Would you enter a serious relationship with a guy/girl just for his/her looks?

Philippines
February 1, 2007 7:37am CST
Based on my observation, beautiful men and women always gets more attention. They are courted by so many guys, the center of every party. As in everybody wants them. But the bottom line is, how about those people who are not so good looking but with a very good heart, when will they be noticed? Life is so unfair. Sometimes it makes me wonder if "is it really what's inside that counts?"
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@RAMPersona (2033)
• Philippines
1 Feb 07
it's hard to admit but that's the reality of the matter. but i thank 'God the superficial thing won't last for long.. we will inevitably get old, our skin will have wrinkles and 'nasty' things thereafter. besides test of love will surely be experienced for the rest of our lives.
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• Philippines
2 Feb 07
Yes, good looks is always accompanied with good impressions.
@Bhutto (741)
• India
1 Feb 07
To enter any relationship you need looks as well as character money comes last.To have a relationship you need to have faith in each other.Looks or no good looks it is the inner beauty which finally over comes all beauties.
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• United States
2 Feb 07
Money doesn't come last for me. I am not trying to take care of a man. What we fail to do is ask, "what do you bring to the table?" "Here is what I bring." Then we should discuss what is acceptable and what is not. That is if we are looking at long-term relationship that will lead to marriage. I'm no doing long term stuff either. No 5 year courtships for me.
@sunshinecup (7871)
1 Feb 07
I never wonder about that, it is what's on the inside that counts. Beauty fades, or can be changed through accidents or due to your tastes. However someone with a good kind heart, they most likely will be that way till the end of time.
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@jennifer611 (2514)
• United States
1 Feb 07
If they are cute it does help but if they are stupid, Honestly I would have to leave them alone. I have seen some really cute guys that are just as dumb as can be, and there is NO way I would date them. its a total turn off. and once they open their mouths they aint that cute anymore. I think you have to have some smarts to go along with it and some common sence. and for someone who is not so good looking, when they open their mouth and sound like they are intelligent, it makes them look more attractive. I need a guy that I can have a conversation with. one that can teach me something. Looks are not everything.
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@Gwapako_28 (2140)
• Philippines
2 Feb 07
I did that once.Lol!But i found out,im not happy with him no matter how Tall,dark and handsone he is.We lasted our relationship for just 1 month.Then i break up with him.He is too immature and the fact that i dont love him for real.Maybe he is just real handsome.
• India
1 Feb 07
ya i accept that good looks get the attention of other people but what really matters is his/her inner beauty which will never fade with time.Eventually so everyone will prefer the inner beauty then the outer one.
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• Romania
2 Feb 07
I wold do that but only for a short time ! A serious relationship with a girl / boy who has just "the look" will never work out ! That my opinnion ! Have a nice day !
• Hong Kong
2 Feb 07
In my opinion, i would not do that.I think the most important to meet friends is not depends on what the others looks like. And I think unless something that is really attracts you.You can have a chat and share your opinion.But not just to start serious relationship by just what she looks.I think that's not too good to choose you girl friend in this way.
@aksagi (413)
• India
2 Feb 07
Its not fair to fall in for some body by looks only..... Take your time to understand their need n carry forward.... People run for physical Beauty..... The day this attraction goes off with age or time..... they are cursing each other... Dun go for pleasure of few days.... go for longer way internal beauty which glows with time more n more......
• United States
2 Feb 07
"Man looks on the outside, God looks at the heart". What does that tell you about human nature. It has been my experience that just because a woman is pretty does not mean that she is treated well in a long term relationship. It is always good at first, but what happens in the long haul????? A man can be handsome and crazy, abusive or a player. Beyonce don't look so happy sometimes with JZ. Some of her lyrics sound like she is singing about him.......
@aelyus (634)
• Romania
2 Feb 07
Of course not!why?to love a beautiful body,and to see only a picture?And when you want to be listen,to receive advices?what do you do?i preffer a beautiful mind!
