How can I make my son enjoy studying?

Philippines
February 4, 2007 4:21am CST
I have a 13 yrs.old son and he is in first year high school. Since he was young he never studied harder than his sisters..He doesn't write most of what they study at school, don't do homework or projects..When he comes home he doesn't even look at his notes..He doesn't review when there is a test or exam that he always fails. I don't think he likes to study at all..Help... any ideas you can provide for me to make my son study more..
2 people like this
10 responses
@cool1girl (248)
• India
7 Feb 07
Get involved with his studies.Monitor his work and push him to work harder.Tell him its important for him and you that he work hard.Without that he will not be given any good thing in life.Also tell him that he should simply work hard without expecting a good result,if u see him put in the right effort,u will not be upset with him even if he does not get good marks........Hope it works for u!All the best!
• Philippines
8 Feb 07
Thanks for the comment.I really appreciate your suggestions and I will put it in use.
1 person likes this
• India
8 Feb 07
I too have a son who is going through a phase of running away from studies.I have to ignore all my work to monitor his studies.I'm glad you took my suggestion positively!
1 person likes this
• Philippines
9 Feb 07
Thanks cool1girl...All the replies I get here at mylot I want to put into use if I see that it can help me and my family...I really appreciate all the suggestions and comments I get from mylot.
• Philippines
9 Feb 07
Talk to him. Advice him that studying is important in our life. Tell him that his education will prepare for his good future. Encourage him and help him in his studies. Like you would ask him on his assignments and you study together. And also it would encourage him if you will give rewards to his success! Like if you set a limit score for his exam and he got that then give him something. Check him everyday, his notes, assignments. You can also asks his teachers numbers for reports regarding your child. I know one day your child would mature and become responsible. But as of now he is 13 years old just check him every day and help him.
1 person likes this
• Philippines
10 Feb 07
Thanks for the comment. I really appreciate it. I will keep that in mind and put it in use.
@lameran (1148)
• Indonesia
9 Feb 07
mmm I think thats normal, a boy usually lazyier than a girl, I saw it many times at many school, but some boys deligent also, may be you may give him a price for every good marks or result he get, or praise him every good marks is also a good, may be it could encorage him to get study more harder.
1 person likes this
• Philippines
10 Feb 07
Thanks for the comment. I appreciate it.. I will put that in use.
@Ravenladyj (22992)
• United States
8 Feb 07
You can't make him ENJOY his studies so dont even bother trying HOWEVER you can encourage him in a positive way to be more active when it comes to his work...I went through a phase like that with my kids a couple yrs ago and I found that sitting with them doing "studies" of my own while they did their homework seemed to really help...plus remind him of the importance of having an education in the world today..and I would also find out why he doesnt care....he's the same age as my son and I know when puberty hit my boy started slacking off but talking to him on a regular basis about whats goin on with him (girls, peer presure etc)and helping him find solutions to some of the issues that we as adults have 'forgotten' about (when it comes to being a teen) helps a great deal and now his grades are up again plus he knows that he can talk to me even about 'guy' stuff which seems to ease his mind a lot ya know....
1 person likes this
• Philippines
9 Feb 07
Thanks for the comment. I really appreciate it. I will do my best to put your suggestions into use..
• Philippines
7 Feb 07
it would be a challenge now to have his attention in books. study habits should have been done in his formative years. i say try the S-R approach (stimulus-response) method. say you give out whatever he favors from you in return he gives out good or even better grades in school. minimize watching tv and be firm with your decision. let them know when you mean "no".
• Philippines
8 Feb 07
Thanks for the comment and suggestion as well..I really do appreciate it.
@cjthedog64 (1554)
• United States
7 Feb 07
It's like a job - he doesn't have to LIKE to do it, but he needs to get it done. He should work on basic study skills and organizational skills for starters. If you can help him learn to do a little at a time, it won't be so overwhelming and he might get a little better.
1 person likes this
• Philippines
8 Feb 07
Thanks for the comment and suggestion.I really do appreciate it.
• United States
6 Feb 07
Have you ever tried doing it with him? Or, one of his sisters? It may be worth a shot. A lot of boys his age just don't get into that studing and lack interest because of numerous reasons. Try a reward system too. It may encouage him. Tell him he can have something he enjoyes if he shows effort and does better by the end of the semester. Hope that will help a little. Blessings, M&M
1 person likes this
• Philippines
8 Feb 07
Thanks for the comment. When I am not busy I try my best to help my kids in their projects and assignments..I really appreciate your suggestion.
• Philippines
4 Feb 07
A friend of my mine told me about his study habits and how he love studying and getting high scores in class. He said that his mother always give him prizes everytime he got a high score in quizzes or exams. That motivates him to study harder in class.
1 person likes this
• Philippines
4 Feb 07
Thanks for the comment.I tried to do this already..He wanted a bike and I told him if he pass all his subjects I would buy him a bike.. at first he was sooo excited but then it faded of..and he's back to his old self again. I will try other prizes I guess.
@wiessied (646)
• United States
4 Feb 07
You can ease the load off your sons shoulders if you help him visualize his day or week. Listen to your sons concerns and address them by doing a little goal setting. Talk about projects or small “missions” he want to accomplish. Helping him map out his week will not only help them develop a positive outlook but will also intensify your bond with him. Help him enjoy studying by letting him adapt a system or schedule to review everything he learned that school day.Learning can be so much fun for children if we let them see it from a different perspective.School can spell year-round fun for kids; we just have to make sure that they get the right support from us so they can easily cope with it.
1 person likes this
• Philippines
4 Feb 07
Thanks for the comment. I really appreciate it.I wil try my best to do your suggestions.
@funfreak2k2 (1740)
• India
4 Feb 07
First, talk to his teachers. to know about everything like subjects he is interested, how lessons are taught at school i mean the methodology of teaching, where he is sluggish in the syllabus, etc. then plan yourself how to teach him, methodology, the subjects etc and talk to his teachers again to implement it with their coordination. if you and your teachers coordinate well, your child will definitely show keen interest in his studies. why dont you use your computer to teach him. make power point presentations of his lessions and convert them into movie files and show them on video player. softwares for conversion are available for free on internet. all the best.
• Philippines
4 Feb 07
Thanks for the comment. I will try my best to do that. I appreciate your suggestions. I will schedule a time to talk to his teachers.