February 3, 2007 9:54pm CST
i just hate the question "what if" it just only makes you nervous. it makes you stop and think again. it's either you have regretted something or stopped for while so that you won't regret anything. are there any what if's in your life that you wish had happened? what are those?
4 Feb 07
I think we always have what if's especially in making really tough decisions. I recently separated from my husband but before I made the decision I tried to cover all my bases. I tried very hard to make the marriage work, gave him chance after chance and even went to counselling. I think I have covered all my what if's and that was my big thing. I didn't want to be thinking five years from now, well what if I had done this... I tried everything I could possibly think of to make it work and have no fears that I will ever think I didn't do enough.
8 Feb 07
I think these "what ifs" only become "what ifs" if you think of them as such. Regret always exist in these kind of situations. Have you tried thinking 'what if' without the feeling of regret? Especially if if is emotions that are in play? Try it once and you'll see what I mean. =)
7 Feb 07
i have a lot of 'what ifs' at the moment. my parents do not approve of the guy i wish to marry. he is a nie guy and loves me much. but my parents say his qualification is not much and he might not be very good and could have lied to me about his job and all (he lives in another country,but is basically from my country and city). so right now i am stuck with a lot of 'if's.
8 Feb 07
I see. That's sad. although some of parents think are in fact true at times. However it's hard on our part to see it realy. because we like the person. Or could be the parents are just being plain over protective of you... then again.. this is more of a start of a new discussion. :) hehehe post it!