Why it is hard to forgive a person who made troubled in you?

@cuddiluk (1523)
Philippines
February 5, 2007 8:58pm CST
I had a friend that I find hard to forgive to the worst thing she ever done to me. She always put me into trouble situation. I was embarrassed to other people because of her selfishness, greed (for the sake of money) and luck of support to me. I thought she can be trusted as she promised to me that our secret was bolted tightly and will never be revealed. That secret in the end was used against to me. I was threatened if I'm not going to use that secret as by witness for her, then I will be the one will suffer in the end and my family will be involve. I was messed up with unholy dignity. I was in deep troubled at that time. To protect my family that top secret was revealed. The worst scenario, I admitted the mistake which is not mine and not coming from me. Is this a real friend? One day she called me up and asking a favor again that she will use me again for his selfish intention. I never gave her a chance anymore.I denied her request. I've never told her fully how am I mad at her. Only half way of it. When we saw each other she greeted me but I am a bit bitter when I responded to her. Do you think she notices that way I treated her? What am i should do? Thanks advance to those who gives input.
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@moto47 (555)
• Indonesia
6 Feb 07
I think you've done the right things. For me, I can't call a person like that as "friend". From my definition, friend won't ever sacrifice his/her mate for his/her own advantages. If someone does like that I prefer called IT "cheater". :
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@cuddiluk (1523)
• Philippines
8 Feb 07
Yeah, thanks. I don't know what to do if we've crossed over our path.
@msqtech (15226)
• United States
15 Feb 07
Dont give her a chance to hurt again.
@Dennik (540)
• Philippines
8 Feb 07
I think the right thing to do is tell her straight your concerns regarding what she has done and if she has humility to eat her pride and ask for reconciliation you may forgive her.
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@cuddiluk (1523)
• Philippines
8 Feb 07
Well, thank you. I'm looking forward that one-on-one counteract. But unfortunately, she indeed not here right now. She went abroad. I don't know when she's coming back.
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@dudumin (33)
• China
16 Feb 07
from what i see, always makes you in big trouble, use your secret to threntend you ,greed, can you call that's a friend again? in my opinion what you have done is right. unless she realize her mistakes and make it up to you , you can get alone with her.
@msqtech (15226)
• United States
15 Feb 07
She is a user and abuser. You should cease all contact with her and stay out of her clutches. Dont worry about her feelings so much and respect your family.