why do married men cheat?

May 28, 2006 8:51pm CST
do married men love there wifes even though they are cheating on them
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279 responses
9 Jun 06
i am a man single but my dad cheated on my mum, and when he was caught said he loved my mum but in a different way but i thought when you get married the vows you take are meant to mean something but not to my dad. so i cant see how you can love someone you meant to spend the rest of your life with if you jump in bed with another woman. luckerly my mum saw sence and got rid of him and my step dad loves her and adores her. my dad is a looser and i dont know where he is. so i think they dont love there wives they just say it to hope the wives dont find out what they are up to and really like
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@wathanjim (2215)
• United States
25 Nov 06
The person who started this post hasnt logged in for 7 months posts from non active members should be removed.
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• India
27 Nov 06
All married men who sleep with other women are loosers... If they can't stay with one woman.. They won't stay with any other woman either...
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• India
30 Dec 06
I'm a married men who's not cheating my wife even 0.001%. Such a post is not applicable to me i think!
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@ilse72 (1454)
• United States
26 Oct 06
No, if a man cheat's he definitely does not love his wife. You are not supposed to intentionally hurt someone you love and, if you cheat, you are intentionally hurting her. Why do men cheat? Let's see: immaturity they think the grass is greener elsewhere they are thinking with the wrong "head" they don't understand a committed relationship they still want to be single but have the benefits of marriage (i.e. maid service, cooked meals, etc.)
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• United States
7 Jan 07
I couldn't agree more. You just described my first husband to a "T".
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• Pune, India
28 Jul 08
same here..
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• United States
2 Aug 08
Sometimes thier wives aren't putting out enough and meeting thier emotional needs... sometimes the wife they married is fat now and doesnt take care of heself... sometimes the wife spends more time with the kids then nurturing the relationship with her husband...
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@pumpkinjam (5607)
• United Kingdom
26 Oct 06
I don't think they love their wives if they cheat otherwise they wouldn't do it. But there may be times when they do still love their wife but there are problems with the relationship and some men would rather ignore the problems and cheat than work things out with their wife.
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• United States
5 Jan 07
I agree with u 100% pumpkin...this happened with a friend of mines :)
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@diansinta (7554)
• Indonesia
7 Jan 07
yes. they too tired to works things out,and prefer cheating. always looking for a short cut.
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@carlennj (593)
• United States
20 Nov 06
I can think of a few reasons. 1. He's not being satisfied at home. 2. He's looking for a challenge/conquest at home. 3. He's no longer interested in the wife. Either way it is not fair! Good luck.
• United States
20 Nov 06
Just me - Sitting in the St. Clair Inn (Michigan)
I think a man that cheats on his wife, doesn't love himself and therefore he has to validate his worth outside of the marriage. Too many young people try to find happyness in other people rather than finding contentment within themselves.
@lameran (1148)
• Indonesia
9 Jan 07
u miss one reason ? ^_^ some people said .. its man natural ? T__T
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@magnet (2089)
• United States
20 Nov 06
Because married men get tempted just like single men and married or not people get tempted, but there are some married men who do not have self control and sense enough to run the other way when they feel that way.
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@naha123 (1266)
• India
26 Oct 06
i dont know because iam not yet married. even non married guys are also cheating their lovers know.cheaters are always cheater.
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@mayshoe (606)
• India
20 Nov 06
man has always been a conqueror ........now as we have no battle fields ...this one is left...so they think the more women they can .win the better they feel........
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@masoud02 (176)
• Oman
17 Dec 06
Men cheat because they have masterkey which can open all padlocks!
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@joanna07 (111)
• Ireland
9 Jan 07
men do not love their partner if they cheat!
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@infohome (1222)
• India
20 Nov 06
very few men cheat their wife.
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@LovingIt (5398)
• United States
28 Nov 06
I think you are very naive if you really think that!
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• United States
30 Dec 08
Men who cheat are more dissatisfied with themselves than their partner. They are trying to build their ego in some way. I say if your man cheats get rid of him. There are others who can be faithful because they are secure with themselves.
• United States
30 Dec 08
Men who cheat are more dissatisfied with themselves than their partner. They are trying to build their ego in some way. I say if your man cheats get rid of him. There are others who can be faithful because they are secure with themselves.
• Canada
6 Jan 07
Whether man should cheat his depend entirely on the personality and beauty of his wife. Suppose that he saw an attractive woman at work, or at any place, he might fall in love with her and they might some day enjoy bodily moments. In such case, he is cheating his wife. But if the wife is beautiful enough to attract his attention, he might keep on loving much in the way as the woman he met. If his wife is ugly compared to his new found lover, then there are chances that his love toward his wife might starkly reduce.
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• United States
6 Jan 07
this can be avoided by marrying a woman that you don't find unattractive. it would also help to marry someone for something more than their looks. yeah, you should find your wife physically attractive, but if that's the basis for your relationship then your shallow relationship will not last long.
@slimes (354)
• Ukraine
6 Jan 07
some married do love their wives very well but they sometimes fall to temptations and start to cheat on these their beloved maybe out of frustation or some other forms of external forces
@pippadj (107)
20 Nov 06
just the same reason as married woman cheat, both males and females do it. They get bored, they rush into marridge in the first place, or they just get sucked into someone else showing them some effection.
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• United States
27 Jul 08
Yeap that's true!! I know a guy like that. Rush into the marrriage even though it was his high school sweetheart but they was off and on. She moved in and she got pregnant and so it happen. Six years later they have 2 kids and 1 on the way and he's still cheating.Hell he even had a threesome before without her with someone at work!! Sad!!!!
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• United States
6 Jan 07
Married men who cheat are obviously lacking something....not that its the wifes fault...they could be lacking emotional intellagence. I don't think a cheater could possibly love their spouse...how could they betray someone like that and love them?
@disvachic (10125)
• United States
5 Jan 07
i dont know they claim they are not being satisfied at home which is not a good reason they should not be cheating at all!
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@yatin110 (25)
• United States
27 Nov 06
They cheat cause they are not happy ,,, and its not only men who cheat !!!!
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• India
27 Nov 06
i m not married...sorry can't say
@edelweiss (1930)
• India
26 Nov 06
No, Not all married men cheat their wives!
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@doctorul (1063)
• Romania
26 Nov 06
The answer is the same with the one that says why married women are cheating on man!
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@tym2eat (38)
• United States
26 Nov 06
Because they can get away with it. Men have learned over the years that women will stay with them after they cheat on them especially if they have kids. So they do what they want and then go on talks shows and cry and say Im so sorry you are the best thing that ever happened to me and we take them back. Stop the insanity!!!!
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@cheongyc (5075)
• Malaysia
26 Nov 06
No, i don't think they love their wives anymore. If the love still exist, they won't have the slightest thought & the heart to do it.
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@elixir (1456)
• Guam
26 Nov 06
i dont think so..