@shywolf (4514)
• United States
1 Feb 07
I hear you with all of my heart on this one. I feel like I have so much to give, but I'm not conventionally beautiful and it's even harder for a woman who is not that pretty to get noticed than it is for a man. A lot of women will love a man no matter what he looks like, but most men will not. What I find the most sad is that I know if I were a guy with the standard of attractiveness that I posess right now, I could definitely find a girl somewhere. Being a girl, looking the way I do, I am worried that i will never find anyone who will look past my flaws. But on the other hand, I have to admit that I would never want to be with someone who would only want to be with me because of my looks, anyway. Still, you're right that it's so unfair. And I would never want a serious relationship with someone _only_ based on their looks. I can't even really have strong feelings for someone based only on their looks. Attraction, sure, but not strong romantic feelings based _only_ on looks. In fact, the guys I find myself the most attracted to deep down are the ones that I have come to know as a person. They tend to become more and more attractive to me the more that I think of their personality and the more that I get to know them. I only wish that more guys could feel the same way.
@banta78 (4326)
• India
2 Feb 07
I don't feel this presumption is right that most guys like girls only for their looks, yeah quite few may get attracted by looks of girls But surely they won't commit to marry them just for looks a girl has to have moral character, personality to support. Only thing i feel is that guys are mor open or exprssive in the way they feel. and girls are better at hiding them. As surely girls also lust for hunks that's why hot actors, models or any guy who looks, smells good have crazy female fan following. But yeah theya re good at hiding it. Though ia lso feel they won'y too marry just for looks and would like guys with some substance, personality too.
• Philippines
2 Feb 07
Yup, most men prefer women with good looks first but for women, they prefer guys even without good looks but atleast with some sense in the personality.
@hopefoo (1145)
• Malaysia
2 Feb 07
yeap yeap. I feel that people should not just judge based on looks alone but sadly, everyone seems to do just that. It's sad because there are some people who are really really nice on the inside. That being said, I'll go back to your question. YES! I would jump into a relationship with a really really hot guy, say like..Brad Pitt hot; that is if I was still single. lol
• United States
2 Feb 07
It really does matter about what you have on the inside. Looks fade, all of us get wrinkles, age spots and grey hair. If your not a solid person with in, then what do you have to offer later in life.
• India
2 Feb 07
"For me looks don't matter as much as inner beauty. You can't look the same way forever, once you get into your thirties you are done! Got what I am trying to say? I heard people say looks and money matter as well, and yes character also. Only best of friends can be best of couples. Marriages fail not because of looks but lack of understanding and it happens only when better sense fail to prevail. Its as old as it looks like".
@cindy83 (133)
• China
2 Feb 07
I think it is impossible. Maybe I wil attract by boy's look, to make friend with handsome boy, but I don't think I will enter a serious relationship with him because of look. I think the most attractive is the value the boy have and his character. Polite and humor is good for boy, I lke a perfect boy, not nly with hangsome look.
@XxAngelxX (2830)
• Canada
2 Feb 07
Sometimes it seems as though this is the case, but in my opinion, looks honestly don't matter to me. What attracts me to a person is their personality, not what they look like.
• India
2 Feb 07
I never done same.And also not seen any one doing this.In my openion there are many other things also to see in boy/girl other than his/her look. Only look is not suficient for fulfil any one's requirement.I will see all other things requried for any one's life.If he/she have all those thing then only i try to make relationship with him/her.
@monalizra (219)
• Romania
2 Feb 07
never! you can fall in love with someoane because of how he or she looks. i've met beautiful men that were stupid, violent or who knows how. i rather choose the person that i could really love and that could really be my partener even he doesn't look like a model
• United States
2 Feb 07
I really don't know but i do know a lot of people who have done this and the relationship turned out to be good
• India
2 Feb 07
that seriously depends upon the soul by which we are seeing. they are some crazy people who see only money and beauty .ofcourse that is common for this generation guys and girls u no every dog has its day and the people u mentioned will also get that day where they will be noticed