Who was wrong?

United States
February 3, 2007 8:52pm CST
You guys tell me who did the bad one.. Well (this is a true story) me, my mom, and my dad were at the store, when this guy walks out and you know how sometimes the beepers go off even though they didn't steal anything? well my mom, being the out going person she is, says to the guy when he walks back "You stole it!" just in a playful, non serious way, and the guy gets all pissy and walks up to her sand says "Shut your f*ck*ng mouth" she starts to say she was sorry and she was only playing, and so the clerk makes him show her his receipt, and when he is done, he walks up to my mom again and says "I have a concealed weapons permit, ill be waiting for you in the parking lot".. well we got a little nervous but went out, and sure enough he was there, he didn't show a weapon but we immediately explained to him what happened and why she said that, so the guy still being pissed off rolls up his window and drives off(in a parking lot) at about 50 or 60mph.. Do you think my mom should have kept her mouth shut, or should the guy have not taken it so seriously? (in case you wanted to know, my mom was mad at my dad, because he told the other guy "don't worry ill make sure she keeps her mouth shut from now on, i know she shouldn't do that kind of stuff and i will make sure it never happens again" and i guess that made her mad..) so, what do you think?
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57 responses
@XxAngelxX (2835)
• Canada
4 Feb 07
Wow! I'd be pretty upset with your dad if he said this too. I think the guy should have just accepted her apology. She was joking afterall. I don't think your mom did anything wrong, however I guess it just shows some people don't know how to take a joke. I do think however after he uttered that threat that you should have had security go out to the parking lot with you. That would scare me for sure. I don't think what your dad did was right at all. Even if I disagree with something my boyfriend said or did, I would never tell someone I'd make sure he didn't do it again. I am not responsible for someone elses actions and vice versa. I think it was very wrong of your dad.
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• United States
4 Feb 07
Agreed, and we would have but we didn't even think about it, and it would take a while for the police to arrive..
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• India
4 Feb 07
Well, I would say both were wrong and right in their own sense. Your mom should know better than to make an accusation on a stranger even though it was in a jovial sense. The stranger was well within his rights on being very angry. But he must have restrained himself and sccepted your parents' apology. Your mother also was right on being angry with your father as he used such language to tell the guy that he would keep his wife from doing this again that would make anyone angry!!!!!!
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• Malaysia
4 Feb 07
I do agree with u. Sometimes even though it's just a joke, strangers never know it. Strangers might think differently cuz we hear what we wanna hear. Maybe the stranger was offended and that's why get pissed at ur mom's joke. As for ur dad, maybe ur dad is just trying to calm the guy down. It's just he has used a wrong sentence. Well, ultimately the stranger was overreacted. He took things seriously. But then again, who might know in what kind of mood he was in at that moment. Maybe he was pissed and that kind of joke make him more pissed?
@AskAlly (3627)
• Canada
4 Feb 07
Obviously this idiot has no sense of humor. I just want to smack people like that. I don't think that I could have stopped laughing at him when he said I have a concealed weapons permit. People with concealed weapons permits don't need to tell the word. How pathetic. I'm alot like your mom and I probably would have said something too. I don't think she was wrong, it was just the nincompoop she said it too. As for your dad,,,,,,he'd be in big trouble over at my house too. If he disagreed with her about this, he should have told her in private later, but he should have stuck up for her in public. SORRY DAD??!!??
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• United States
4 Feb 07
No kidding, i thought he was a complete idiot saying that, but whats done is done... +'ed
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@Katlady2 (9925)
• United States
4 Feb 07
Your mom sounds like me! She didn't do anything wrong. She was just having a bit of fun, that's all. That guy probably reacted the way he did either because of a guilty conscience, or because he was having a really bad day, or he was just in a permanently grouchy mood. Did the clerk make the guy empty his pockets? If not, he/she should have. I used to be married to someone with that kind of temper. No matter what you say or do, there's no pleasing them. And I think that your dad, although he was trying to diffuse the situation, shouldn't have disrespected your mom like that. I can see why she would get mad. If you run into someone that reacts that way again and makes similar statements about waiting for you, please make sure to have security or a police officer check it out. Better to be safe than sorry. I'm glad nothing happened to you and your family.
• United States
4 Feb 07
Me too, if he did actually have a concealed weapon, HA! they let people pass to easily.. +'ed
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• Canada
4 Feb 07
Well for starters I can understand why your mom is mad at your dad , by him saying that it makes your mom look like she did something wrong when all she was doing was just picking . I would be furious if my husband said something like that as it would come across to me that he was taking the other guys side . As for the guy in the store , he sounds kind of crazy . I would be thinking he is some kind of crazy and by his reaction feel that he has probably stole before and this is why he got so upset and what was the reason for him going on about the weapon . I think you guys should keep a close eye on your mom just in case this guy is some kind of real nut case . You just never know with people out there anymore . And no , I don't think your mom did anything wrong , the guy in the store over reacted and then your dad didn't exactly help the situation .
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• United States
4 Feb 07
Thanks for such a detailed post :) Everything there makes sense, agreed!
