Does an engagement ring have to be a diamond?

@Bee1955 (3887)
United States
February 1, 2007 11:27am CST
I chose a 1 caret Emerald that had some diamond chips on each side in an 18 caret gold casing as my engagement ring. Some of my friends were horrified - they insisted that diamonds are for engagements, other wise its "just a ring". Just a ring? He paid almost $1,000.00 for it! Who else spurned 'tradition' and chose a ring that didnt have a diamond as the major stone? What did you choose?
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• United States
1 Feb 07
I personally don't feel that an engagement ring has to be a diamond. I mean, I know it's sort of a tradition type thing, but the engagement has to mean something to the couple, and ultimately, I think the ring needs to be special to both involved, so if they choose not to have a diamond, then it's still special to them. It's the thought that counts.
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• United States
2 Feb 07
I agree with you, you don't always have to go with the cliche ways. Go with what you think means more to you and your spouse. If an emerald has a much more significant value than a diamond, the go with it.
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@villageanne (8579)
• United States
1 Feb 07
I think society has put too much emphasis on money. I never had an engagement ring. We just used his class ring. I had a nice gold wedding band. We thought we could best use the money to purchase a home. So that is what we did. I have never regretted it nor have I ever wished i had an engagement ring. I wore his class ring till he put the weddding band on my finger. We have been happily married for 28 years so it must have not been a problem
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@Bee1955 (3887)
• United States
1 Feb 07
I was satisfied with our custom made celtic love knot bands, but for my birthday he wanted me to have an engagement ring so I considered it both. I felt as you, a band is enough, and I rarely rare the emerald unless we are going out to a function.
• United States
2 Feb 07
I just got married, and my wife and I bought inexpensive stirling silver rings, because it was what we could afford at the time. It did not make the rings less special for either of us, and most we both wear our rings as if they were worth a million dollars.
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• Australia
2 Feb 07
I agree. For my first engagement ring, we had a huge bit of Jade with a few diamond bits at the side. He is Asian, and was superstitious that this was lucky. For my second, I recycled. I git a friend to make a ring to my design using the diamonds from my first engagement ring and wdding ring and another gemstone ( a sapphire) that I had been given a few years before. It wa that much more special because it only cost me the time to make it as I also used the gold from my first engaement and wedding rings to make it. Altogether our engagement ring, wedding ring, wedding and honeymoon was $4,000. We bought a house on the honeymoon so that we got into the property market.
@silkyt34 (324)
• United States
1 Feb 07
my engagement ring is an opal.. i dont like diamonds but i absolutly love opals.. so i have a beatufil opal engagment ring
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@SaraCate (184)
• Canada
1 Feb 07
Me too! I have a beutiful, firey white opal solitaire set in an engraved rose gold band. My wedding band is the same pattern/metal without the opal. No diamonds anywhere! ~Sara
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• India
2 Feb 07
me too
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@Island_Geko (3760)
• Canada
2 Feb 07
Ring - Fancy Ring
My engagment(promisary ring) ring has 3 aquamarines detailed with 6 diamond chips..... so no.
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@Bee1955 (3887)
• United States
2 Feb 07
Beautiful!
@ljcapps (1927)
• United States
1 Feb 07
Ah, i gave my wife a diamond and amethyst ring for our engagement. The amethyst actually being the central setting, and she loved it. it was unique and special, like her. She loves the ring. She does now, however, wear an anniversary band with five diamonds in it, that she loves, but i think part of that is it fits so well with her wedding band. I don't think it HAS to be diamonds. If the women are more worried about the ring, than excited about getting married to the one they love..maybe they should consider what they want more. the rock, or the man? Women, if the rock is that important, you can buy your own. but you can't buy a good man.
@Bee1955 (3887)
• United States
1 Feb 07
Well spoken!
@btrouble (73)
• United States
2 Feb 07
i think it's up to the woman. i've seen some very beautiful engagement rings in ruby and saphire. diamond is tradition, but there are a lot of untraditional girls out there.
