What if's

I think we always have what if's especially in making really tough decisions. I recently separated from my husband but before I made the decision I tried to cover all my bases. I tried very hard to make the marriage work, gave him chance after chance and even went to counselling. I think I have covered all my what if's and that was my big thing. I didn't want to be thinking five years from now, well what if I had done this... I tried everything I could possibly think of to make it work and have no fears that I will ever think I didn't do enough.

I think these "what ifs" only become "what ifs" if you think of them as such. Regret always exist in these kind of situations. Have you tried thinking 'what if' without the feeling of regret? Especially if if is emotions that are in play? Try it once and you'll see what I mean. =)

i have a lot of 'what ifs' at the moment. my parents do not approve of the guy i wish to marry. he is a nie guy and loves me much. but my parents say his qualification is not much and he might not be very good and could have lied to me about his job and all (he lives in another country,but is basically from my country and city). so right now i am stuck with a lot of 'if's.