Are you married to your first Love???

@Jleivang (374)
India
February 9, 2007 10:14am CST
I heard that first love is never a success though it is the most special one. So, are you still with your first love? Are you married to him/her???? Please share your experiences.
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• United States
9 Feb 07
I am married to my first love. We have been together since i was 15 and he was 17. We got married when we were 21 and 23. We have two wonderful children ages 12 and 9. We have had alot of ups and downs but we keep going. Communication is the key..the older we have gotten the better it has gotten...It all depends on the individuals i believe.
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@Jleivang (374)
• India
10 Feb 07
that's wonderful, thanks for sharing your story.
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@Commerce (647)
• India
12 Feb 07
My First love was funny. We were like Tom and Jerry. We didn't know anything about love. No date, no kiss, no hug but was fighting since our 6th standard till 12th standard:P Fortunately we broke up ( elopped with a guy:P) in 12th class. Thanks for putting up this topic. Now I got the time to refresh my mind for my first love.:)
@Jleivang (374)
• India
13 Feb 07
:-) Thanks for sharing your experience.
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@Commerce (647)
• India
17 Feb 07
ehhehe no problem.. how is my response? LOL
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@Jleivang (374)
• India
17 Feb 07
Your response is honest, and I'm glad you shared it without any hesitation. It's good to know that you are over with your puppy love. My best wishes to you, as you're going to start a new beginning. May you feel the true essence of love and its sweetness.
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@mommycrat (148)
• United States
9 Feb 07
Yes and yes. I met him when I was 12 and he was 16. I couldn't stand him, he barely noticed me. We were both in the debate club, so we saw each other quite a bit. I developed a tolerance for him; and as we both grew up, we grew to be friends. The summer I turned 15, we went on a trip for debate. He'd already graduated, but his mom was the coach so he went anyway. On that trip, we saw sides of each other we'd never shown before. Both of us left knowing we'd be married, but didn't want to admit it. We grew closer and closer until "luv yas" turned to "love yas" turned to "I love yous." It was never a "fall in love" situation, more of a "grow to love" relationship. We never kissed until our wedding day (incidentally, it was both of our first kiss period), so we spent all our time talking and getting to know everything about each other. We got engaged the week after my graduation, married six months later, and 16 months after that we have a beautiful 4 m/o baby boy.
@Jleivang (374)
• India
9 Feb 07
That's simply amazing!!! Awesome. Thanks for sharing your marvellous story. Best wishes to the three of you.
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• United States
9 Feb 07
:) Thank you. We are very blessed. I thank God that He put us together every time I see my friends still caught up in the dating game..
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@manong05 (5029)
• Philippines
18 Feb 07
I met my first love when I was 17 and we got married the same year which was very unusual. That was 36 years ago and will be celebrating our 37th anniversary next month. We are looking forward to having more anniversaries ahead of us. Cheers.
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@Jleivang (374)
• India
14 Dec 07
Thanks for responding! do not forget to invite me on ur golden anniversary. m looking forward to it.
@ajinomoto23 (1057)
• Philippines
18 Feb 07
This classmate thinks I am his first love. I am not married to him, but every time he sees me, he take makes an intense look at me. Maybe he keeps his love for me. I think his love will always be there. He told my brother about his intention to propose but my brother discouraged him. My brother does not want me to marry him.
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@Jleivang (374)
• India
18 Feb 07
AW... wad abt u? did u ever have any feelings for him?
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• Philippines
10 Feb 07
Yes I am married to my first love, we knew each other since we were a kid. our relationship id developmental, meaning we became friend first for we are active in the same organization when we were in elementary and secondary education, we were boyfriend and girlfriend for 6 years then got married after college, now we are going to celebrate our 18th wedding anniversary few months from now.
@Jleivang (374)
• India
10 Feb 07
That's wonderful. Congratulations and best Wishes for your 18th anniversary. Thanks for the response.
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@MAX1966 (1030)
• Netherlands
9 Feb 07
no. my marriage was a great mistake. i havent found my true love(yet) maybe i never will.
@Jleivang (374)
• India
10 Feb 07
Don't be disheartened....Have faith in yourself....you will surely find your true love.
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9 Feb 07
No i am not with my first love and im glad to say im not. He's probably in jail or got kids to 5 different woman. Back then my character judgement was very bad and I would fall for guys hard even although they would not be suitable for a long term commitment. Thats probably what made them all the more fun. Lol. I just realsied that maybe unreliable guys had all the girls falling for them when they were younger and it didnt matter but as girls were getting old enough to worry about the future then they get absolutely no attention. Just a thought!
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@Jleivang (374)
• India
10 Feb 07
Lols...you're right. But it's true that young girls often fall for good for nothing type of guys:-)
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@nicky35 (749)
9 Feb 07
im 35,i have 3 kids and im not married to their dad.i started seeing their dad when i was 15 and he was 16 and we were together until i was pregnant with our third child who is now 2 and a half,we have known each other for 20 years!!i would have married him at one time,but not now,he is such an angry person.ive never had another boyfriend,ive only ever been with him.i tell my nine year old daughter that she should go to university and get the best education and have a great time with friends,definately dont rush into being tied down.i have three fantastic kids and i wouldnt change it for the world but i had 11 lonely years before they arrived being ruled by a selfish man.i wouldnt advise it.
