I must have upset someone.
By BDnLacy
@BDnLacy (324)
United States
February 2, 2007 9:30am CST
Well my star ranking has dropped for the 1st time. So I guess I said something that someone did not agree with. I'm pretty sure I know who it was and what the discussion was about. But you know what? I really do not care. I am not here to get people to like me. I am here to get other's opinions and to give other people my opinion. And if you read my profile, I say on there that I do speak my mind, and if someone doesn't like it, OH WELL!
The 2 or 3 cents we earn here for our post doesn't mean a thing to me. I'm not going to get rich nor am I even going to make a living doing this. It is totally a hobby. A hobby that I enjoy. Many people have said things that on my post that I do not agree with. And a few, that I not only disagree with, but actually hated. But I do not give them a negative rating for it, as I feel everyone has the right to voice their true point of views. I know with over 65,000 members here, there will many different opinions on any subject posted. So anyone that gives a negative rating to someone because they disagree with them is just being childish in my opinion.
Well I guess that is all I wanted to say about it. Other than to say. If the person(s) that rated me with a negative rating thought they would hurt or upset me in anyway, it will take more than that to get to me.
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28 responses
@stateroad (730)
• United States
2 Feb 07
I am sorry your rating dropped. I am hoping that soon someone will rate me. I just started and am excited to be doing this. I just always was a person that wanted to be liked by all but that is impossible. With all people and different opinions there is no way that you can make all people happy.
@jen0526 (82)
• United States
3 Feb 07
I am sorry someone gave you a negative rating.
I have only been here a few days, but I have already had to give someone a negative, as they basically responded to someone by telling them to kill themselves, when the original poster was desperate for help with her situation. It was just insulting and uncalled for. Its one thing to give a valid opinion as to why you do or don't care for something, its another completely to be insulting.
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@sillygirlsd (959)
• United States
3 Feb 07
Yeah I don't really care about my rating either. I know it's there and it has dropped in the past few weeks but I don't really care. I think people that give negative ratings because people don't agree with them are dumb. People should give positive ratings to everyone that posts on their discussion (well except for people with one word answers or things that you can't understant). Anyone that posts on any of my discussions gets a plus. Another thing I read a post yesterday and the user said he or she only responds to discussions started by thier friends and Ithink that is so stupid. I've had several people send me friend requests and you know it's not fair because there are so many other discussions worth discussing. Another thing...I dont know how some of you can actually come on my lot especially to make money...you swear it's like a 9-5 job...well anyway that's probably what your husbands think! (oops there goes my rating!).
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@jazzafrazz (910)
• Canada
3 Feb 07
I agree and understand with what your saying. I'm here for the same reasons. Making a living from the internet was never a thought. I've always wanted to be able to voice my opinions good or bad regardless of the topic. Or how I felt about the topic. I've come across topic that I could really relate to in any and have avoided them. When I see topic... if the person is asking for advice I give an option. Then give a rating base on how the stated topic make me feel. I've always enjoyed your topics, that's why I added you as a friend. Your topics seem worthy enough to answer, even if it's a topic like this one.... besides don't we get paid for writing in paragraph form?
@jazzafrazz (910)
• Canada
3 Feb 07
let's see I've been here only.... what... a week? I'm not sure whether I've gotten a rating or not! I'm not always online. It would be nice to be rated for the topics I've chosen. It would also be nice to actually see if I did. For me the most that matters is that I have something worthy of answering.
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@TereFaerie (386)
• United States
3 Feb 07
Once you get 100 posts you'll start being rated.
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@Makena1968 (682)
• United States
3 Feb 07
I'm glad I read your post. I've just started on this site, and of course I don't have any stars at all, yet, and I've been wondering what the stars are all about. I've posted about 28 posts, I think, and I've no idea if I've been rated or not. I haven't rated anyone, and if I did, it would be because of the quality of the discussion, whether I agreed with them or not. And of course if it was thoughtful and sensitive, and not rude and condeming.
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@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
3 Feb 07
yep. we should know the reasons for giving people with negative ratings. we should not abuse the system. just because we can freely give negative ratings does not necessarily mean that we can push that negative button when the one posting the discussion is someone we don't personally like. that's so unprofessional.
