what do you do...

United States
February 8, 2007 12:49am CST
when your significant other is giving you the silent treatment for no apparent reason? DO you leave them alone & let them get over whatever is bother them? or Do you try and talk to them & find out whats going on? I tried to talk & he just got a bigger attitude which then made me mad so I left him alone but not without telling him he had no reason to be such a jerk. Haha how would you have handled it?
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@aulivsk (17)
• United States
8 Feb 07
i would normally leave him alone for a couple of hours and i busy myself doing other stuff like household chores or scrapping. and when i try to talk to him again and he is still giving me a silent treatment, i confront him and try to squeeze out from him the reason for being so. then i turn the table down and he always ends up saying sorry for being such a jerk for no apparent reason. in short, i always win...hahaha!
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• United States
8 Feb 07
yeah I usually do too, I just hate the mood swings. I hate coming home from work thinking things will be peachy and for no reason hes looking at me like I just killed his dog. I talked to him during the day too & he was fine. I kept busy too spent time with his sister ignore his crabby attitude tried to talk to him too again but he was rude so oh well to him. he will pay in the morning.
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• United States
8 Feb 07
After you asked what was wrong and he got a bigger attitude then you should have left him alone. Then he could work out what is wrong with out someone pushing him. Then he could come to you and apoligize. When this happens people don't need someone asking what is wrong or pushing them to talk about it. That just makes things worse. If it happens again, just let him know you are there if he wants to talk and just let it be at that.
• United States
9 Feb 07
it is great advise. but its not one that works on him. he is very stubborn & pig headed...me telling him Im there if he wants or needs to talk is a joke to him hes a jerk lol i say it & mean it in a loving way...as odd as that may sound. he didnt come from a family that talked about feelings or even said I love you to one another. no affection at all unless they were in trouble & since they were never allowed to leave the house that never really happened. hes been working on being the opposite of that since we've had our own kids becuase he doesnt want them to be taht way too. He has trouble remembering that sometimes though and needs to be reminded. Thats why when he is being a jerk I have to tell him. & he never apologizes...its something he's done maybe 2 times in the whole 7 years together. He just cant say "Im sorry" but he does it in his own ways...I know its hard for the words to actually come out so I dont push that much. But I know when hes trying to say by his actions.
@brokentia (10396)
• United States
8 Feb 07
I would also confront him. And if he became hypersensitive, I would be thinking that he was seeing someone else. And in turn, I would have to ask him that. Not saying that your partner is doing that. But if my partner was giving me the silent treatment for no reason, they has only lead to one thing. So, yeah, I would be confronting him. And if she got upset, I would have to start digging. But that is my insecurities because I have already been through that situation.
• United States
9 Feb 07
Ive also been in similar situations...so my head starts to go on about stuff like this thats why I like to confront him right away to prevent stuff like that. He was a jerk the whole night but came home fine. I honestly think it was because I came home late. But I never found out why he just wanted to forget it. :|
@minerc (1373)
• United States
8 Feb 07
I use to ask mine what the problem was it would make him more upset, he said he just needed time to think. So I do try now to just leave him alone and he eventually comes to me and we are ok. I like it better this way because we don't get into major arguements. It really depends on the person, because If it were me and I wasnt talking to him I would want him to come to me and find out what was wrong. It just depends some people need the space and others need the attention. I would just leave him alone and let him figure it out when he is ready he will come to you, prepare yourself though to sometimes not ever know why he did the silent treatment to begin with. Good Luck!
• United States
8 Feb 07
yeah I hear ya, his silent treatments are always so random. sometimes its nothing & sometimes its something I did a week ago. I just dont always no. Usually I try to just ignore him but sometimes I get a wild hair up my bum & just wanna smack him til he tells me whats wrong lol I dont but I wanna ;)