~*~*~*~Why???~*~*~*~*

February 7, 2007 6:16am CST
do people put so much effort into their wedding but not as much effort into their marriage?
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• Philippines
7 Feb 07
i think it is because of a lot of influences, traditions, romanticism, movies, etc. but i think most people just see the effort that couples put into the wedding because it is the most tangible part of the marriage - it is when people get to take part in the lives of the couple. i can even say that there are more effort put into marriage but a lot of people just can't see it because it is not really into people's business to put their noses on somebody else's marriage.
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• United States
7 Feb 07
That is a very good question! I see couples planning for months on the perfect wedding, only to see them getting divorced or seperated within a year or two. I think sometimes it is for bragging rights about how great their wedding was. Or maybe it is to impress other people on how grand it was. You can buy all the fancy impressive stuff for the wedding, but money cannot buy a good marriage, trust, love, etc. Me and my husband got married with 2 people as our witness. I didn't want the big wedding, and I didn't want to spend the big bucks on the fancy wedding either. I felt I was marrying my husband and that was something between us, not the whole town.
@jillbeth (2711)
• United States
7 Feb 07
I have often wondered that myself! I guess it is too easy to get married, and too hard to stay married. A good marriage requires commitment and self-sacrifice from both people. Too many people aren't willing to work that hard. My husband and I were married in a very small ceremony in my parents' home and we have been married for almost 19 years.
• United States
7 Feb 07
Aside from a trip to the justice of the peace, getting married is very difficult. Especially if you do it as a religious thing since most churches make you take counseling and a test to see if you're ready to do it. As well as dealing with the families. Marriage seems like the easy part, to me. I don't get what people say is so major or difficult about marriage. Or these "huge new responsibilities" are that people talk about.
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@jillbeth (2711)
• United States
8 Feb 07
Yes, times have changed, when we got married the counseling thing wasn't being done too much. I know planning a big wedding can really be stressful, but we had a tiny ceremony with just close friends and family, my mom made the cake, my friend did the flowers, and I bought a white summer dress off the sale rack at J.C. Penney. Luckily, neither of our mothers were control freaks!