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@nana1944 (1365)
• United States
3 Feb 07
I agree with you about this discussion. I too suffered a loss of rating but It doesn't bother me. We are here to give our opinions and not everyone agrees so we should be expecting someone to disagree in these discussions. I would never give someone a negative rating just because they disagreed with me or I disagreed with them. If they were being really rude to someone else in a discussion, I would flat out tell them that I thought they were rude. But mark them negative, no.
@kevkentis (590)
• Jamaica
2 Feb 07
I have been done the same going so well then suddenly i am marked negatively and i didn't even do anything wrong i was so shock and i ignore it because i said well its just life but then i look on it again and really saw just how unfair some persons are. If you disagree with someone does that mean you should really give them a negative rating? Just because someone dont agree with you. I dont think its right because i see alot of response which i dont agree with and i simply dont rate them.
@soorimd (300)
• India
4 Feb 07
if that is the case you would not have bothered to start this discussion . i am sure you are really upset and so you are speking up your mind. it is a good trait one should bring out ones emotions no matter what others feel. any way i am with you buddy whether others rate you high or low
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@mbarryton (1872)
• United States
3 Feb 07
im with you. my rating dropped from a 7 to a 4 over night because i got heated yesterday because of some topics on here so i thought id post how i felt about it and try to get some answers, granted i could have probably worded it a little better but oh well. i got some people really upset and i started feeling bad so i posted another discussion trying to apologize if i offended anyone, ya know trying to do the right thing. i get up this morning and seen that and it shocked me but im like you it takes alot more then that to truly upset me
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@the_dreamer2005 (1175)
• United States
4 Feb 07
I agree. Don't let a rating drop discourage you. No matter how hard you try, there's always going to be a chance that you'll offend someone. Mylot for me is a hobby too. It's a good way to chat with others, spend some free time and earning is a bonus. I say good for you to not allow this to bring you down.
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@bhchy1 (6047)
• United States
3 Feb 07
I negative rating from a single person isn't going to drop your rating. The ratings are based on a combination of things, the plus and negative yes, but I believe they also said your activity, quality of posts both asked and answered also played a part. I don't participate as often as I did before (my work put them darn internet restrictions on) but I noticed my star rating stays the same but my points still bounce up and down. Nothing I can blame on anyone person..just how their system works. I am glad that you don't let negative comment bug you, it's just not worth it. This is an open forum where we agree to disagree. Those who are over zealous about that rating plus or negative are taking it far to seriously. A good deal of comments on here don't deserve a rating either way, not good, not bad, just an opinion.
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@jaymar (77)
• South Africa
3 Feb 07
Wow! Talk about mixed reactions! So somebody gave you a negative rating and you get upset, after saying you are here to get other's opinions and to give your own opinions. In my book a negative rating is an opinion - not one you wanted - but an opinion nevertheless. Did you really expect to get positive opinions only? If you really do not care, as you say, why the long polemic? On open forums, like this one, you are bound to get the bad with the good. Some comments are downright insulting, but so what? The world still goes on, and you know your worth, so let the negatives roll. With 65,00 plus members here, the chances of negativity are pretty good, but I reckon the positives will far outweigh the negatives. Life's too short to worry about negativities, anyway.
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@ESKARENA1 (18261)
•
3 Feb 07
people are petty my friend, the worst ones are those who are powerless, they will resort to giving minus ratings in this cowardly fashion simply because they lack the intellectual ability to successfully argue their case. Not having the ability is frustrating for them on a forum like mylot and dishing out negative ratings is the only way they can deal with it. Of course they should seek psychiatric help with the issues in their life, but both you and I know they never believe they have a problem, it is always someone else who is at fault.
In my opinion, you are doing exactly the right thing in rising above all this kind of stuff. If people are getting upset by words written on a screen i really pitty them for the state of their mind.
blessed be, keep on posting
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@sweetlady10 (3611)
• United States
3 Feb 07
This is very childies that someone don't agree with you and thats why you rate them negative. I don't know why people post a discussion on such a topic if they can't take words on that. Discussion means all will say their opinion. Some people are just crazy. There is an option to rate someone negative it does not mean that you will just use it to abuse someone because they don't agree with you.
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@manmaxman (850)
• India
3 Feb 07
i also make them upset that one i like most i can feel that pain now also i m so bad man i think
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