How many children?

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Australia
February 2, 2007 9:49pm CST
my fiance and I have discussed having children later on but I only want 1 child and he wants 2. At them moment we just sort of pretend-argue about it but i'm worried that maybe this will cause problems down the track for us, if I still feel the same way about how many children I want. Should I just let things happen nauturally or should I stand my ground?
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@kerbausama (1336)
• Malaysia
3 Feb 07
its better two i think. .
• United States
3 Feb 07
I am in my mid thrities, and have to say, that is a very common problem for many of my friends at this age. They are at the age where if they are going to have more kids, they need to be seriously considering it, and if there is disagreement between spouses about how many kids to have, this is when it seems to really rear it's head. I would have a very serious chat about it before marriage. And if it's something that's very important to you, you need to find a firm compromise. If it's an absolute that you refuse to have more than one kid, and he insists he absolutely wants more, you will have a serious problem down the road. Before you walk down the aisle, I would work this out.
@kgwat70 (13396)
• United States
3 Feb 07
I think that you should stand your ground since you are the one that carries a child and not him. It is your body that a child comes out of so I think it is your decision whether or not you want to have one more more children. You two should still discuss things but it is your ultimate decision on having more children or not.
@minerc (1373)
• United States
3 Feb 07
I personally would let things happen naturally. You never know when you have the first child he could say you are right and vice versa. I have 2 children, I think I spaced there age to far apart but I enjoy them very much. I think that once you have your first you might change your mind. Good Luck.