My brother is such a flirt!!! He keeps cheating on his 2nd wife!!!

Philippines
February 8, 2007 4:35am CST
My brother was divorced from his 1st wife because he cheated on her. Now that he has a new wife, he still cheats on her!!! His new wife is very pretty, very smart.. I mean, much, much more better than the first one, yet he still manages to cheat on her. My parents and I tried all we could think of, all possible things to make him realize that he is now a married man and should now take his life seriously, yet he never listens!!! I hate him!!! I don't understand why married men cheat on their wives! Can anyone please tell me why???????!! I am affected because I'm his sister, and all I want for him is a good life ---- but he seems to be going the wrong way, AGAIN!!! HELP!!!
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44 responses
• India
8 Feb 07
Salute to your brother....
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• Philippines
8 Feb 07
i dont salut him at all..he shouldn't do that you know..
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• Philippines
9 Feb 07
Khufara is absolutely right. Let's put it this way --- mystyleinside, supposing your husband is cheating on you, would that make you happy? Would you salute your cheating husband? I mean, even if you're not yet married and your boyfriend cheats on you, you would feel like -- I don't know.. maybe you'd feel like shooting him and the girl! Of course, exaggerating a bit, but it's true! You would wish your boyfriend suffers for cheating on you!
• United States
8 Feb 07
some men never learn some sabotage themself because they feel they dont deserve good some just cant be satisfied with twhere they are. i hope his wife knows. sometimes i takes losing everything for people to get their head together
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@shaz6611 (951)
• Australia
8 Feb 07
he lost his first wife because of his cheating it doesn't seem to have had any impact.
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• Philippines
9 Feb 07
Hmmm.... Maybe he's never satisfied with what he has. I mean, yeah... apparently, he isn't, because he's doing things that he knows would eventually ruin his life and those people around him. I hope there wouldn't be a time when he's already lost us all prior to him realizing his mistakes. *Sighs* I never want him to suffer...
@Aussies2007 (5339)
• Australia
8 Feb 07
Your brother is a born loser... He will get what is coming to him eventually... The right woman will destroy him... because women have the law and everything else on their side. Just wait that he has children. Once he has to pay alimony... he won't be able to afford to chase women.
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• Philippines
9 Feb 07
I understand what you're trying to say, however I would never wish that my brother be destroyed in any way. I just hope that he would contemplate on what happened in his past and hopefully, would take his life seriously. I just hope he matures SOON --- I mean, before it's too late, otherwise his marriage will AGAIN be ruined. =(
@shaz6611 (951)
• Australia
8 Feb 07
Unfortunately I don't think your brother will change his ways in a hurry....he wants to have his cake and eat it too. I would say that this marriage is on the way to divorce as well. As to why he is doing it, maybe he needs to know that he is still attractive to other women.
• Philippines
9 Feb 07
I hope not..... I hope and pray that a second occurrence of a divorce be avoided and I do hope he learns to stick to only one cake! Hmpf! What if those women are the one's seducing him? Are we supposed to shoot arrows through their heads? Brutal eh? Just kidding! I mean, if you're a decent woman, you wouldn't cling to someone who's already married, right? What if "that" woman doesn't know anything about it? Well, I hope she does an extensive search if the guy she's having a commitment with is FREE, right? Sheesh... *rolls her eyes in disgust*
@Darkwing (21590)
8 Feb 07
It seems to me that your brother is not ready to settle down and likes to collect trophies! It's really up to his wife to confront him and try to settle him down. She's the one who really suffers through his cheating, and I can't think why she lets him carry on doing it. Maybe the threat of her leaving him might clip his wings a bit. On the other hand, if she doesn't know he's cheating, then this is a bit difficult. Perhaps you would be better to talk to her?
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• Philippines
9 Feb 07
Saddest part is.... she knows. She's aware that my brother is cheating on her and my brother isn't scared even if his wife would threat him of leaving him. =( You are right. He's not yet ready to settle down and he shouldn't have gotten himself in a commitment if he were unsure whether he can handle it or not. But, it happened already. They already have a baby boy.. I hope I have the ability to turn back time... =,(
@kgwat70 (13398)
• United States
8 Feb 07
It is terrible that he cheated on his first wife and even worse that he is still cheating during his second marriage. He apparently does not care about the harm that it has on his wife or the people around him. He does not listen to you or your family so he apparently does not care and feels like he can do whatever he wants. She should divorce him. Did anyone tell his second wife that he cheated on his first wife? not all married men cheat on their wives. Apparently they just love women in general and feel that commitment to one woman is not important and that they can make out with other women during marriage. He may need marriage counseling or psychological counseling.
• Philippines
9 Feb 07
I know! Honestly, his second wife is very much aware of what happened in his first marriage and she is also aware that my brother is cheating on her. She's a good woman. She tries to be patient and understanding. From what I can see, she doesn't want her baby to belong in a broken family.
