What is your relationship like?

@jude79 (58)
Australia
February 2, 2007 10:20am CST
I have known my bf for 3 years and started going out in the September that year. Then on NYE of that year I found out I was pregnant. I gave him the option of staying or going, as I dont believe in abortion and I had been told I would not be able to conceive I decided that Iwould keep the baby. Well nearly 2 and a half years later we are still together and I am now 40.2 weeks pregnant with our second son. Now it has not been the easiest of relationships and I am suprised we are still alive, but i would not have it any other way. I love both him and my son, but I have always been sceptical at how long we will last as we kind of moved really fast and I always hear about couples breaking up because they either moved too fast or not fast enough. But I am a romantic and want to know other peoples love stories or any relationship story, especially one that will make others smile. :)
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34 responses
3 Feb 07
hi! i have my first child on the way! my girlfriend is 6 months preggers! dredding changing that bum lol! good luck everyone
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• India
3 Feb 07
Your story is very nice one. I know a lot of people who are not married and is still very happy. I am still waiting for my Mr Right. But then I am from India and will have to marry the person whom my parents choose.
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• United States
3 Feb 07
You think you moved fast, well let me tell you about me & my husband.I was a single mom with 2 children, I was going to school and working at a bar, when this guy walked in. We Flirted with each other for about a month. We finally went out on a date, ( by the way our date was renting movies and going to my house to watch them with my kids). He never left. He moved in the next day. That was 12 years and 1 grandchild ago. Life could not be any better than it is right now. We never had any children of our own, because he felt my kids were his.
@sk2027 (52)
• India
3 Feb 07
i like my friends more and i think in relationship we have to trust on the friends and we have to made our relation perfect and also we have to trust on them and it will made our relationship great and also help us to come with each other i like my parents more and i love them very much and i can't live without them
• United States
2 Feb 07
My hubby and I knew each other for a year(not closely) before we got together and we moved super fast, I found out I was pregnant 2 weeks after we got together. I was realy scared but it turned out that he knew before i did ! A month and a half after we had our daughter I found out I was prego angain, whew, that ws hard. We have always got along verry well but we find that since we have never had time without kids it is hard to be close as a couple. I already had my oldest when we got together so we kind of skipped the begining of the relationship when you get close to one another. We are very happy and have a great relationship but I often long for the alone time and romance we missed out on. I wouldnt change a thig, I love my kids and couldnt live without them. We try once a year to get away for a few days but it is hard to find a sitter for that long with 3 toddlers !!
@jude79 (58)
• Australia
2 Feb 07
Wow and I though we moved fast. But I understand about the 'getting to know you' stage. We missed out on that and the romantic side of things. We tried to get away while I was pregnant and I gues that helped. BUt the 'in-laws' help us out alot so we get to go out maybe once a month, if we are lucky. So how long have you two been together for?
• United States
3 Feb 07
Tomorow marks three years !!!! We are so in love, he still gives me the shivers some times, I never thought I would be this happy ! We love each other so much and we have been through so much I cant imagine life without him. We were truly meant to be.
@xParanoiax (6999)
• United States
3 Feb 07
Well..mine current relationship story's kind of complicated. But I wouldn't change it..some days I wish things were different but I decided long ago that his happiness was what matttered most to me. Number one we're best friends lol. Number two, toward the end of last year we both admitted that our emotions went a bit deeper than simply caring about eachother the way friends do. I think we always knew this..but I was in denial for the longest time..and it's confused him alot. We've both passed in and out of different relationships with other people who we HAVE loved also, but it never seemed to work out. No matter how hard we tried to keep those relationships. So, I've always been his friend first and the girl who adores him second. We had a long talk about it. Once. And I told him I didn't care how we ended up, so long as I never lost him..because that'd kill me. Sometimes it seems like we can't help ourselves..I remember the few nights we've spent simply holding eachother, or kissing. But now he's stuck, and I'm his friend first. He's fallen for another girl who swears she loves him though she's currently dating someone else. See, complicated? Lol. The only thing I'd wish with our current situation is that it'll end well. I was happy with being friends who occasionally kiss, but I'll be happy simply being there for him to talk to. Since that's what we've always done, just being there for eachother. Making sure we don't end up killing ourselves lol via advice, laughter, and something else I can't put my finger on. Yeah, it's awkward sometimes. Uncomfortable. But without him I don't know if I'd have the strength to deal with day-to-day life. Well, anyway heh. That's my story.
• India
3 Feb 07
Whoa!! tats some story u got there, n i really think u have something special wit him! i sure hope things work out the way u wan em 2 and ur both happy!! gud luck! :)
@cruots (29)
• United States
3 Feb 07
I want my relationships is not broken by time, I was built my relationships when I still junior high school until now. I feel my relationships can make me very strong to againts wave of life. So, one reason which explain why I life in this world? the reason is my relationships with someone. ^_^
@pimponel (292)
• Romania
3 Feb 07
Mine is no easy one, either. I`ve been in this relationship for 5 years now and sure there isn`t no doubt i love her. but from the way things are going now, it seems dat we aren`t going anywhere, atleast in terms of financial stability. We aren`t getting any younger now and though there are still a lot of thing`s that i wanna go on my own, sometimes i can`d help but hope we could ger married and settle down soon.I don`t think we are readt financially and i dont think know when we are going to be.
