Are you a first born, middle child, or a baby?? Do you feel the stereotypes fit

@astromama (1226)
United States
February 6, 2007 6:09pm CST
I am a middle child, and a lot of the things they say about middle children fit me to a "t"... do you think birth order has something to do with your personality and how you relate to others?
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• United States
7 Feb 07
I am the baby of 10 kids... & I know they say the baby is spoiled, but I don't really think I am... atleast spoiled rotten :) I think that being in any position in the family can help mold your personality and who you are & how you relate to others. I know that I get away with more being the youngest, then I would have if I were the oldest. They kind of molded the way for me & a couple of my other siblings. I just thinkn the overall family life affects who you are and how you interact with others.
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@astromama (1226)
• United States
7 Feb 07
Ten kids! Holy cow... Yes, I agree that overall family life is what shapes you... but I also think birth order and gender has a lot to do with it. I mentioned I have one older brother, so he 'molded the way' in one sense, but because I was a girl I still didn't get to do things he did at the same age he was allowed to. I heard 'you're the girl, so... ' far too often, and i think it has a lot to do with how passionate I am about equal rights and feminism! It was 'never fair' in my experience... in fact, that phrase probably came out of my mouth more often than any other being the middle child! The oldest got to do things I couldn't, and the youngest always got everything, and if a 'democratic' decision had to be made, I was always outvoted because the boys outnumbered me!
@deedles88 (297)
• Australia
7 Feb 07
I was the youngest born, and I was spoilt rotten. But I grew up, and it didnt affect me at all. I am very giving and not selfish. It can fit some families but it doesnt fit mine. My eldest sister isnt the brainy one, not by a long shot and my middle sister is just purely lazy.
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@astromama (1226)
• United States
7 Feb 07
It fit you in that you were spoiled rotten! So was my little brother, and continues to be to this day! It's kinda my fault, as I adore him and always have. I think it's because I was 5 when he was born, so I was old enough to help, so he's kinda always been 'my' baby. Poor kid! lol.
• United States
7 Feb 07
I'm the second of 7. I think sometimes the stereotype fits, sometimes it doesn't. Just like with all stereotypes. I'm the responsible, mature, "mothering" one out of all my siblings, but thats just my personality. My little sister (the youngest) has a very similar personality. Not so much the "mothering" but thats because she's the youngest so there was no one for her to "mother". I do see that trait coming out more in her recently though with how she interacts with the babies that she babysits and how she talks about her soon-to-be niece.
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@astromama (1226)
• United States
7 Feb 07
Do you have a special connection to her? could it be that she looked up to you and patterned herself after you??
• United States
7 Feb 07
I am the eldest of three girls, and I think that birth order is definitely an influence. Okay, maybe not so much an influence, but I think that there are certain traits of a 'first born' that seem to fit me.
@astromama (1226)
• United States
7 Feb 07
Is it hard to take advice from your younger siblings? My older brother about has a cow if i try to tell him anything. I think it's ingrained in him that he's older than me, needs to protect me, knows better than me, etc. It's funny that no matter how long I live, I'll always be 'younger' than him, even though that matters not at all to other people in society.. but with our families those patterns of behavior follow us our whole lives. Interesting...
@minerc (1373)
• United States
7 Feb 07
I am also a middle child, I do think that my personality reflects being the middle. I don't view things in the same way or have needs for things in the same way as my other siblings.
@astromama (1226)
• United States
7 Feb 07
I definitely feel I'm the least 'needy'... maybe because when I came along there was already a kid around, so I knew how to share from the get-go. I'm more independent and the least like the others.