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@lingli_78 (12852)
• Australia
8 Feb 07
well, i guess i should agree with you that your brother is a flirt... there is a saying that says a leopard can't change its color... which means once a person's character has been shaped, it is so hard to change... looks like your brother is a playboy... i am sorry to say this but if i am his wife, i will definitely divorce him... to me, he is not ready to get married yet and i'm not going to spend my whole life with a man like him... it is really up to his second wife now what she wants to do to him...
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@mikekire (146)
• Nigeria
8 Feb 07
Have you tried finding out what his problem is? It is not normal for him to be flirting from woman to woman.You don't need to hate him. What he needs is your help. You may tell him to go for counselling. He might not know what he is doing to himself.
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• India
8 Feb 07
Stop hating him for his wrong deeds: This will be first step towards the improvement plan. Secondly try out having talks with him on the issue, make him realise his mistakes. get the hep of his wife as well. Even if it doesn't works go for third step. Third step: Ask his wife to have a fake affair with some one whom you can trust.This would leave your brother all burnt from the inside.Soon he would realise his mistakes and most probably work out to rectify them. I know that all I said are not that easy as much as I said, but believe me there is no other way out. I hope that it would work for you.
• Philippines
9 Feb 07
After reading your response, I almost cried... I don't know... Why is it sooooo difficult to have to talk to your brother (heart to heart) who's about 10 years older than you are? He never listens to my parents, nor would he listen to me. I've tried. I told him that if he would never stop doing what he's not supposed to be doing, I will forget having a brother like him. If he ever gets in a second divorce, my parents & I will forget him.
@cheerldr (594)
• Philippines
9 Feb 07
Obviously, your brother isn't ready to settle down yet. May I ask how old is he? Maybe he thinks he's still yuong and he still wants to enjoy his life. But since he's already married, he's a certified cheater. Oh, I dont like flirt guys, really.
@katan22 (327)
• Philippines
9 Feb 07
Mybe the best thing for a man to learn is to do the same thing to him to make him realize how much it hurts when someone gets cheated. You ar right to get mad at him for what he is doing because it is very wrong. Maybe you're brother is meant to live a single life forever and make him realize when he gets old what has made him like that that he has done in the past.
@gloria777 (1678)
• India
9 Feb 07
For cheating it is not necessary that one should get married. A cheat will remain a cheat irrespective of his marital status. You brother need counselling on family and relationships.
@cuddiluk (1523)
• Philippines
9 Feb 07
Only couple can solve this problem. If the wife knew that his husband is cheating then they must seat and talk seriously about it. If the wife doesn't know yet, bring this up to her. Tell her the truth. But she must undergo for proper investigation. For everything must be vividly agreeable and for legal purposes as well, like if the wife wants to appeal this in court. Don't tolerate your brother's wrong notion of betrayal. This is an act of SIN.
@kpbhuvana (392)
• India
9 Feb 07
Its really bad to see such guys, I feel sorry for the girl who married her. Its very rare to get a good husband who is always loving and caring .I think only love can bring him to his sense. As every one has a good heart, you can try to make him understand that "At last there would be no one behind him if he is doing this on for his lifetime". Try to be happy with wat we have than being wavery ."
@venigalla (191)
• India
9 Feb 07
dont think that all married persons like u r brother. they are rare person like u r brother.he should understand when he was divorced from first wife.dont live u r effort making u r brothers life beatiful.try to tell &make him understand dont pull untill it will broken dont get hurted doing this. he was like that due to his environiment & it was also maybe due to the friends circle tooooooo
• India
9 Feb 07
Your brothere is frod with his wife,and his wife is not pretty, matured and lover. His second wife is very beautifull, smart,and metured. So he is flirt and keeps ceating on his second wife i think he is right.
@hariharbhat (1314)
• India
9 Feb 07
Do you know about Astrology ? Do you believe in Astrological Philosophy ? We human beings think we know about all on this earth.But the fact is that we do not know even an inch of this earth.There are several subjects which we do not know and hence we say it is not correct. According to Hindu Astrology, the human life is gudided by seven planets and the mind is controlled and guided by MOON.Hence what ever thoughts originate in human beings , it has the influence of MOON.The movements of the moon,affects the living things on this earth. This you belive or not, you please keep it in mind that the changes would come and a day is there when you appreciate him and his nature of present deeds would be forgotten in future ! If you can send me 1. His exact date of birth, 2. Time of his birth and 3. Place of his birth, I can give you some good guidance about the time when the changes would come in his life.
@neonanda (344)
• India
9 Feb 07
well think u should not support ur brother in this case
@tingyu (5)
• China
9 Feb 07
Oh my God,I have a brother such as your brother.Maybe they have their own mind,We are not worried about them,and it is impossible to change their mind!!!
• Malaysia
9 Feb 07
Your brother may have rushed into his marriages? Perhaps he's not ready to settle down. Or maybe it's the thought of doing the forbidden that turns him on and keeps him at it? Maybe try and talk him out of him and if he really doesn't listen I dont think there's anything you can do about it. At no time should you be the busybody who tells his wife.. (or does she already know?)