Is this bad manners or just a sign of the times??

@Sasselle (698)
Australia
February 2, 2007 1:27am CST
Do you consider it rude or inconsiderate to answer your cell/mobile phone while being served in a shop or while eating at a restuarant with others?? I've done it before [many times] and never really thought about it until another of my friends pointed out that it is extremely rude. Comments or thoughts on this? Have you been a phone talker in places like this - or do you frown upon it ?
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19 responses
@brihanna (381)
• United States
16 Feb 07
I think that when someone does that, it shows that the person on the other end of the phone is more important than I am. Unless it is an emergency. I do not see why the other person can't wait until I have finished enjoying my time with you. My children and husband do this frequently, and it really pisses me off. I usually get up and leave.
@babyhar (1338)
• Canada
6 Feb 07
I really have the opinion that answering a cell phone during dinner or while being served in a shop is pretty rude. I mean, why would you interrupt a date that might be going really well to answer a phone call from your friend? Especially if it's a phone call about something stupid. I'm sorry but something like that can wait. I'd like to think that the person who is serving me wouldn't like me to waste their time by repeatedly telling them to hold on a few minutes until I've finished my phone call. I'd much rather put my phone on vibrate or just leave it in my purse. I can always check the message they leave on my phone later. I think the only time I would answer my phone is if someone was calling to tell me some bad news or if there was some sort of emergency. I find if you're willing to answer your cell phone during dinner or during something really important, then you don't really deserve to have that phone in the first place. I find it shows that you are more interested in who's on the phone than who is right in front of you. There's a reason it has an off button and sometimes I wish people would use it. I actually could not stand going to the movie theatre the last time I went. I remember it pretty clearly. My other half and me went to see "The Omen", the new version. During the entire movie there was one lady who when they weren't checking their cell phone they were talking on it. There were too many laughing fits that she had that totally destroyed the movie for me. I didn't see how the movie was funny and I think it was more the conversation she was having that was causing the laughing. Regardless of that, it was very rude and I almost stormed out of the theatre because of it. So, in conclusion, these are the reasons why I find people using cell phones in public should be limited to when people are away from these places. No cell phone use in the movie theatre or the restaurant during dinner would make for a more enjoyable atmosphere all around in my humble opinion. Thanks for allowing me to share! xx
@byfaithonly (10716)
• United States
2 Feb 07
Personally I think they should ban cell phones except for emergancies. I do think it's rude to carry on phone conversations while taking up the time of others who are face to face with you. My own daughter is the worst offender of all if you ask me. Her cell phone is attached to her like a new ear and it doesn't matter what we are doing or talking about if that thing rings she's going to answer it. I say let the phone ring, it'll go to voice mail or you can check your "recent calls", at least on mine I can. Finish what you are doing and call them back. Ok, I vented!
@Sasselle (698)
• Australia
2 Feb 07
Venting is good!! I do agree on the face to face part when you are being served - I've only had to do that a handful of times and they were all to the bank 'cos my credit card had been denied when I knew there was money in my account!! But I'm surprised how often I see people do it. I'm sure if it was the sales assistant on the phone then customers would be rather cranky about it ... so why is it so acceptable the other way around?
@Sir_bobby88 (8245)
• Singapore
2 Feb 07
i don't know is it rude or not. i always switch my phone to silent mode and only answered it if it was from my home. i thought saying excuse me and go to a corner or toilet and speak not too loudy can?
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• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
16 Feb 07
I agree with you, doing what you say that you do is not rude in my opinion. Well unless you're talking about something really really crucial, in that case i wouldn't reply, but if not then why not answering the phone.
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• United States
17 Feb 07
I think it totally depends.,.if its urgent..but it annoys me to no end say if im out with someone and they get constant calls,,its one thing to say hey i gotta call you back..i then dont mind if they answer the phone..but to sit there and talk like no one is there with you is just plain rude as heck.,its liek having someone over to your house for a visit and sit there and talk on the phone while that person sits there and dwiddles there fingers!! and i wish more people had some sense to know this is wrong,,and im sure they were brought up better than that..
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16 Feb 07
it depend whos calling id let them ring off then ring tham back if i can, but say it was kids school, then id answer where ever i was, but if out for dinner ect i put on silent, as it not nice to be eating with phones going off,
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@imrajesh (1968)
• India
2 Feb 07
i keep my mobile most of the time in public places or when i m with my friends in some important celebration. this is not a good sign that u answer phone everywhere. there r places where the use of phone should be avoided. i don't do this. have a nice day.
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@Sasselle (698)
• Australia
2 Feb 07
i never said that i answer it everywhere. i just said that in the past i have answered my phone in public places!
@carlaabt (3505)
• United States
16 Feb 07
It drives me crazy when people answer the phone when they are out somewhere being waited on or something! It doesn't necessarily bother it when someone just answers it jsut because they are out in public, though. I think there are places that is just fine. Like if you are in the mall, or even in a department store, as long as someone is not actually standing there waiting on you, I think it's okay, or at least not quite so rude. I can honestly say that the only time I have ever answered my phone when I had someone waiting on me was one time at Old Navy when my baby was just a few weeks old. He had been sick and it was the first time I had left him with just my husband while he was sick. My cell phone rang and it was my husband so I answered it thinking my baby might be worse or something. I still felt bad and apologized to the guy working. I just didn't feel like that was a call that I wanted to miss, in case it was important. Normally, though, if my phone rings while I am out, I just ignore the phone call. I don't even carry my cell phone with me most times now days anyway, though. I just think people in general are becoming too rude now.
