Friend or Foe?

Australia
February 8, 2007 5:35am CST
If you have a good friend who is having an affair..would you or wont you tell their partner? Is it any of your business to be telling or just be eaten by guilt everytime you see their partner?
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@jillbeth (2711)
• United States
8 Feb 07
I probably would not tell the partner. I would tell my friend that I did not approve of her behavior and that if she continued that I would not be able to be her friend anymore. I would not give her a cover for the affair, and if the partner asked me directly if I knew if she was having an affair, I would tell him the truth.
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• Australia
10 Feb 07
Yea but its hard to tell a fren u dont approve and not be their fren anymore if they dont change eh! Life is so hard!
@AnnaB87 (761)
• United States
10 Feb 07
I would hope to never have to be in this situation. I would like to think that I would tell on the person, because I know that if I had a friend and my friend found out or knew that my husband was cheating I would want to know. I would feel so much guilt over knowing and not telling that I would probably put a lot of distance between myself and this friend as I would never really trust this person again. I mean if they will cheat on the one the love what might they do towards someone who is just a friend? Someone who will cheat (as in have an affair with someone else) is not a good friend to have, in my opinion. AnnaB87
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@Bizziebod (3526)
10 Feb 07
Hi, To me if a good friend was having an affair then they would have a good talking to by me! Luckily I don't think any of my friends would do that but if they did I think I would have to stop seeing them for awhile - I would tell them why though and would try to make them see sense and would tell them I would always be there for them but I would not encourage it in anyway at all!
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@msqtech (15226)
• United States
9 Feb 07
It isnt your place to tell on your friend your place is to be honest with the friend not their spouse or lover. I dont understand why you would feel guilty if you werent lying or doing something wrong. I would avoid lying or enabling the affair though. I wont be a partner in it.
• Australia
10 Feb 07
Yes i agree but what would make me gulity is when the partner is around and you cant look em in the eyes knowing ur frens secret.
@merkava (1226)
• Philippines
10 Feb 07
I had half a dozen situations regarding this. I always talk with my friend first, the one who is cheating. I'm telling them that it's not right. I won't tell on them but neither will I hang around with them anymore because If I kept on tagging along with them I'd even feel more guilt then I'll just burst and go ahead and tell on them. They're old enough to know what's wrong from right. Maybe if I really was pissed off at what my friend is doing to his/her partner I won't need to warn my friend first.... I'll go ahead and not hang around with them from the beginning and just send an anonymous letter to their partner. That way I won't be suspected of being involved because I didn't hang around with my friend once.