Different Religion in a relationship, Does it matter?

Philippines
February 1, 2007 12:19am CST
My best friend have a bf but they decided to keep it a secret from there parents. Just because they have a totally different religion and both of there parents won't surely agree with it. This scenario often happens here in the Philippines. Honestly, I think that religion has nothing to do with it. besides we all worship the same God, right? As long as they love each other, what matters most. But I think that having different beliefs will affect the relationship. What do you think is the rightful thing to do? Is she right to keep the relationship secret? If you were the parents, what would you do?
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10 responses
• Philippines
8 Feb 07
i am a parent with the same predicament as that of your friend. My daughter was secretly married to a man with religion different from ours (roman catholic) it was too late when we discovered that they were secretly married in a civil wedding 3years ago and without our consent affixed on the marriage contract. (we dont know how they do it, maybe they hire some fixers in the city hall). the parents of the man who married my daughter do not want to and/or maybe afraid to meet us, (by the way, the religious denomination of that man is seventh day adventis); to make a long story short, my daughter although legally married to that man is still not considered married by his mom because no church wedding materialised. there's no problem with me if the man is a voodoo practitioner or a scum because my daughter loved her and we cant move heaven and hell to break/split them up, but the attitude (disinterest/hostile?) they presented is way the opposite of members of sabadistas (seventh day adventist) and yet they professed to be the true church because they are sabbath keepers. the nerve of them!!! i still do not consider that man as my son in law! a sonnamagun maybe....
• Philippines
9 Feb 07
What did you feel when they said that there religion was true?
@geejoy (345)
• Philippines
4 Feb 07
religion is your guide to salvation...but then, there are those people who are very conservative and fanatic to their religion that they are irrational already in their decisions.......i have friends also who have partners with different religion than their own.....its really chaotic..the fact that they are arguing on where to baptize their child is really funny and somehow frustrating to hear......well, but then, its part of the culture of the Filipino...so if you know it will cause outrage to your family...well, see to it that before entering into that kind of relationship, you are ready for the consequences...
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@nishanity (1651)
• India
4 Feb 07
hey, not just in philippines, but also in many many parts of asia! i am from india and religion is a criteria people chose for their partners... i havent told my parents about my boyfriend for this very reason! he is a hindu and i am a christian!
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• India
4 Feb 07
its doesnt matter. friendship is pure.
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• Philippines
4 Feb 07
it's all the same..we only believe in none true god..wethere it is allah or krishna..it doesn't really matter..but what important is a better understanding of it.
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• Philippines
3 Feb 07
it does...when you decide to get married, it only has to be only in 1 church/religion. it may be the source of misunderstnding because different religions have different beliefs.
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@totalguy (563)
2 Feb 07
i dont think it should matter although there are cases where each of a couples beliefs conflict with the other persons beliefs but if they both have an open mind and look past it things can be resolved or compremises can be made to a relationship and if you truly love a person you will accept them for whatever they are and who ever they are and their beliefs.
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• Philippines
2 Feb 07
foremost of people it matters.
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@mysthree (61)
• Philippines
2 Feb 07
Although we all believe and worship in ONE GOD, I still believe that religion matters into a relationship. Like in marriage, how can u be called "PARTNER" if you have a different religion? If you were divided by your beliefs! They say that two people that were bond by marriage are become 1 but how can you be one if you in different believes. What about your children? what will be there religion? Are you going to devide them to whom they should believe? Many relationship I've known did not worked out due to this issue, even how much they loved each other still it end up nothing if each of them will not give in. .... but ofcourse if you really loved that person and willing to give up your own beliefs then it will work out, but if you dont ... only god knows where both of you will end ...
@navikh333 (529)
• India
1 Feb 07
love is far ahead of all religion.u have to try to make ur parents understand that
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