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@Jleivang (374)
• India
9 Feb 07
Thanks for sharing your story. You are so patient, I appreciate your courage. I'm sure your kids will one day make you proud.
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@PoeTalker (715)
• United States
9 Feb 07
No, and I definatley wouldn't suggset it. Thats how most divorces happen. They meet in highschool, college or end up getting pregnant so they get married. The love falls of, people change and the relationship falls ruining everything. First loves are usually ones you compromise things for. Usually, you don't actually know what you want in a relationship so you settle for less or maybe you hit the jack pot and the other person settled for less. These are the relationships where the cheating occurs. It's great for about 2 or 3 years and then things will go dramatically down hill... but thats just my opinion. Experience = Knowledge = Decisions = Good Judgement = Happiness
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@Jleivang (374)
• India
9 Feb 07
Very scientific response. I like it. Thanks for replying.
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• India
26 Aug 07
Nope. She is happily married and I am still unmarried... But I think it is good to be married to the first love. Going around here and there is not good!
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@nkadam (77)
• India
30 Aug 07
Why are yo belive in such gossips.If you gone from this experience? then it is okey that you dont belive in such things.But i am belive in these things because i am now married with my first and last love.And I am really happy in my one year marriage life.
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@xiuluoelly (1225)
• China
29 Aug 07
My first love has ended years ago, my first love Valentine's already married, but the wedding is not me, I had thought they would love it, but then I found out it is the future many variables, healthy people only for their own comfort.
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@arkaf61 (10882)
• Canada
28 Aug 07
First love is usually not the most mature of loves, and sometimes a marriage coming from that would be a disaster.It doesn't mean it can't work, but that is very rare. First love comes at a time of discovery and it's kind of more like a learning tool than the real thing, maybe that's why it leaves such fond memories and lots of questions marks ( what if? if it hadn't ended what would have happened? etc etc etc ) Often people think back at it and wonder at times and that can be normal if it's taken into context. It's appeal it's mostly the fact that it didn't develop into anything and because often it's like an unfinished business, something that always leaves people wondering what would have happened if...? If brought back to these people's present, more often than not would be dissatisfying and discarded. A Lot of people think more about first love when they are in low periods of their lives or relationships. This is normal too, but just brings back the past in a fantasy light that has little to do with reality. Hence the appeal :)
• United States
28 Aug 07
Yes I have been married to him for 12 and half yrs now..The funny part is... when I was 13 I baby sat for one of his girlfriend. He was 21 at the time. I had the biggest crush on him it wasn't funny.. Well they broke up and I didn't see him or anything till I was 17 and we met eachother all over again..That first week we dated (i guess that is what u can call it).That weekend we went out and his daughter that was 7 at the time said to us that we was gonna get married. We bpth was embaressed about it..Later that night we went out with a cpl of friends.He got a little drunk I drove..On our way home we stopped a Perkins to get something to eat. And he asked me what I thought of what his daughter said I told him I would do it. And I asked him the same question and he said he would do it...Then he said he will ask me again in the morning to make sure...Well as you know he asked me again and I said I would do it..He told me to call my mom and tell her.. When I told her she asked what day I said March 25 and then she said I can't cause she had this bowling tournament..SO then I told her how about March 18th and everything was fine with that date..So we was married church wedding and a big reseption 3weeks later...LOL Kinda fast huh! But we are still married have 3 wonderful daughters...We are apart right now but who knows what is gonna happen?
• India
18 Dec 07
I cannot marry the unknown person , but i didnt start my love to my scool,college , after i got job only i thoght now its the time to take a right decision so i started to love a good guy i know him before also . We have to plan to inform our parents as soon as possible ,then we want our support also surely they will agree we both are dont take any bad decision then it will be make arrange marriage .Suppose they will not agry means we will wait when they will agry till that time thats our plan ...
• United States
16 Dec 07
yes, i am with my first love - and we're getting married on the 29th of this month. thirteen days! i'm so excited, haha.
• Malaysia
4 Sep 07
Well... let me tell you this. Yes! Lol. I am married to my first love! Lol. Maybe you wouldn't believe it, but it is true. I have been married to my husband for almost nine years now, and by the 31st of October, it is going to be nine years. I admit that before he came into my life, there are a couple of persons who had a crush on me but I didn't seriously thought I love them. I accepted their invitation to lunch and dating together but I didn't feel any spark of love being with them. So I don't consider both of that as love. After nine years, our love is as strong as ever and I think we are going to love each other no matter what. We have fought numerous times but after the fight we became closer, not drifting apart. I am very grateful that I found this love. Thank you God for this. And to you Jleivang, have a nice day. God bless you, and I hope you'll find your love too.