People caring

United States
January 31, 2007 2:54pm CST
Why is it when your a child it seems so many people cared, I knew all my neighbors and their families then and now as I have grown no one knows each other any more. Is it that we are to self absorbed to say hello and meet the folks living near us? Are we perhaps too lazy as a society to meet new people and care for others? or simply are we too iggnorant to say hello my name is _____? What ever the reasons let me know......
3 responses
@pinklilly (3446)
• Australia
31 Jan 07
Your right I feel the same way things have changed dramatically I remember leaving the house and not woorying if the door was locked now you wouldn't dream of it. My neighboughs as a kids were close and friendly now where I am they will say hi but that's it I would go knocking on there door for sugar... People are more aware of the Dangers out there and Don't trust anybody, it is becoming unsafe to be outside.
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• United States
31 Jan 07
Yep dangers everywhere but when do people just quit being afraid.....
@speakeasy (4215)
• United States
31 Jan 07
There are many things that go into creating this problem. When we were little we had time. Time to see people, go for walks, etc. Now our lives are full and we wish we had more time. We end up "connecting" with strangers on the Internet because we don't have the "time" to go for a walk or join a local club or group. People still care, but they are also afraid. In today's media we hear about all the psycho's who kill themselves, their friends, classmates, coworkers, neighbors, stalk people, kidnap and rape people, and most of the time people who knew them said they couldn't believe ......... did it. So if they didn't believe it about their neighbor, how can you trust your neighbor not to be like them? IF you want things to change, you have to take the first step. You cannot expect the other person to make the first move and you have to be willing to put yourself in a position where your friendship may be rejected. (A lot of people are afraid of rejection, which is why they don't make the first move.) So it is really up to you whether you want to do something about it. If you do, go out and meet people. Then, introduce your new friends to each other and you will have made a good start changing your neighborhood.
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• United States
31 Jan 07
Oh I agree, I have made the first steps and in that stepping have made friends that are closer to me than family. I just wish people tried more. There is a wonderful group called neighborhood Friends and that group is where you may need your lawn raked and cant do it alone you post Help or needed and what you need done folks meet up and help you out and you feed them or give them something to drink. You just help others. I saw a Montel show episode where the family went to Turkey and the the turkish woman said I could not go to bed hungry knowing my neighbor was starving" this was the womans responset hat there was homeless people in America. Why cant others see what they see. Ok enough ranting and moaning lol thanks for response.
• United States
31 Jan 07
I think the world has changed a great deal since I was a kid. I grew up in a similar environment, small town, everyone knew everyone and their business. Now, my husband and I live in an even smaller town, but we don't know anyone around us. There are literally nine houses in our neighborhood, and I could barely tell you the names of the people next door. I think some of it is fear of intimacy based, and other parts are probably due to distrust as we all grow further and further apart, while getting cybernetically closer together. It's easier to be intimate and close with people we meet online than it is with our neighbors. I do hope that changes. I'd love to see strong physical communities again, but I guess the only way to change it is to take the first steps ourselves.
• United States
31 Jan 07
Your right taking that initiave is hard but absulutley doable. Send a post card to your neighbors introducing yourselves or join a neghbor hood watch program there are ways to meet others in your community. Thanks for responding.