Friends On Mylot

@lisa101 (1362)
United States
February 6, 2007 1:07pm CST
When i start my day out on mylot i always respond to as many of my friends discussions as i can some i even give responses to on more than one discussion because i find them interesting and easy to respond to. Then i respond to some new discussions out of my friends list. After all this i will try to come up with ideas on my own discussions. I find this works for me as far as keeping track with what im doing. But my problem is i spend all this time responding to my friends and only a very few will respond to my discussions. I am greatful to them for this. But for the others i just wish they knew how much time i spend helping them out and they never return the favor so im going to delete a few so i can focus on the ones that are true friends. Do you guys think this would be a good thing for me to do? I want to know before i act.
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31 responses
@dixie1 (1330)
• United States
6 Feb 07
Hi, Yes, I think it would be ok to do that. I will try to focus more on just my friends too if they post topics of interest. Best Wishes
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@lisa101 (1362)
• United States
6 Feb 07
Thank you for the rsponse. I feel that i need to find friends with my intrests and it will be easier.
• India
7 Feb 07
well lisa rather than finding friends of interest, look out for the persons who consistantly respond to you discussions and also search the persons who keep the discussions going on for a longer time
@yogiraut (230)
• India
7 Feb 07
dear lisa, u have tried to help ur friends from ur side.but, ur frends r not responding. So the decision u have taken is correct , i fully support u. Plz act on true friends.bye
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@KHyuga (1694)
• Singapore
7 Feb 07
I would suggest dropping him or her a message before you delete your friend.
@lisa101 (1362)
• United States
7 Feb 07
Thanks for you support
@dellion (6698)
• Malaysia
6 Feb 07
I had once feel a little bit disapointed for those who didn't responses to my discussions but then when come to think about it I found that its not that easy for any members here to keep tracks all their friends discussions. Its very time comsuming and quite impossibles to responses to all the topics unles you have only few friends in your lists. Personally I don't mind if my friends responses to discussions and me too wouldn't mind to responses to any other members discussions provided I found its interesting and I know how to responses it:)I wouldn't deletes any friends in my lists which I think its really not nice to do so.....it might hurt their feeling..
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@dellion (6698)
• Malaysia
7 Feb 07
I do understand how you feels and what you expected in return after so much hard works by you just that I know you will feel bad most of the time if you can't get rid of this kind of problems. Anyway I hope you will soon get to know and make very nice friends here which will always make their efforts to your discussions:)
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@lisa101 (1362)
• United States
6 Feb 07
I understand your point of view but why should i worry about their feelings when obviously they dont respect mine . Its not right for me to work hard on them and not get anything in return. Does this not hurt my feelings also?
@shambuca (2524)
• United States
7 Feb 07
Some of them may not be on mylot anymore, seems some people come on and expect to make money right away and when that doesn't happen they don't come back. i would go through them carefully and get rid of them if you are sure.
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@lisa101 (1362)
• United States
7 Feb 07
Yeah thats good advice thanks
6 Feb 07
This is me being honest. (check my replies if you would like) =) I always do the same. I start my day by replying to 3 or more to each of friends or as many as i can. i then move on to discussion which have been posted by new members because i feel they deserve them. when i first joined i recieved quite a few and i really liked it, it made me feel as if i was home. I then start a couple and then watch and reply to comments which try. normally it's a fair few and there not all "thank yous" but real talking and joining in. i then move back to newly posted discussions and then i go back to friends to see if they replied to what i said. ~Joey P.s i hope you don't mind you see very nice, so i put a friend request in. =)
@lisa101 (1362)
• United States
6 Feb 07
I feel the same way I do reply to the new discussions and even a time or two i have responded to the ones that say they have no responses. I believe its good to help all. Thanks for your ideas and i dont mind to add you as a friend. Im in the buisness for new friends hahaha lol.
6 Feb 07
Hehe. Same here really. I actually should find some outside of the cyber world. =) Anyways. keep the good discussions coming. Your mylot pal.. ~joey
@tflamee (11)
• United States
7 Feb 07
i would believe so if you are always responding to their discussions and they never respond to yours well, i just joined today and i am going to try respond to alot of discussions on
@lisa101 (1362)
• United States
7 Feb 07
Good luck! making many responses is how i got started and i do good with it.
@KHyuga (1694)
• Singapore
7 Feb 07
Perhaps before deleting them you can send them a message informing them how you would like your favoure to be returned. Most ofus don't even keep track of who has been replying to our discussions.