@livewyre (2455)
15 Feb 07
This happened in our office yesterday: A courier came in with a parcel already having a conversation on his mobile, he dropped off the parcel, got someone to sign for it and left still on the same conversation (he did at least mutter 'thanks' for the signature). After he had gone I looked round at my colleagues and said 'Is that OK, to do what he just did?' The guy who signed for the parcel said 'at least he said Thanks' so we have something to be grateful for, nevertheless it has to go down as 'rude'. minor league rude maybe, but from small things.... Can you imagine a Doctor or nurse doing that??? Would actually make a good comedy sketch come to think of it!
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
5 Feb 07
Well i think it depends on the situation. IF you're at the doctor you obviously should turn the cell off. but if you're at a shop and you're waiting for an important call i'd go for it, trying not to make it too long and apologizing with the shop person. As with most things, it's not black or white, it depends on how when and with who things are done.
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@cjthedog64 (1553)
• United States
3 Feb 07
I hate it myself. I even hate talking on the phone while I'm in the car with my family or just sitting around with them at home. Now if I'm calling to get directions or let someone know we're on our way, that's different. But if I'm just going to chat with someone, I like to be fairly private. DH will sit and have long conversations and kinda ignore those around him. That irks me.
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@sizzle3000 (3040)
• United States
3 Feb 07
I think that most people are rude when it comes to cell phones. I used to work in an auto parts store. We would have to ask questions to get the customer the right part. It never failed I would get a customer who was talking on the phone. I would ask him what kind of car do you drive and he would be too busy on the phone to answer my question. The person thought that the people in line behind him had nothing better to do that wait for him to get off the phone so I could wait on him. When you are shopping stay off the phone. The cashier trying to take your money so she can move on to the next customer doesn't really care about you plans for Friday night. To me this is rude. The other point is if you are working and you are a cashier please take your personal cell phone and go on break. I have already been standing in line at a Kmart store and the cashier instead of waiting on me told her friend all about her boyfriends new job. I actually had to say excuse me can you ring me up. That is rude. I am not saying that there will not be times when you need to excuse yourself and take a call but use your manners. People forget that they are not at home. They answer their phones and they are loud. I with people would be more curtious when using cell phones.
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@katty0004 (387)
• United States
2 Feb 07
I ususally turn mine off , I don't have it on when I am out and about , I have gone to restuarants and hear some ones whole problems they were have it is something else .
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@liranlgo (5748)
• Israel
14 Mar 07
yes ofcourse to answer your cell/mobile phone while eating at a restuarant with others is sure is bad manners to me. i always get upset when this happens and usually do not go with that certain person to a resturant any more. because when you are with people they want to know that you want and appriciate being with them. you can talk on the phone any time else. the manners are said to codify or set a standard for human behavior and this will show alote of that person. there are people that are not aware of it as being a bad manner..but eventually they will be because one of the others will tell them..i am glad you are aware of it now:)
@kunalvijan (3422)
• India
13 Mar 07
just look at your self... cheap star u depends on copy / paste... u dont do copy patse u r each and everything is copied from others... Shame on you to hav.. sorry no shame for shameless peoples like u
@boldriq (201)
• Slovenia
10 Mar 07
I'm trying to avoid this kind of situations. But if I find myself in in this I excuse myself and answer the phone. Otherwise I would interrupt the call and call back later, or just kill the ringing. I'm not judging you, but otherwise it is kind of rude. Because you make people feel like you're ignoring them and like they are of no importance to youIt doesen't matter if it's their job to serve you, because if they take their time to please you, you should at least make them feel appreciated. Shame on you! Just kidding...
@anonymili (3138)
28 Feb 07
I have friends who will happily sit there whilst we're having a meal (even if it's just two of us) and chat away into their mobile. I don't particularly have an issue with it but I do think it's somewhat rude. If I get a call and I'm out with friends, I tell the caller that I'll call them back later on, unless it's urgent. But it rarely is urgent so it's often that I tell people I'll call them back later, so as not to let my companions feel that I'm not giving them my full attention. If it's a friend who I've not heard for in ages and I was with a group of friends, I would actually excuse myself and go talk away from the group but limit it to a few minutes and ask them when would be a good time to call them back to have a "proper chat" and explain that I'm out with friends. No one's ever been upset by me doing this so I guess I'm not offending anyone :)
• United States
28 Feb 07
I think it is very rude to talk on the cell during dinner. I usually just leave mine at home or in the car. If it's an emergency the person will leave a message. Just leave it off and talk to the person you are with, not someone else.
• United States
28 Feb 07
I feel that if i am out to dinner with my hubby and my cell phone rings i try not to answer it, because it is rude. i only answer it if it is the babysitter. because that may mean something is wrong with the baby. There are times when i am busy and i do answer my cell phone, it may or may not be rude, depending on what is going on at that time.