposite of me, and he would prefer any time a sport activity on the sitting before computer! hey, but honestly i didn't invite him here because i wanted to use him!!:) i just wanted to share and to help me a bit as he is always complaining that his English is not that good...
@touchnshine (2821)
• India
19 Jul 07
Dear kaplya I sent my joining reference to 4 people .. 4 of them were very known as well as close to me .. they joined the site .. worked here for a small amount of time and I guess they were bored and so they simply moved out of this site. The main reason can be they found this site boring or earning is less here .. Whatever is the reason -- I didn't forced them to come again on this site -- It's their wish if they don't wish to visit here then that's ok .. Still I am thankful to them that they actually joined the site. Yes even there were some friends whom I have asked to join here and they simply said no for it. Still I don't mind about it.
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@kaplya (1578)
• India
19 Jul 07
that's just what i expected from my friend. of course i was in no mood of forcing him to be active here afterwards but he didn't even bother to take a look!:( and that's what disturbs me..and also it's a bit hurting because i thought him to be so close to me.. but seems that's the life and one can not even take his/her friends for a grant!:)
• Philippines
16 Jul 07
I have invited some of my friends here on mylot but not all of them joined. They have their own reasons. Some are afraid to be scammed, hacked or whatever and some just do not like to participate in discussions. They have no interest and I respect their decision. I still treat them as friends because I believe something like that is too petty to break our friendship. They might not have helped me about mylot but definitely, they had helped me in some other matters.
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@kaplya (1578)
• India
17 Jul 07
yeah i guess so... but i have started to wonder about THIS friend now as he has these days started kind of ignoring me!;) though i know that he is a bit busy in his own matters and his life at present but at least you expect your friends to share some things with you. they just don't start to ignore you..no? or perhaps i m myself too demanding in friendship!lol
• Philippines
31 Jan 07
gosh that is so mean. but you better ask him first why he refused to accept your referral link, there might be some reason to that.
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@kaplya (1578)
• India
2 Feb 07
i asked him & the simple reason for him -- he just couldn't register himself everywhere because he is choosy...but point is that he is not going to be hanged for this & also if he is not interested then he is not obliged to come here everyday. is that a good enough reason?
@yoshpow (339)
• France
31 Jan 07
friend of course
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@kaplya (1578)
• India
31 Jan 07
"friend of course"---but how i can't see. a friend should always help u at least that's what i try to do & expect.