@rusty2rusty (6751)
• Defiance, Ohio
6 Feb 07
That would not be a bad idea. I have been weeding my friends out as well for that same reason. I have many friends. I have not asked to be friends with many people. Lets just say more has asked to be my friend. But than I never here from them or see they respond to my threads I have started. I know people get busy and it is hard to keep up with so many friends. That is why I review people's profiles before I add them as a friend now. Some I have checked out seem to have really great discussions..but they don't pretain to me. I also seem to be sticking with people that are more from my country. Or a country similar to mine. But that does mean I will not be friends with someone not of my country. Or answer there threads. Now if a friend would let me know they are not going to be on line. Or will be off due to computer troubles. Than I keep them as afriend til they come back.
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@lisa101 (1362)
• United States
6 Feb 07
That is a great way of putting it. I have only asked a couple to be on my friends list and the rest asked me. A lot of them i never hear from again. I guess some of them think they get money for friend requests.
@patrice7 (1191)
• United States
6 Feb 07
well hello lisa!. i do that too and i try to answer as much of the discussionf of my friends too. i find it to be nice helping out friends and i also like their discussions.. but there is always an exception because not all topics of my friends are something that i have knowledge about so i cannot make a response.. i dont respond to discussion just because these people are my friends, that would make my posts lose their quality.. anyway there is always a chance that some of these friends will not reply to your posts and there are chances that they will find your name and do respond to your discussions.. so please continue what you are doing because you will never know.. i think that deleting friends who never really responds after quite a few observations might do so that you can focus on your friends who really reply to your posts.. i think i might do this because i have the same experience as you.. but i really suggest that you may wait a bit and try to respond more to your friends discussion and if they wont then its your right to delete them..
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@lisa101 (1362)
• United States
6 Feb 07
I have also run up on the problem with not really knowing how to answer some of my friends. It will make you sweat it out for a little bit. Sometimes i will look around in their profile for something i can answer but if i can't find an intrest, i do like you and not respond at all. I think that would be fair for me not to answer than to make up nonsense. Thanks for your advice.
• India
7 Feb 07
but most of them are basically engaged in making money and nothing else. They have no social aspects but of making money......... this is my observation rest on your experience
@Fluplup (555)
• United States
7 Feb 07
Yes, I think we all do the same thing like you. But sometimes I got lost beetwen subjects, discussions. I was thinking for myself just do answering, just do looking for friends. I don't think people not answering you because you are not good what you write, I think is just so many of us. Hugh area - myLot is growing every second, myLot is world wide, myLot is Big!
• United States
6 Feb 07
I have noticed that some friends never respond to my discussions. I deleted a couple today. I would much rather have a small group of friends that I can have enjoyable dicussions with than a big group of friends. In fact, when someone requests to be added as one of my friends and I see they ave 915 friends, I knwo they are just a friend "collector" and really have no interest in what I have to say!
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@lisa101 (1362)
• United States
7 Feb 07
Yeah thats what i was thinking. But i will only delete the ones that are not active. I know that just a few would be easier to manage but if they are active and want to be on my friends list then i think it would be best to keep them. But it is still annoying to answer on their discussions and never hear back from them.
@miladsafa (124)
7 Feb 07
i think i have to epend more time on my friends too.
• Australia
7 Feb 07
I think perhaps you should simply refrain from commenting on their posts for a few days, but before doing so, tell them why you're upset. They may simply go to the discussions on the main page out of habit, and may even be unaware of how to find posts by other friends. I know I am, but I did just join.
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@Piratesware (2888)
• Indonesia
7 Feb 07
yup.. well u must keep posting .. that best u can do.
@lucy02 (5016)
• United States
7 Feb 07
I have the same problem. There is a few friends that I can count on to respond to my discussions but a lot of them have never responded to any. At first I would respond equally. Now I concentrate on the ones that return the favors. Some of the ones that didn't respond to any of mines posted question after question and usually very simple two or three word quesitons. It was taking up a lot of my time so now I concentrate on the friends that help me.
• Philippines
7 Feb 07
If you rate their responses in your discussions you just started there is a great possibility that they will do the same to you. Its one of the best way to earn more here in Mylot.
@dragutelu (216)
• Romania
7 Feb 07
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• India
7 Feb 07
Dont think on that way.Ur friends are not responding to much in the sense some one have so many works.Thats why they just put an intro and submit their post on a new topic.Just we consider our knowledge going to increase in a big manner on narrow way...
@karthima (111)
• India
7 Feb 07
Mylot had accepted me to pay for my response. I believe in it.If i receive any payment I'll surely send many of my friends, customers , chat mates, etc,. Its a very good part time income. Even people who study or stay st home can earn through it. mylot formalities are very legal . Its nice and different.