My son is being bullied in school. How do I Help him deal with this?

@bjskid (322)
United States
February 8, 2007 11:31am CST
Without instigating more fallout with his peers. It is all verbal and he is very sensitive. He just started middle school and is dealing with abandonment issues from his natural mother. I want to help him develope a thick skin without alienating his fellings. Any suggestions?
2 responses
@kc_159_98 (144)
• United States
8 Feb 07
What kind of things are being said? I mean is he being teased about weight, looks, his family? I could tell you to tell him to just ignore it, but I know that's impossible. My Dad had told me to turn it around on them. Like if they are making fun of a shirt that I wear, I was supposed to smile at them and say something like "Thanks for the compliment." or "I haven't had a compliment like that in 15 minutes, thanks." It's not easy to do, but it does help after a while. The bullies figure out that picking on you isn't fun anymore and they move on to others. Sometimes anyways. There are some that will start teasing about the thanks too. The best thing is for him to not let the bullies get to him when they can see him. Being Bullied hurts, but showing them that it bothers you only makes them want to do it more. Tell him it's okay to be upset about it, but try to not show it untill he gets home. Eventually he will figure out a way to deal with it on his own. Just be there for him untill then.
@bjskid (322)
• United States
8 Feb 07
Nice, thanks for you suggestion buddy!
@cassidy22 (2975)
• United States
8 Feb 07
Have you considered therapy for him to handle his issues with his mother, so he can learn better coping skills and stress management for heavy burdens on a young boy? Also, getting him involved in things that will BOOST his self esteem and confidence will help him be able to realize that BULLIES are just that, bullies, and what they say isn't true. He needs to be able to believe in himself - so things like sports or music or whatever to help him find something he is good at, and peers who will accept him for who he is. if the bully is really crossing the line, you can bring it up with the principal at your school, and let them handle disciplining the bully, or contacting his parents.