@sharone74 (4839)
• United States
3 Feb 07
My fiancee and I have been together for the last 2 years. To be honest it is rocky and though it is nice in some spots it is shaky. We are two such totally different people that we don't always speak the same language. We do love each other though.
@maryannemax (12173)
• Sweden
3 Feb 07
love binds two people together. one is always different from the other. and to be able to stay in the relationship, each one should accept their partner's differences. relationships can be shaky at times. that always happen. but for as long as you two can hold on together and solve problems together, it will always turn out right.
@saintz87 (439)
• Singapore
2 Feb 07
Glad to hear that you are still with your BF. Main thing is, are you really happy with your relationship? If yes, should you get thinking about getting married or something already? Personally, i have never been on a relationship or hoping for one, yet. But i know that the time will come when its appropriate for me to find my life partner. In the meanwhile, i would have to focus on my studies. I really hope for an excellent relationship between you and your BF, its going to be valentine's soon. What are your expectations this year? All the best in your relationship. Cherish it and make it your best one. ever. you baby is very cute. what's his/her name?
@jude79 (58)
• Australia
2 Feb 07
Thank you. We have spoken about getting married, but we dont really have the money at the moment. Our sons name is Xavier and he nearly always brings a smile to our faces. But in regards to expectations....I have none, as long as my family is happy and healthy then I am happy. Its funny with relationships, they happen when you least expect them, and at the time we started going out I was not really wanting a relationship. I just wanted to know him out side of work, as i had plans to do a working holiday and then come back and study. Well they have all been put on hold. But good luck with your studies and I hope you succeed in whatever you are aiming for.
• India
3 Feb 07
hi gals i need a gal to make my lovestory is there anybody out there
@susana25 (341)
• Philippines
3 Feb 07
Well glad to hear that despite of what happen. And hope still going strong for the both of you. My bf and I celebrating our 2 years and 4 months this coming Feb.25. And I can't believe it also that until now wer going strong despite od all odds and trials.
• Virgin Islands (U.S.)
3 Feb 07
well my relationship is great acually me and my gf have plenty in common.. we both take care of each other and we work together to be one.. lol im young but yes i can keep a relationship... i make me smile,, laugh, and i make her feel special.. and she does the same for me.. now dont get me wrong we do have our moments where we disagree and we argue.. but those argument dont last days weeks or even months..... just a few minutes.. let alone a few hours... i love her and she loves me.. thats about all we need...
@nishu_m (25)
• India
3 Feb 07
it is odd to here..............
• Philippines
3 Feb 07
My husband and i were far from each other. were half-way around the globe. Imagine how far we are. But the kids stays with him. I dont mind it as long as he loves me and he remains sincere and loyal to me.. Our way of communication is thru internet,texting,and calling thru cellphone or the normal phone.Im still waiting for the visa, i just wish the US embassy will approved it.
• Philippines
3 Feb 07
its very much ok.....never been this happy..im glad we found each other. i love him more as days passed by....i love u so much mahal
• Egypt
3 Feb 07
nice discussion
@menaaiza (13)
• Philippines
3 Feb 07
iam happy for your relationship. me, i dont have have a relationship right now...though im happy to be alone no one to bother or stuff like that. i only wish that i could learn how to love again as much as i love the man im with b4.
@maryannemax (12173)
• Sweden
3 Feb 07
i met my boyfriend online sometime in 2005. i was only looking for someone to befriend since during those year, i was supposed to go to sweden and work. my intention was to have a friend there before even working there so i can atleast know most of about sweden before flying to their country. we became friends and he helped me out with every question i ask him. he was patient. and even there were weeks when i wasn't able to email him, he kept on being there for me. i wasn't able to go to sweden to work because of some problems between my agency and the government. but what turned to be a sad ending for me became the start of my happiness. april 25, 2006 when we became "us". it was really difficult at the start due to the distance and too many miles separating us. the good thing was, we started out as friends and we got to know each other well. so, what we thought will be difficult turned out to be not so hard to handle at all. we trust each other from the very start and it's when love grew step by step. he visited me here in the philippines october-november last year and we spent great days together. he met my family and they had bonding moments together as well. he's back to sweden after his stay here. it was the saddest part of my life seeing him leave me for awhile. i cried like a baby for days. but thanks to the internet, we get to chat everyday and email each other. (not to mention sending each other handwritten mails and packages through regular post which are weird these days). thus, the distance between us gets smaller each day. and sometime this year, i will be going to sweden to be with the man i love the most. you said that you moved too fast about your relationship. and we did it the other way. we did not rush about our relationship. isn't it great? we did it in different ways but no matter how we did it, we're happy to where we are now. don't be scared about how long you'll two last. enjoy each day you get to spend with the man who makes you feel special. try not to focus so much on what's gonna happen if it fears you. everything will be okey if you start believing that you will be together forever.
@kumaarhrd (152)
• India
3 Feb 07
i would like to wish u to contiue ur relationship as husband and wife as an un seperatble partner wish u good luck
• India
3 Feb 07
Oh tats very gud 2 hear. I'm glad u guys are stil together, and ur happy. I guess tats wat really matters, n tats a really cute son u hv there.. :) I've known my girlfriend for bout a yr now, but started goin out about 2 months ago. Things are goin on great and i cudn't hv hoped for anything better, i mean the times v share together are really special and am enjoying every moment of it.. Good Luck 2 u 2!! :)