Do mixed-race children have a harder time?

United States
February 9, 2007 12:32pm CST
I have a beautiful son who is now 16 months old. He is half white and half hispanic. I had a friend, who is a preschool teacher, tell me that my son will have a harder time in school than other children because he is mixed race. I don't see how something like this could be in this society! We're all so mixed these days, I can't understand why that kind of prejudice can still be around. Do any of you have stories to share like this? Do you have mixed children? Do they get teased, or are things OK?
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• United States
9 Feb 07
My nephew is mixed but the only way people truly know is if he tells them. I have never heard him have any problems. He does however lean more to his hispanic side because that is the population majority were he lives. I have never heard him ever complain about being a mixed child he is just happy to be who he is. I think that is owed greatly to his mother because she really teaches her children to have no shame about who they are.
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@harwoodkp (285)
• United States
9 Feb 07
I am part indian and white. I have been teased by white people and Indian people. Everyone gets pushed around growing up. I found that if you are good at something and look beyond the teasing, they will end up being highly respected.
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@momto2b2g (217)
• United States
9 Feb 07
I don't have mixed race children but my kids have friends who are mixed. They don't seem like they have a problem with others because of it. It might also depend where you live. I'm sure there are still places that have issues with it. I don't think that your friend should have told you your son would have trouble in school. Is she refering to preschool? If a preschool child gives another child a problem because of their race, it is because of their parent or some other adult. Having 3 teenagers and one preteen, I've been around lots of preschoolers in the past. They accept you for who you are. Your just another kid to play with. Maybe it's your friend who has the problem with it. Just a thought because like you said, we're all so mixed these days. I wouldn't worry about it. If you worry, your son could pick up on it and think he is different. No one is different. Raise your beautiful son to be the best that he can be.
• United States
9 Feb 07
I think life is 90% what you make of it and only 10% what you are given or how you are treated. People of mixed race used to be rare, and often teased. Now it is normal and not rare, so people are not teased like they used to be for it.
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@lra7469 (19)
• United States
10 Feb 07
http://www.mylot.cc/lra7469 would like for you to see my mixed family
@lra7469 (19)
• United States
10 Feb 07
i have 3 mixed boys ages 14,11,7 they are white hispanic from my side and black form their father & unfortunatly i must say with the birth of my 1st i felt that his being biracial would matter to any one well i was so wrong even before he was born my grandfather whom is white as white gets and married to my grandmother whom is hispanic with dark skin says to me when is my little n----- gonna be born so i can put him to work i was so crushed i was only 17 years old at the time & racism up til that moment was ever an issue in my life. thankfully after my son was born (the same day, same day of th week, & the exact time of day as my grandma only 55 years later & her 1st great grandkid)well my grandpa automatically fell in love with my son, my son was the 1st great grand kid, and the pride & joy of my granfathers life until he passed away. unfortunatly my grandma has never been or wanted to be close to any of my boys although most would think wow having your 1st great grandkid be born the exact time, day, day of week as you is something that rarely happens & most would feel is a special link to the two but he is now 14 & never really spent any sort of time with my grandmother ...1 more incident before i must go when my oldest was in kindergarten i walked up on the side of his class and just happen to hear this black kid teasing my son because he had a white/hispanic mother my son never had to face something like racism re:his mom or his dad i tried to keep him away from any possible exposure to that type of ignorance well he cried & cried and asked so many questions some so hard to answer or explain to him i got so mad & upset contacted the principal and she (a black woman) i thought would be understanding and concerned about this type of issue being brought up at her scholl well i cant tell you how very wrong i was & i was in utter disbelief over this type of out right racism in the mid 90's in californias bay area i mean come on people let it go kids dont deserve to be hurt because of others thoughts feelings believes what ever you may want to call it i call it ignorance... so just be aware of whom your kid plays with & who's house they may go to visit and most important teach them from the time they can understand enough to possibly read & or write teach them about racism and how you feel about it & let them know that as advanced as our world is today & will be some of the people & their minds are still narrow minded and everyone has the right to feel belive what ever they want just let you kid know that it dosnt have to affect them in any way cause we are all special & yes we are all mixed with 1 race or another
@vokey9472 (1489)
• United States
10 Feb 07
I am hispanic and I am married to a white man. So, our son is like yours, half white and half hispanic. No one can even tell. He is very fair, with brown hair that has blonde streaks in it, light brown eyes. When he is with me, people tell me that he looks just like me, but when he is with his father, people tell his dad that he looks just like daddy. At his preschool there are a number of bi-racial children and no one even notices. If they do, no one says anything.
@Lyrica (127)
• Canada
10 Feb 07
I don't really think that mixed children will get bullied. I have a friend who's half African and half Chinese and he's extremely popular. And he relates very well to both cultures. Not to mention it amuses us endlessly to hear him speak Chinese! He's actually very fluent. I also have a cousin who's half white and half chinese and she's never experienced racism or prejudice. I think children of mixed races are common enough now that other children won't find it unusual.
@cowgirl2701 (2081)
• United States
10 Feb 07
My grand daughter is 12 months old and is black/white. My daughter is expecting again with another daughter and she is hispanic/white. I have 2 nephews who are hispanic/white. They have lots of friends and no one ever teases them. In fact the girls love them. They say they are so cute. Everyone always comments on how beautiful my grand daughter is. Today you don't see the problems with racism as much as you used to. It is still there but not as bad. You son will be fine. He has you to help him through life.
• United States
10 Feb 07
I don't have mixed children but I think you will find in preschool, the kids won't honestly know the difference and they won't know until they are older once they hear a grown up make comments or another student make a comment that he heard a grown up say. It isn't children who are mean--it is the adults--not necessarily parents but adults who teach our young ones. And if they make rude comments they yes the children will pick up on it.
• United States
10 Feb 07
I've always thought biracial children were the most beautiful children, like they get the best of the races represented. They often look like they could model. It's sad if such prejudice still exists. And no, miscegenation is nothing new, it's been going on since the beginning or time.
@anyablue (363)
• United States
10 Feb 07
I am half white and half latina. I didn't have a difficult time growing up. Most people didn't even know I was of mixed heritage. It didn't even matter. I had (and have) the attitude that I can embrace two wonderful cultures. The only thing I have encountered is curiosity. I'm surprised that your friend would feel that way. There are so many biracial and multiracial children nowadays, that it shouldn't matter.
• India
10 Feb 07
hi my name is praveen see in lukedermic from my childhood same problem brown skin and white patches. but i never face such a problem. you know childrensunderstand they should not teease because it will hurt. so i think yuo should not worry about it & let your child mied with other children
@soldenski (2504)
• United States
10 Feb 07
I am half white, half mexican, and I have never expierenced any racisim in school. I don't know maybe because I was around mostly mexican kid's. I don't know of any child who is 100% one race. I think it'll be ok for your son
@dbcraff (162)
• United States
9 Feb 07
I don't have any mixed children either. But my kids have friends that are mixed and I have freinds that have children that are mixed. And I have never heard of any of them having any problems because they are mixed race. I think it is more common now than it use to be and acceptable.
@mobyfriend (1019)
• Netherlands
9 Feb 07
I don't have children of a mixed race but several friends of mine have and what I see with them that they make their children strong and independent and proud of themselves and what they accomplish so they can cope with issues like racism.