Should I be ashamed?

United States
February 8, 2007 8:06am CST
As many of you know, from my other discussions, my sisters' life was taken when she was 4yrs. old. I still today have grief over her. But to help me with this grief, I try to make it a positive thing. I feel that she gave her life so that I could live and share my experience with others and to help others who fall victim to child abuse! I also feel that she gave her life for me so that I may experience life. She gave her life so I could survive in this world! So, should I feel guilty for thinking this way? By any means am I happy that my sister has passed at such a young age. I am horrified by this everyday, even after almost 20 years. What do you think?
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4 responses
@Decarus (146)
• Malaysia
9 Feb 07
yeah...U are right...Much worse things might happen after that...Now she can get aways from those pain...
• United States
9 Feb 07
Yes, she is safe now! But it is time for people to get off their a** and do something!
@cdparazo (5769)
• Philippines
9 Feb 07
I cant realy picture what a 4-year old kid could have done to save your life or could even begin to imagine what you and your sister could have gone through. But one thing that i know is that everything happens for a reason and each one of us is here to fulfill a pre-ordained purpose and there is no cause to be guilty. Your sister may have been born to enrich your life so that yours would also enrich the lives of other people that you are going to touch. Your sister may also be your spirit guide or guardian, the one who will always be with you even if you dont see her. She is also meant to ensure that you fulfill your journey or your purpose and i bet that she is smiling down at you right now.
• United States
9 Feb 07
Thank you! Only God has the answers for me, I guess! One day when I meet my maker, I will know all my answers then! Until then I will do what I feel if best or which ever way God leads me! Again thank you for your response!
@kims374 (300)
• United States
8 Feb 07
do not feel guilty....I have always believed things happen for a reason; even though this was something so terrible, you now have a "calling" in life.
• United States
8 Feb 07
Thank you! I try not to feel guilty, but when i hear the words, it makes me feel selfish sometimes.
• United States
23 Feb 07
I wouldn't feel guilty or anything. After all it's not your fault that your sister's life ended so soon, and the way that it did. It's the parents fault for doing it to her and letting it happen. Just be thankful that you little sister doesn't have to suffer anymore. And she's with God looking down on you. And she's waiting for you to be with her, when you have finished doing what you need to do in your life. I'm sure that she will be very proud of you and the things you are trying to do with child abuse. Look on the positive sides of things, you will one day see her again.