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@SignMe (1031)
• India
2 Feb 07
Hay there is no rule like engagement rings should be diamond. Its a diamond ring most of the time because people are just crazy during their marriages and try to buy best in the world. Emerald ring is also very attractive. Dont listen to what your friends said. Keep the emerald ring. More than diamond, emerald,gold what is more important is who is given that you and what message he gave. Hope you understood what I mean :)
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• India
2 Feb 07
i dont think that Engagement Ring has to be a Diamond only. ya its known to be expression of Love. but that doesn't binds one to have a Diamond Ring as his or her engagement ring.
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• United States
2 Feb 07
I think that engagement rings and wedding rings are completely a personal choice. I prefered to have diamonds, but my friend also choose a beautiful emerald ring it cost more than mine, so I don't think cost should be the issue. Most important when you find yourself staring at your ring that it makes you happy, afterall you are the one that will wear it the rest of your life.
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@TerryZ (22146)
• United States
2 Feb 07
I think a diamond is the right choice and it looks so pretty. Yes of course I picked out a diamond. And by the way your friends were right. You can always get a different kind of a stone. The diamond signifies that the two of you have made a commitment to each other.
• United States
2 Feb 07
I guess diamonds are kinda traditional. But whatgever type of ring you get with a proposal can be an engagement ring. Its what you and your honey want. Most women wouild be happy with a 1 carat anything.
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• United States
2 Feb 07
I honestly beleive that if a girl expects a diamond in her engagement ring, then she's not for the picking. It shouldn't matter what the ring looks like as long as you love each other. Diamonds are ok but I feel that they are a waste of money. My engagement ring has a very small diamond and I'm very happy with it. Some women today feel that they need a large diamond in order to feel loved or spoiled. What it is is greed. Diamonds don't make the marriage, it's love. As long as you have that, nothing else matters.
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@apostrofy (662)
• Romania
2 Feb 07
i don't think an engagement ring "must" be with diamonds. it would be nice to be that way though lol, but if it's not it's ok too i think. the feelings must be genuine, the moment will be a special one for sure, and the ring is just the symbol of all that, so it could be any kind of ring (there are people who can't even afford silver rings, so what does that mean? that they will never get engaged? if they really love and are loved back any kind of symbol is a good one). my best friend though got married 1 and a half years ago and she insisted she wants a diamond ring lol. she got the ring (the diamond was so small u could barely see it but she was happy like hell it was a genuine diamond), but she got the desired ring almost half a year after the engagement (a couple of months before the wedding itself lol)
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• United States
2 Feb 07
I personally don't think that an engagement ring HAS to have a diamond. As long as you put a lot of thought into what you're buying and the girl doesn't expect too much from you then anything is fine. My engagement ring has a very small diamond but I'm proud of it. It is my favorite ring because my husband gave it to me. I take real good care of it. My wedding ring is just a band and I'm happy with it too.
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@zuri25 (2128)
• United States
2 Feb 07
Although my engagement ring was diamond (I didn't pick it out), I don't think it needed to be. All gemstones are beautiful in my opinion, including Emeralds. I want my wedding ring to have an amethyst on one side and a ruby on the other with an opal in the middle. Amethyst is me and my daughter's birthstone, Ruby is my future husband's birthstone, and opal is my mother's birthstone which will be central because even though I'll have a husband to take care of me, I will always need my mother.
@micheller (1366)
• United States
2 Feb 07
most people that have engagement rings have a ring with ONE big diamond. mine isn't like that. mine doesn't have a big diamond at all. it's all kind of very little diamonds. it's what i wanted and me and my fiance consider it our engagement ring and that's all that matters is what WE think of it. if other people don't like it then they can just not look at it.
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@jhrcsr (349)
• United States
2 Feb 07
Absolutely, no. An engagement ring does not have to be a diamond. A lot of younger couples cannot afford a diamond and a lot more people prefer other gemstones over diamonds. I personally had a pearl as my engagement ring. I LOVE it!
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2 Feb 07
I really don't think it has to be diamond. They are horribly expensive. I don't think i know anyone with a diamond engagement ring. I've only seen that in movies! It doesn't matter what kind of stone you get or even if you get a stone at all as long as you love the ring and will always love it. It's a symbol not a spending contest.
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• India
2 Feb 07
sorry In our community no engagement ring
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@fabwisp (1328)
2 Feb 07
I think that any ring if it is given with sentiments from the heart is good enough to be an engagement ring. It is the thought and emotion behind it that makes the ring precious, not the size or price of the stone.
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