Relation with sister-in-law

India
October 12, 2006 3:24am CST
Folks. Right now I am going through very serious problem. I am having physical relationship with my sister-in-law (my wife's sister). my wife came to know about this last week, and due to this our relation has been deterorating day by day. What should I do now. Is there any way out to get out of this mess. I love my wife very much but I don't want to leave my sis-in-law in the middle of the road. So please help me. thanks
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@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
12 Oct 06
well your up the Sh!% creek without a paddle! and your wife should be kicking you both out !!!!!! And IF you loved your wife so much like you say then you would not have even looked at the sister in law.. And now you have ruined a relationship between 2 sisters that will take a long time to fix and for them to trust each other again if ever. But you better start drawing up the divorce papers because you may need them. and i wouldn't be surprised if the sister in law dumped you too. Cheating is not something that i would never forgive my hubby for never. because marriage is sacrid and you just probably spoiled the best thing that ever happened to you because you couldn't keep it in your pants. well you derserve what you get and plus if she does ever forgive you you had better not even look twice at another woman imagine how the holidays are going to feel like and be like going to be like enough tension to cut with a butter knife. you have just ruined the rest of the year for your and her family....hope a little affair made you strong enough to clean up the mess you made no sympathy here!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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• Philippines
12 Oct 06
very well said. i would have liked to say the same to him. but i am a brutal person and i might be too brutal so i opted with a very short response to his post.
@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
13 Oct 06
I swear I'm not a man hater just a hater of men who cheats. If they gave their wife as much attention as they do other women then she'd be the happiest in the world and wouldn't have to nag or yell about things. I think a man's first priority should be his woman then everything else.
• United States
13 Oct 06
good comment cuz i agree with ya maybe ineed to boot mine out
@somesh1984 (1299)
• India
13 Oct 06
change ur religion.........to islam........
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• India
13 Oct 06
I won't do that.
@i_agree_but (1185)
• United Arab Emirates
12 Oct 06
You are not true to yourself. You are not loving your wife. If loved these things would not have happend.
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• United States
21 Oct 06
I agree... you obviously don't love your wife in the true sense if you had an affair with her sister. And... it seems like you care more about taking care of number 1 than doing the right thing. Also, what do you see in a woman who clearly has so little respect for her family?
• India
16 Oct 06
well, bro.....the main thing here is u r in deep problem.....and to make it straight forward....u have to choose one and only one of these two....and as i know and as i believe, every problem has a solution in itself...and the best possible solution according to me will be to have a nice and clean discussion, where in u make it clear to her that, u need one more chance and be careful....u got to stick to whatever u promose. so take her out tonite, then have a talk to her and ask her, one line, "Honey i know i have done a mistake, and we are having a bad time in our relationship, but the fact is I cant think life without you..so please give me a chance and tell me what do you want and how do you want it to happen"...and then give her sometime to think.....this may not sound that great, but this works......but the only thing u need to maintain and show here is honesty.....in ur relation and honesty in the sords u speak......last line, as the Nike's punch line goes, "JUST DO IT"...and of course i am waiting to know abt the results....thank you
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@nishdan01 (3055)
• Singapore
13 Oct 06
I think this question is posted for getting too many responses.The incident mentioned is not a reality is what I feel after reading the discussion. If it is real,apologise towife and leave your sis-in-law.
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@sedel1027 (17854)
• United States
13 Oct 06
If you really loved and respected your wife, you and her sister would not have done this to her. YOu need to give your wife her space and leave your sister-in-law. You should remove her completely from your life and do everything in your power to save your marriage if you really love your wife.
• India
13 Oct 06
I know it's bad. But What I can do now.
@sedel1027 (17854)
• United States
13 Oct 06
Tekk your sister in law that you are not going ot have a relationship with her anymore. Keep her out of your life, block her number on your cell, block her email address, and block her on all your messengers. Talk to your wife, apologize, and ask her what she wants to do - tell her you will go to counseling to work out your problems. Surprise her with a trip and tell her that you know it can't make up for what you have done, but you want to show her how much you love and appreciate her.
@sedel1027 (17854)
• United States
13 Oct 06
If she is pysically and mentally able to take care of herself, you need to have her find a job and move out. That is the only way to save the relationship with your wife (if she wants to save your marriage). Whatever you decide to do, make the decision with your wife.
