friends request from persons with zero responses
February 3, 2007 6:24pm CST
I have been receiving requests for friends from persons who have not responded till date. I have been waiting for them to begin discussions or answering so as to get a view about them. Lately i have started denying those who have not started for a week now. How about you?
7 people like this
7 Feb 07
I think some people dont know what or how to answer as a new user so first they try to make friends and use most of their time in reading others answers and to understand them.But i think there are a few people who get a true and honest friend cause i have not found yet.so i will sugest that one should try to become a true and best friend.
• United States
4 Feb 07
When I first joined myLot, I accepted every request to be on my friends list. After four months, I went through all the names there and weeded out the ones who were no longer active, not posting to my topics or giving one or two word responses. Now when someone requests to be on my friends list, I check to see what topics they've posted on, what responses they've made to several discussions, etc. So, if they have no discussions or responses, I deny them. They can always ask again at a later date if they want. We all learn how to do things here as we go along, don't we?
17 Mar 07
It is really annoying at same time very problematic whether u would really wanna add such users to ur friends list since u cant never predict whether they are gonna likely to make way ahead ...just like pandora's black box really intriguing and problematic.The bottom line which i prefer myself while adding such people is seeing whether their responses are increasing everyday and when they reahc 100 tag-mark i surely add them else i wont pursue wid them..thats how it works for me..
15 Mar 07
Mylot is mainly discussion forum. If someone has not started responding, should not request for becoming friend. Seems such people are in search of girl friends only, anyhow they want to contact. Later they will disappear from Mylot. Not fair. You are right, we judge the people by their postings, how he/she is. From his postings we can judge very well a person. I too do this.
24 Jun 08
hey limcyjain.. don't do this.. actually some times it may be possible that person is not available or it is not online on mylot.. or any other reason... I also adding you as a friend and responding you after a week but I also send you a request few days before and you also take 3-4 days to approve my request.. what do you think..
18 Jun 08
Well, i havent denied anyone because of non-posting. i do understand that it is necessary for us to get their views... but probably they are just not the poster type of person. why not send a private message... you will be able to get their side without public posts. good day!
• United States
12 Jun 08
Yes, I wait too! At first, I was accepting all requests, but then realized that some people were just joining MyLot and leaving after a week or two. There is no reason for me or anyone to accept a friend request if that person is not going to be around. Better to wait on the request for a week or two until the person has proven that they are sticking around. Also it gives one time to see the nature of that person's discussions and responses. If they are suitable friends after fifty or one hundred posts, then I will always grant their request. Be well. Thanks for posting such an insightful and thought provoking question. Be well! Blessings upon you!
• United States
9 Jun 08
It is difficult to see why a member has sent a friends request when they haven't updated their profiles, but sometimes people are unfamiliar with how things work. They could be waiting on the email saying "this" member has accepted your friendship request before they remember to come back. Usually, I will usually wait to approve a request until I know a bit more about the member and what we might have in common before approving or denying. The request can stay pending as long as you want to keep it active, so I recommend just checking them out at a later date. If there's still no activity, the request will probably get declined.
4 Feb 07
I just keep accepting friends requests as they ask me to. If they don't post discussions, it is no loss, as I won't receive emails to say they have posted a discussion. They are not doing my friends list any harm, so I will leave them for a month or so. When I have the time I will probably delete them.
4 Feb 07
no one will judge you for whatever you decided..i also have some friends that never answer my posts..but i decided not to deleat them..but i do give priority to thise who reicpricate first..then if i have time i go to the other ones..ahEAVEN IS WIDE..WE WILL DO WELL HERE..THERE WILL BE ONES WHO WILL REPLY AND ONES WHO DON'T YOU AND ME CAN DO OUR BEST..THAT IS IMPORTANT..gOD WILL TAKE CARE Aof the rest..sorry for the caps..my comp..