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• United States
4 Feb 07
Wow he totally over reacted,and for him to make threats is totally overboard. I mean since your mom was just joking, I dont see the harm. As most people can tell when someone is joking around. Thank God he didnt try to hurt your family. I would have told a clerk before I went to the parking lot, I witnessed something similiar at our walmart here, and a guy got shot because he accidentially bumped someone with a buggy, now this poor young man has a disfigured face from shopping cart rage! I am glad your all ok.
• United States
4 Feb 07
Ewww thats horrible! We did tell a clerk, she just said it would be fine..
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@urbandekay (18314)
4 Feb 07
Bit you don't know what country you are in but here in UK, and in most civilised countries I presume, the guy has committed an indictable offence. Here, you could have called the police and had him arrested. If your mum was clearly making a joke the guy over-reacted. Her joke was in poor taste, but poor taste is not a crime. all the best urban
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@threena (132)
• Philippines
4 Feb 07
Well in fun or not, I don't think it was a good idea to say that to someone you don't personally know. It would be offending, and the fact that the beeper went off on him is embarrassing enough. And at these times you can never really tell if a person can take a joke or not. And the comment your dad made would really make her mad, but she should see the point that she made an error. He only said it to the guy so the situation can be controlled.
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@xelissa (777)
• New Zealand
4 Feb 07
I think that your dad is more like controlling your mum and I'd be pretty mad if my hubby said the same, the guy who threatened you sounds a bit dopey dude, he needs to lighten up and learn to take a joke, and saying the weapon part was maybe part of a payback in jokewise (if that makes sense) or his way of telling a joke. He probably wanted to make your mum feel like what he did when you guys played the joke on him... Anywho this is a weird situation to be in.
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@rakinitin (686)
• Canada
4 Feb 07
There are so many people who abuse the 'just kidding' phrase. It is not acceptable to say just anything to someone and then when they become offended, think that a simple phrase like 'just kidding' will make it OK. Once you verbally offend someone, the damage is already done. It cannot be taken back or simply forgotten. Your mother's comment to the stranger embarassed him I'm sure. It would be wise to remember that every action has a reaction.
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@tad1fan (3373)
• Canada
4 Feb 07
I think,because your mom was playing with him that when he said he had a 'concealed weapon' and would be waiting,she should have got security and had the police called....even if she was serious,it's more serios for him to say what he did and he was threatening her life
• United States
4 Feb 07
I can not believe that your dad said something like that and I would of been madder at him for this than the other guy, your dad should of been defending your mother. That is his job as being her husband he should always be there to protect her when she needs it. As far as what your mom did I can not see anything wrong with what she did at all. I myself have made these kinds of comments and don't find anything wrong with it. It sounds to me like this guy had a guilty consense(sp) otherwise why would he react this way and if he had not taken anything he would of found humor in what your mother said and probably just joked right back with her. How do we know if he had taken anything or not just because he did have a reciept to show does not mean anything. I think that your dad was wrong and your mom was right she was only playing.
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@sadate (35)
• India
4 Feb 07
I think the guy at the store has a problem. The next person to have a problem is your Dad. he should have told the guy to mind his language. I fully support your mother.
@DocterDew (902)
• United States
4 Feb 07
Well your mom probably shouldn't have said anything because it's none of your business. Also chances are a guy who a) has a beeper go off for stealing, and b) threatens you probably has not liscense. Your lucky the guy didn't take it any farther he sounded pretty serious.
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• United States
4 Feb 07
Wow. The guy was in the wrong I would say, because a lot of people joke like that. Then to threaten your mom and your dad not stick up for her WOW. The guy must of had a guilty concense.
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• Netherlands
4 Feb 07
The guy was soo wrong!!! Tell your mom to keep that sense of humor, there are many of us who need the smiles people like her bring out!
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• United States
4 Feb 07
Will do :D +'ed
• United States
9 Feb 07
That guy is an idiot. Your mom was just joking, no harm done. He was in the wrong, and should have never said what he did. Your dad should not have disrepected your mom like that, I would have been furious.
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@rusty2rusty (6742)
• Defiance, Ohio
5 Feb 07
After reading the responses, I have to against the norm..I think your mom should of kept her mouth shut. Sorry but it was none of her business to begin with. How would you feel if someone came up to you and acussed you of stealing when you know you didn't? Don't tell me it wouldn't bother you at all. Maybe you would have had better tact than the guy. But if it would of been me. I would of told her to shut the hell up as well. I do think he took it to far when he threatened your mom. She should of called the cops and reported it. Even thou she was in the wrong to begin with..In my opinion two wrongs don't make a right. In other words. He has no excuse for what he did either. You never know how someone is going to react in a situation like that. Or what their temper is like. It is best to advoid it altogether and not even say anything to begin with.
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• United States
5 Feb 07
I think the guy was a lil to on the serious tip because any NORMAL person would hav eknown it was a joke lol even before reading it i kne it was goin be somthin funy and if he aint still nothin he should have said nothin cuz it wuld have been that serious
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@iansusie (20)
• United States
5 Feb 07
I think she should have kept her mouth shut... It is not nice to judge a person the way she did. He was also wrong for staying and waiting for you all and then taking off the way he did. Your dad should have just appologized and not say anything about keeping your mom's mouth shut either!
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