• United States
12 Oct 06
If you love your wife like you say then why would you be worried about your sister in law? Do you still want to have relations with your sister in law? I think you want your cake and to eat it to because if you loved your wife you would have never put yourself in that situation to allow this affair to occur.
• India
13 Oct 06
I still love my wife very much. Should I marry my sister-in-law. What should I do.
@sedel1027 (17854)
• United States
13 Oct 06
Why would you marry your sister-in-law? If you love your wife, you should stay with her and make the marriage work. If not, you should get a divorce and get away from the family altogether.
• United States
13 Oct 06
I think you should divorce your wife before you cause her anymore pain and agony. Why would you marry your sister in law? Just so you can cheat on her too? I feel you need to be single and not married because you obviously can't and don't want to stay faithful. You know what the right thing to do is. I pray that you don't hurt your wife anymore.
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• Philippines
12 Oct 06
your sister in law should be left in the middle of the road. that is, if you really love your wife.
• India
12 Oct 06
Suggest me how I can ditch her when she has everything to me like my wife.
• Philippines
12 Oct 06
she did not have the decency of keeping her hands off her sister's husband. she is a very bad sister and and you are a very bad husband. think of it this way: what if it was your wife who fell in love with your own brother and they consumated that love? would you be able to look at them both and not see red? or even black? you not only ruined your own family but also ruined your wife's family as well. if i were in your wife's situation, i would dump both my husband and my sister. as for you, you deserve to lose everything.
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@bhchy1 (6052)
• United States
20 Oct 06
She has no respect for her sister if she took her man..tell her to move on!
• India
14 Oct 06
give me ur sister in law .i will handle her.if u r not agree ur wife will leave u............
• India
16 Oct 06
Where are you from
• India
16 Oct 06
i m from kerala.
• United States
13 Oct 06
You do NOT love your wife, pure and simple. Love would not allow such things to happen. You loved yourself so much that you didn't care what you did. I cannot understand why a person would ever think it was right not have an affair. And to expect anyone to feel pity for your or try to help you out of your situation...you made your bed...now lie in it alone.
• India
13 Oct 06
I know i am in mess. Should I marry my sister-in-law to somebody else. Will that make easy way out.
• United States
13 Oct 06
Why do you think you deserve the easy way out? You shouldn't be married to either of them as you only love yourself.
• India
16 Oct 06
hey man ,if you wanted to love so many girls,then why you married a lady and spoiled her life??????
• India
16 Oct 06
i think you must be severely punished for this... think whether it was your own sis........
@netizen (534)
• India
15 Oct 06
It is your fault to have relationship with your sis-in-law and both of you were selfish. Just leave your sis-in-law atleast now and get her (your sis-in-law) married into another innocent(?) man to start a new life.
• India
16 Oct 06
I am also thinking on the same line, but sis-in-law says she can't live without me.
• United States
15 Oct 06
What did you expect you knew what you were doing. You were just lusting. How would you be leaving your sister in law in the middle of the road she knows you are married to her sister. Wow what a tangled web we weave
• India
15 Oct 06
nice answer boss
@riia0033 (345)
• India
14 Oct 06
what u did is really not gd
• India
14 Oct 06
hey its his fate
@ssh123 (31100)
• India
13 Oct 06
Is your sister-in-law having another sister? To get rid of two, go to third one........
• India
13 Oct 06
Are you making fun of my situation.
• Philippines
3 Jan 07
well, it is really very hard to escpe from that mess.i knew some people who have two wives living with him....if you really love both your wife and your siter-in- law, maybe you could set your self free by being honest to both of them...try to tel your wife all about your relationship with your sister in law..of course, you have to consider the consequences in doing that but don't give up...just be patient.....maybe she can undersand your situation....or maybe you can do it by making some love before teling her.......
@Rumble (523)
• United States
20 Nov 06
Id say your screwed on this matter, you made a mistake and go on. Remember it takes 2 to tango. Good Luck and I hope you got a good lawyer.
• India
21 Oct 06
I think its bad...u gotta be commited man...
@pusiket (1759)
• Philippines
21 Oct 06
chose which is which
@tmpatton (66)
• United States
21 Oct 06
okay basically put you can't have your cake and eat it too. you have to decide who means more to you.